My wife is having sex with her, I feel inferior to her

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Muzi Li:

My wife is good in the hall and in the kitchen. She is good at making appointments with friends and is loyal to me. , Logically speaking, I should be proud of having such a wife, but under the current situation, I am not happy at all, because my wife is simply lusting after her and of course she won’t let her have sex.

When I first got married, I was an innocent little boy who didn’t smoke or drink, so I was able to cope with my wife spending time with her in bed every night. However, as my son grew up, I I had social events at work that I couldn’t refuse, and I learned to smoke and drink. Sometimes I couldn’t go home in the early hours of the morning, which made my wife suspicious of me. Even if I told her that I didn’t want to get drunk, she just wanted to be safe. If it happens, I am still forced to pay the "public food" twice a day, and I just want to cry without tears.

As I grow older, and the effects of tobacco and alcohol on my body, I feel a little powerless when it comes to sexual intercourse. However, if I don’t agree to my wife’s request for intercourse, she may have sex for more than ten days or even He didn't say a word to me for half a month. For this reason, I had to bite the bullet and agree every day. For this reason, I often felt that it was really difficult to live a lifetime, and it was very difficult to balance career and family. More difficult.

I'm not afraid of your jokes. I seem to have a phobia of going home now. Sometimes I even deliberately find trouble to make my wife angry, and then deliberately have a cold war with her, because every time I have a cold war, she won't take the initiative to talk to me. During this period, I was able to make good adjustments to my body and mind.

To be fair, my wife was worried about my son and me. Several times during the Cold War, I found my wife sitting alone in front of the balcony crying quietly. Seeing that scene, I was actually very heartbroken. I was also very distressed. At that moment, I had the urge to seek peace with my wife, but for a moment, I thought that once we reconciled, my wife would show her true nature as a lustful sister, so I could only ignore my wife's tears.

Nowadays, I have a feeling that no matter how I manage my marriage, I feel that I am not a human being inside and out.

To be honest, I do have some friends who are keeping lovers outside marriage, but I have never thought of provoking a mistress. I have always felt that finding a mistress is a business that only loses money but does not make any money. , it’s better to take my wife and son on a trip.

I think that I am a very self-disciplined person in life, but why can’t I get the understanding and trust of my wife? Why does she have to have frequent sex to prove it? Where is my loyalty?

Reply to blogger:

First, due to the differences in the roles that couples play in the family, couples have different emotional needs. The most direct reason why your wife has become a horny girl now is that you deprived her of the time to stick to you with necessary social interactions. For this reason, she feels that she has no sense of security.

2. She did not explicitly suspect you of cheating, but she assumed in her heart that the fact of your cheating was established because she had no evidence of your cheating. For this reason, she could only force you to do so. Use the method of "frequently handing in public food" to consume your energy.

3. What you care about is what you value most. The deeper you love, the more you will fight to occupy it. In life, there are indeed some men who do not want to bring their wives to participate in carnivals together. On the one hand, they do not want to be called by their friends as henpecked. On the other hand, women do show coyness when attending friends' gatherings because of their husbands. pinch, thereby disrupting the carnival atmosphere. However, women really want to have the right to know about their husband's behavior, that is, seeing is believing. For this reason, in order not to make his wife suspicious, a man can occasionally arrange some family dinner parties.

Fourth, I want to use your story to tell some petty married women that men will occasionally be greedy for wine, men will occasionally be obsessed with brothers’ gatherings, and men will occasionally long for free space. These behaviors are related to cheating. It has nothing to do with you, and it has nothing to do with whether you love you or not. For this reason, smart women should give men some trust and understanding. Of course, for men, especially middle-aged men, you should always remind yourself that your body is yours. You are no longer young. If you can't do it, try to do as little as possible.