Indeed, human nature is untestable: no matter how good friends are, they can't share these three things.

Life is a long road. On this road, we will spend a long time playing with friends and drinking together. Friends are like family members we choose on our own initiative, and they are important wealth in life.

But friends are like a double-edged sword, sometimes they can bring us convenience, and sometimes they can hurt us to death.

"Hating people for a long time is like water, and you can make waves casually." The human heart is not water, even if there is no wind, it may make waves and cause some unexpected changes. This is also the reason why the old people often say "only three words when meeting people", which is true in the old society, especially in today's materialistic society.

For example, some sensitive topics, once your mouth can't block the door, it means that you have opened the test of friendship. This kind of test often leads to the deterioration or end of friendship because of human weakness. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship is, some things can never be shared with friends.

1. Salary income

For most ordinary people without rich family background, high education and social relations, monthly salary and bonus are their only source of income.

The importance of income to migrant workers is self-evident. It not only determines the quality of daily life, but also relates to future life planning, where to buy a house, when to get married, how many children to have and so on.

Therefore, everyone is extremely sensitive to salary. If you reveal it to your friends at will, it will easily lead to some bad consequences.

Zhang Wenhe grew up together. He is the elder brother who wears the same pair of trousers. Both of them are from poor families, and their parents have no education, so they can only work hard to maintain their basic expenses. Two people appreciate each other and become good friends who cheer each other up.

As a computer major chosen by the university, Zhang Wen found a job in Internet IT soon after graduation, and his salary was considerable. At the end of the year, he was delighted to find a good buddy and shared his monthly salary and year-end bonus.

I thought good brotherhood would protect me, but he was wrong. Due to his poor major, Wang Zhe found a sales position in a medium-sized company after many twists and turns. Due to lack of experience and contacts, not only the work is very hard, but also the income is very average.

Therefore, after listening to Wang Wen's "showing off", he was calm on the surface, but in fact his heart was already surging.

Wang Zhe made up an excuse and borrowed 50,000 yuan from Zhang Wen. 50,000 yuan is not much, but it is also a huge sum for people who just graduated less than two years ago. Zhang Wen transferred it to him without thinking. Unexpectedly, his kindness did something bad.

When Mr Zhang urges Wang Zhe to pay back the money, Wang Zhe always shirks it. In the end, he didn't even answer the phone or answer the message. Zhang Wen finally understood that the other party just didn't want to return it.

How many feelings can resist the temptation of money? Money is a very sensitive thing, which is completely different from sharing hobbies.

When your salary is much higher than your friend's, your casual words will make the other person think you are showing off. His attitude towards you will change from initial envy to jealousy.

For some people, once they know their salary level, they will find their financial situation, and the reason for borrowing money is even arrogant: "Your salary is so high, what's wrong with giving me some?"

So you're in a dilemma. Obviously, I don't need money, but I still want to borrow it from you, and I don't want to pay it back after borrowing it, just like what you owed him in a previous life. The final result is often a bad one.

Salary income involves personal privacy. Many people understand the truth that wealth is not exposed after a big loss. Personal financial situation can not be shared with friends without reservation, which will bring a lot of unnecessary trouble.

2. The contradiction between husband and wife

There is an idiom called "Don't worry about relatives", which means that people who are far away should not participate in the affairs of people who are close. In particular, there are some contradictions between couples and couples, so it is best not to tell good girlfriends or good buddies.

Some people may think that telling friends about their conflicts with their partners can help them get advice from different angles and relieve their psychological pressure.

But what do you want your friends to say about the contradiction between you and your partner? Most of your friends are on your side, so he will only accuse your other half of being wrong and advise you to relax and break up quickly to find a new home, but the reality is often that there is a quarrel at the end of the bed, and then your friend will be in an awkward position.

If a friend, with the good intention of "tearing down ten temples rather than ruining a marriage", advises you to make up with your partner and live a good life, but your partner is actually a heinous thug, and your combination almost ruined your life. Finally, you will hate your friends.

Telling your friends about your family affairs is equivalent to putting your friends in a position that is not human inside and outside. No matter what the result is, it will make your friendship feel divided.

The contradiction between husband and wife belongs to the internal contradiction of the relationship, which is not suitable for telling outsiders, not only friends, but also parents, elders and colleagues. You can't put yourself in other people's shoes. Maybe in the eyes of others, you are not suitable at all, and you should have broken up a long time ago, but in fact you get along very well.

Just like Qu Xiaoyu and Zhao Qiping in Ode to Joy, in the eyes of many people, they are totally out of place and have no common interests. One likes elegant art and reads widely, while the other likes to eat, drink and have fun, but they get along very well. Even after breaking up, both of them are very concerned about each other, and the combination of the two is very suitable.

Different couples have different ways of communication and getting along, which others often can't understand, but how to deal with your contradictions is the best answer only if you have run in many times.

3. The mistakes you have made

Life is very long, and everyone will do something wrong because of youth or other reasons. This is the only way for us to mature, but for others, it may be a joke, a farce, or even a handle.

Other people here, including good friends who have been going back and forth for many years, think that your friendship is invincible, and maybe the other party is waiting for you to show your flaws.

There was once a college roommate who was warm and straightforward and close to many people. On one occasion, five or six college students had a dinner to share the experience of newcomers in the workplace.

After three glasses of wine, my roommate told us with a smile that he left his last company because he reimbursed his and his girlfriend's travel expenses privately, and the expenses were as high as seven or eight thousand.

We thought it was a joke, but unexpectedly, he was fired from the company a month later. Some people say it's because the boss knows what he did wrong in the company before.

Later, he never contacted us again. Because he didn't find out who leaked his secret, he had to break up with all of us.

People who are cheerful and lively are really easy to make friends, but if they act too fast and have no boundaries, they will easily hurt themselves.

We often say, don't be caught by people, because people who like to catch braids are often friends and acquaintances around you. You can't take out a person's sincerity and repeatedly confirm it.

Therefore, don't tell others about your mistakes, especially the so-called friends who have interests with you.

Keigo Higashino, a writer, once said in Nocturnal Walking, which is very intriguing: There are two things in the world that you can't look directly at, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.

People's minds are complex and changeable, and not everyone can control them. Even, the more glamorous and simple-looking people are, the more bottomless the darkness is.

So to be on the safe side, it is best not to share the above three things with friends.

Author/Wu Tong Defect

Editor/Qi Mu