Children are irritable and lose their temper.

Children's irritability and temper tantrums can't be controlled

Children's irritability and temper tantrums can't be controlled. If children often love to lose their temper, parents should pay attention to timely adjustment. As children grow older, they may become a habit. What should children do if they can't control their irritable temper? Children's irritability and anger can't be controlled 1

1. Children's emotional crisis

Usually, children after the age of three have obviously enhanced their independence and self-awareness, and they begin to feel disgusted with adults' arranged substitution and blind manipulation, and there will be signs of "resistance" to adults. At this time, although children want to do things independently, they are often self-defeating due to lack of ability and one-sided thinking. Children at this time are often called "three-year-old crisis".

With the increase of age, by the age of 6 or 7, children's physiology and psychology have grown slightly and become more acute, so children in this period are the most difficult to deal with. In particular, this period is a period of entering the primary school stage, and children often feel nervous and tired. At this time, children always like the new and hate the old, and their attention is difficult to concentrate, and it is easy to lose their temper.

From the above, it is not difficult to see that 6 years old has become an important watershed in children's emotional management. The latest research in children's education points out that the emotional experience around 6 years old has an extremely important impact on people's life. If children can't concentrate at this time, they are irritable, irritable, pessimistic, destructive, lonely, anxious and dissatisfied with themselves, which will greatly affect their future personality development and character cultivation. If negative emotions often appear and persist, they will have a lasting negative impact on their individuals, and then affect their physical and mental health and the development of interpersonal relationships.

2. The reason why children love to lose their temper

Unhealthy emotions have many potential hazards, so how can parents help their children overcome such bad emotions as losing their temper, willfulness and impatience? To solve the problem, we need to know where the problem lies first, and so do children's emotional problems. To help children improve unhealthy emotions, we need to find out why children lose their temper, so as to prescribe the right medicine. To sum up, children love to lose their temper for the following reasons:

1. Children are spoiled too much at ordinary times, and they can't stand criticism or opposing opinions, or when children lose their temper, their parents give in and follow their wishes, so children will find the wonderful use of losing their temper and use it as a tool to ask for it.

3. Parents who are often away from their children, especially the only child, can't wait to give all the compensation to their children after a short meeting, even if they know some excessive demands of their children. Therefore, when children's desires are not satisfied, they often lose their temper.

4. Some parents are in a bad mood or are grumpy, so that their children are often scolded inexplicably, depressed or dissatisfied for a long time, and let them vent their anger.

5. Parents' subtle role models. Many parents, or teachers, are prone to get angry when things happen. If parents or teachers get angry easily, the children around them will imitate them and gradually form a temper-loving personality. This is like a quiet education. Children gradually develop similar personalities under the subtle influence of "bad temper" of adults. Therefore, many parents see their own shadows in their children, including lovely shadows and hateful and irritable images. Children learn both the good and the bad from adults.

6. The child is physically tired. The causes of physical fatigue may be lack of sleep, excessive fatigue, etc. Nowadays, students, especially junior high school and senior high school students, have heavy study tasks and lack of sleep. In the long run, their physical strength is not enough to support them for too long, and they are tired and easily angry.

3. How do parents deal with children's love to lose their temper

After birth, babies know how to express various needs by crying, such as urinating, being hungry, being sleepy, etc. This is an instinct for survival. With the development of the baby's mind, in addition to crying, the baby will gradually learn to express himself with verbal and nonverbal expressions and body movements. However, it is natural for young children to instinctively express their needs and desires by crying and losing their temper because their language skills are not perfect.

So, when a child loses his temper or even cries, what you have to do is very simple, that is, calmly accept all the performances of the child. The more noisy the child is, the calmer you will be. At the same time:

1. Stop the child's bad behavior. For example, if you smash something or hit someone, you should control your child's small hand and tell him that it is wrong, which will hurt your mother, but don't label your child, such as "Why is it so unreasonable?" How can you be so ignorant! No manners! " And so on;

3. Guide children to vent their emotions in a more reasonable way. You know, children in strong emotions can't listen to anything adults say. For example, "If you are still angry, you can try to hit the pillow, tear up the newspaper, or find a place where no one is around and shout' I am angry' a few times, so that you will feel much better. Mom often uses this method when she is angry." At the same time, it is best to pass these venting materials to the children, or even do some demonstrations. In short, the basic principle of venting is "not hurting the body and not hurting the money" (including the "body" and "money" of yourself and others);

4. Communicate with your child after his emotions subside. "Why did you lose such a big temper just now? Can losing your temper solve any problems? Can you talk to your mother about your truth? "Be sure to listen to the child's thoughts, understand the reason why the child lost his temper, and have to respond without handling it, otherwise the child will still be dissatisfied or even leave a knot.

5. Teach children to express their needs and feelings in words. For example, "Mom, I like this toy very much. I'm really angry that you won't buy it for me!" " Telling children to lose their temper and cry can't produce any effect, but talking well, negotiating reasonably and telling their own thoughts and reasons can get more responses and help. Parents should try their best to meet the legitimate needs. If they can't meet them, they need to explain patiently or try to divert their attention to help their children improve their self-control ability. In addition, parents and family members should have a unified attitude towards their children. When children lose their temper unreasonably, they should not compromise because of their crying.

It should be noted that for those children with intense emotions and particularly stubborn personalities, the first four of the above five steps may usually need to be repeated several times or even more, and it will take enough time for the children to gradually calm down. This time is like a hard tug-of-war, which tests parents' patience and confidence in their children. You must never give up halfway.

Please believe that every child can manage himself, and every child has potential self-control, but some children need more time. This ability requires parents to use "the deepest love, the warmest acceptance and the gentlest persistence" to gradually awaken. Slowly, children will understand the parents' bottom line, learn to obey the rules and give up this way of losing their temper and crying.

4. How to prevent the baby from losing his temper?

1. Let the baby have a little control. For example, let the children choose what books they want to bring to the car or what lunch they want to eat. These small choices won't make much difference to parents, but doing so will make children feel that they can control their lives to some extent.

2. Distract children's attention. Children's attention is short-lived and easy to shift. When the child's little face begins to turn red, twisted and deformed, and anger is already on his face, he should lose no time to open a book or suggest going to a nearby park to play together, so as to avoid the anger from continuing to gather and escalate, which will lead to an uncontrollable outburst of temper. Sometimes humor is the best way to divert attention. Making a face, telling a joke or starting a pillow fight may make the child forget what made him angry.

3. Make some small concessions. Sometimes parents can make small concessions, especially when it comes to trivial things, such as letting their children watch TV for 15 minutes instead of listening to them scream for 3 minutes.

4. Praise your child when she does something right. When he can still keep calm about things that are easy to get angry at ordinary times, he should tell him quickly: Baby, you are great. You are really a good baby of mom.

5. Teach children other ways to deal with setbacks. Older children begin to understand and speak, and try to remind them to express their anger in their own language instead of screaming. Children's irritability and anger can't be controlled. 2

What should children do if they love to lose their temper? 1. When children are "angry", they must first control their emotions and calm down first. You know, when a child makes you angry, I'm afraid the child's anger will get worse and worse, which is why you think your child is "really stubborn".

2. When the child is "angry", try to hug the child and talk to him in a gentle tone, which is what we usually say, "coax the child, not play hardball. After all, what does the child know?"

What's the matter with children's tantrums

Parents or teachers are too strict with their children and don't pay attention to educational methods, which makes their children's character depressed for a long time, gradually forming strong resistance and rebellious psychology, and their children's temper will become very violent, and they will lose their temper if they are not smooth.

Actually, this is our little baby's rebellious period. When children are 2-4 years old, they are in the first rebellious period. It is a very common phenomenon to lose their temper. Children can't express their thoughts in accurate language. Children always fail to express their ideas, and their hearts are full of frustration, which makes them fidgety and anxious.

children often lose their temper, which may be because their ordinary needs are not met or ignored by others, not understood by their parents and so on. These situations will happen to both children and adults. Parents should know more about their children's needs, interact with them more, understand their real thoughts, and don't have conflicts because of losing their temper. Children's irritable temper can't be controlled. 3

First of all, if children love to lose their temper, it may be caused by the family environment. Parents should create a harmonious family atmosphere for their children at ordinary times, so that the children cultivated by the family have a better personality and are cheerful. Parents should pay more attention to understanding the characteristics of their physical and mental development and their needs, discuss with their children when they encounter something, and let them learn to solve it by negotiation when they encounter something, which can reduce the number of children losing their temper.

Parents can make some reward and punishment systems for their children at ordinary times. For example, when children lose their temper, they will lose an opportunity, such as watching TV. We do this to tell our children what bad effects it will have, and we don't deliberately punish them.

In normal life, children should be given good rules. As the saying goes, no rules can make Fiona Fang, for example, they must take a nap after lunch, or they can only buy toys once a week. This method makes children unconsciously set up many rules that must be followed, and gradually form habits.

In our daily life, we should encourage our children more. If they haven't cried or lost their temper for a long time, as parents, we can give them some words of encouragement, and of course, we can buy some small gifts to encourage them, so that they will gradually change the habit of losing their temper.

For a family, husband and wife have different tempers, so the way to educate their children is different, which leads to the fact that children will ask for what they can't get from their mothers, which will lose their rules. Therefore, parents should reach a consistent principle, so that children will not feel at a loss and will not lose their temper.

It is most important for parents to set an example in the family. Parents don't lose their temper, and children basically don't. Parents should do it themselves when educating their children!