14-year-old boys throw things when they don't agree. What should we do in this rebellious period?

As soon as a child enters adolescence, it will be like a different person, disobeying his parents and often acting against them. The rebellious period of children is the most painful process for parents, and it is also a sign that children are about to grow up. If parents guide them well, the children will get through it smoothly. If the guidance is not good, it may be a turning point for children's growth. Parents must pay attention to the way to solve their children's rebellion.

What should I do in the rebellious period?

1, maintain children's self-esteem.

Sometimes, some trivial things in the eyes of adults are "big things" that children can worry about. If you criticize your child regardless of his feelings, it will do great harm to him, especially if you turn over old scores in front of others or even uncover his "scars", he will feel embarrassed and dissatisfied. At this time, they will not listen to their parents' criticism, and even sometimes children will do such things in order to safeguard their dignity.

Therefore, parents should learn to look at the problem from the child's point of view, safeguard the child's self-esteem, re-educate the child in appropriate occasions and wording when necessary, master the discretion of criticism, and guide the child to understand his own mistakes. This is the correct education for the child.

2. Give children an equal say.

Children are also members of the family. Parents can let their children participate in family decision-making. On the one hand, they can give their children a sense of belonging and participation in the family, on the other hand, they can cultivate their sense of responsibility. When children fully express their ideas, parents should make a positive response, even if the children are incorrect, don't rush to deny them, so that children feel that they have gained the respect and understanding they deserve, which will make them full of sense of accomplishment and more conducive to emotional communication in the future.

3. Respect children's privacy.

Adolescent children's sense of independence and adult consciousness began to awaken. They often have secrets that they don't want to tell others, only their own. At this time, the child's psychology is more complicated. While relying on their parents, they are eager to get rid of their parents' bondage and want to act independently according to their own intentions and ideas. Once it is found that parents want to know their privacy, it will be particularly resistant.

Therefore, parents need to find their own position, change their education methods with the changes of their children, give them some freedom and independent space, respect their privacy, allow them to make their own choices within the controllable range, and avoid conflicts with them. When children realize that they are respected, they will also control their behavior and reduce their rebellious mentality.

4. Give children some freedom.

Young children, whether boys or girls, are eager for more power to make their own choices and don't like being disciplined by adults. In the face of children's choices, as long as they don't touch the bottom line, they can do it, which not only exercises their choice ability, but also gives them opportunities to grow.

What is the reason for the child's rebellion?

First, parents are too accommodating to their children.

Some parents indulge their children's ideas too much, making them dependent on their children's wishes. Even if the child makes a mistake, parents will not criticize or blame it easily, but will digest the wrong information internally and hide it from the child.

A child who grows up under the doting of his parents doesn't know right from wrong, and there is no standard of right and wrong in his mind, so he will feel that everything he has done is right. But in kindergarten, they will have many problems in the process of getting along with their peers. At this time, children are prone to rebellious psychology and vent their dissatisfaction on their families.

Second, parents and children lack emotional communication.

The lack of emotional communication between parents and children can easily lead to children's rebellious psychology. This is because children are not satisfied with the external emotional input, so they can't feel the love and care of their parents, so they will give feedback to their parents in the same way. Although their way is rough or rebellious, it is an idea to feed back their inner emotional needs.

Third, parents' feelings are not harmonious.

Family life atmosphere and emotional atmosphere play a vital role in the healthy growth of children's body and mind. If parents in a family are not harmonious, and even often quarrel in front of their children, they will feel uneasy and helpless, and will also cause certain psychological obstacles to their children. In this case, children often find it difficult to express their fears and disappointments, and often confront their parents with rebellious psychology to express their dissatisfaction with their parents. Long-term accumulation will lead to

Fourth, the majesty of parents makes children breathless.

The majesty of some parents will overwhelm their children, which comes from arbitrary education. This type of parents think that it is necessary to establish the image of great authority of parents in their children's minds, so as to better educate and manage their children and make them more obedient.

However, this arbitrary education method often makes children feel embarrassed, unnatural and even depressed in the process of getting along with their parents, so that after a period of accumulation, there will be dissatisfaction to vent, which is what we call rebellious psychology.