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Suffering from marriage and depression.

Suffering from marriage and depression.

Suffering from marriage and suffering from depression, depression is not formed overnight. Everyone is more or less depressed under pressure. The so-called "depression becomes a disease" means that there is a small amount of depression accumulation. The following is the depression caused by marriage.

Married with depression 1 That afternoon, when I went to "Cross-Strait Coffee", Shufen and her girlfriend were already waiting there. Shufen's girlfriend is wearing a sun-red dress, which is very warm, with a young face and looks good. Shufen is wearing a dress with big flowers on a white background and a small white shawl, which echoes the white pearl necklace around her neck. I can see that Shu Fen specially dressed herself for today's meeting. It's just that the heaviness in her heart still overflows from her whole body.

Before we got married, he was generous and eloquent and won my heart.

I was born in a well-off family, and both my parents had a good job, which made me live a carefree life since I was a child. My parents spoil me very much, and because of my natural romance, I have always had a little girl's psychology, which is very simple and kind. I like reading books, especially those pure literary novels. Those descriptions of love and affection make me mistakenly think that this is real life.

My aesthetic understanding of life and love lasted for many years. I was in my twenties at that time. Because of good family conditions, good looks and good work, so many people introduced me to the object. But maybe I positioned the other person as "Prince Charming" from the beginning, and in the next few years, there has been no suitable candidate. Unconsciously, I am already a 30-year-old young man. When I saw my girlfriends around me, all of them were wives and mothers, I felt a little anxious, but I still insisted on finding the "feeling of love".

Maybe many things in life are predestined. One day, Yu Hui appeared in my life. That day, Yu Hui reached out to me and said enthusiastically, "Hello!" At that moment, his deep eyes and warm hands suddenly touched the untouched area in my heart, and I only felt my heart beating suddenly and violently.

At the age of 30, I had my first secret love in my life. Perhaps this move came too late, so that my love can start a prairie fire in a single spark and get out of hand. Some people say that women's love comes from a kind of worship. When I met Hui Yu, I had a personal experience of this sentence. Yu Hui's humor, generosity and thoughtfulness deeply touched my heart. Yu Hui showed me around his company and his house, and showed me all kinds of high-end places. He took great care of me ... In my eyes, Yu Hui was so perfect that I fell madly in love with him in a short time.

But this relationship was opposed by parents. Maybe they read countless people and have more social experience. They have repeatedly said that Yu Hui gives people the impression that it is unrealistic. But at that time, I was blinded by love and couldn't listen to any opinions of my parents.

For three months, I insisted on the registration of Huihui. That day, at my insistence, my mother took out the household registration book, but my mother kept crying. Maybe her sad mood that day indicated that this marriage was a tragedy after all, but I didn't know it at that time.

After marriage, he did nothing but lie, which made me sad.

I insist on marrying Huiyu. My family accepted this fact and gave me their best wishes. They all want me to be happy.

Shortly after we got married, Yu Hui told me that the house we lived in was not his own, but he rented it. The company he founded quickly closed down and was heavily in debt. I forgave Yu Hui for his premarital affair and his failed business experience. Now that I am married to Yu Hui, I am determined to share joys and sorrows with him. I applied for an apartment at work and got approval.

Yu Hui and I moved to the company apartment. I took out my savings to buy furniture, household appliances and other necessities, and then gave all the remaining tens of thousands of dollars to Yu Hui to support him to start his own business again. At that time, I was full of confidence in life. I think as long as the two of us work hard, we will have a good life.

But my desire for a happy life was soon dashed. In * * *' s life, Hui Yu's various bad habits are gradually exposed. He is not only lazy, but also full of lies. Because of his dishonesty, his business is unsustainable, and he will soon lose all the funds I invested. He doesn't want to confess. Later, he coaxed me into investing in him with all kinds of sweet words. I believe in him and have been giving him money to make various investments, but every time it is "drawing water with a sieve". Gradually, I saw through his face and refused to give him any more money. He just stays at home and does nothing.

Yu Hui sleeps until late in the morning every day. After getting up, she must eat and drink. At that time, we had a daughter, and I was tired of the heavy work and housework every day. Yu Hui not only didn't share my pressure, but made a scene when she was a little unhappy. In the end, she often hit me. We live in the house of our company, and our neighbors are colleagues. I am a face-saving woman. In order not to make others laugh, I often swallow my sobs back into my stomach. It's just that over time, long-term physical torture and mental depression made me suffer from depression. I couldn't sleep all night. I don't know why life is so far from what I imagined. I didn't sleep for seven days and nights. At that time, I was only over 60 kilograms thin and often fainted in class.

Gradually, the misfortune of my marriage was understood by my colleagues and family. They deeply sympathized with me and cherished me. My mother, in particular, cried with distress. Only then did I deeply realize that heavy maternal love. Only then, I still had illusions about Hui, hoping that he would repent. However, "a leopard cannot change his spots." In the days to come, Yu Hui will remain the same. Every day she cheats outside, comes home and loses her temper with me and my daughter. One day, my heart died completely.

After the divorce, I struggled alone and my heart fluctuated.

I resolutely divorced Huiyu. When I walked out of the court that day, I felt relieved. Only then did I know that the life of a single mother is still full of hardships and setbacks.

My daughter and I started living together. Shortly after the divorce, my factory closed down and my life suddenly got into trouble. Yu Hui didn't pay her daughter's alimony, but she often harassed me from time to time, which made me exhausted.

I work around outside, and my monthly income is limited. To my great relief, my daughter is very sensible. When I work outside, she does her homework at home alone, and often has to wait until late for dinner. Our economy is very poor, and our daughter grows slowly because of malnutrition. Later, in order to increase her nutrition, I took three jobs. I fly around Dai Yue every day. My daughter is my hope and warmth. Although we are poor, I have always taught my daughter to work hard and make progress. Every morning when I go out, I will say to my daughter, "I can do it, I am great."

My daughter and I are warm and encourage each other. A few years have passed, and we have experienced many twists and turns and many difficulties, but we have all survived. Over the years, my daughter has not worn a new dress. All the clothes on her body were eliminated by the children of my relatives and friends. My daughter never complained about anything. She always put it on happily and said to me, "Mom, look how beautiful it is." At that time, my heart was always sour. I want to give her a good life, but my ability is too limited.

As a woman, I also have emotional needs. When I am tired and depressed, I really want someone to listen to my feelings and give me strength. But in all these years, I have never met anyone who can entrust my soul and body to each other.

I have always had hope for the future, but after struggling for so many years, my life has not improved, so I am confused. I don't know why my efforts never paid off. Now, I am still working outside, and my business with my friends has not improved. I suddenly lost confidence in life these days, feeling helpless and desperate. I can't get up every day, I'm in a trance and weak. I'm afraid my mood will infect my daughter, but I'm really tired. I'm afraid I can't hold on. ...

Everyone is responsible.

Shufen's sad expression that day let me know that she had experienced a lot and was depressed a lot. Her trance-like eyes and weak appearance let me know that her mood has been abnormal. I have a lot of worries when I think of her history of "depression". I tried to comfort Shufen, hoping to give her confidence in life. I told her that each of us will go through a lot in life, but there is no hurdle; And each of us has a heavy responsibility, that is to parents and children. If we give up ourselves, it is an irresponsible escape. We walked out of the "cross-strait coffee". When we were leaving, I repeatedly told Shufen's friends to stay with Shufen. I hope we can all live a good life like Shu Fen and feel every spring, summer, autumn and winter that belongs to us. That dress belongs to her. I hope she understands.

Suffering from marriage, I got depression. 2. Marriage is too depressing. What should I do if I get depression? Will depression give up the person I love?

Is unhappy marriage leading to depression, or unhappy marriage after suffering from depression? Everyone must first recognize depression. Treat the disease first and then save the marriage, and get rid of the gray depressed life and unfortunate marriage situation.

Depression is a neurosis. Typical symptoms are depression, slow thinking, reduced speech movements and slowness. Depression seriously puzzles patients' life and work, and brings a heavy burden to family and society. About 15% of patients with depression died of suicide. A joint study by the World Health Organization, the World Bank and Harvard University shows that depression has become the second most serious disease in China. The factors causing depression include: genetic factors, physical factors, abnormal central nervous medium function and metabolism, mental factors, etc.

Second, the performance of female marital depression

1. Avoid conflicts: Every couple may have intractable conflicts, so quarrels are inevitable. But we should avoid escalating the quarrel into a conflict, which will hurt the feelings of both sides.

2. Sexual life: Most people think that the sexual life of newlyweds will be perfect, but this is not the case. Physical and psychological factors can cause problems in married sexual life.

3. Get close to each other: After the wedding, it is very important to keep close relationship with each other. If physical closeness is neglected, spiritual estrangement may appear unconsciously.

4. Communicate with each other: Every marriage expert will warn newlyweds to pay attention to communication. This seems to have become a cliche, but no matter what differences exist between newlyweds, communication always helps to solve the problem.

5. Family income and expenditure: How to make money and how to spend money are issues that newlyweds are prone to dispute.

6. Division of housework: On the surface, division of housework is a trivial matter of life and is not worth arguing about. In fact, people argue about it because it reflects one's understanding of fairness, respect, care and love.

Encountered marriage and got depression. Since I divorced my ex-husband, I have been doing psychological counseling and taking medicine, and now my symptoms have eased a lot. I want to talk to you about my previous marriage while I'm still awake. The reason why I feel more and more inferior and depressed is because I married the wrong person.

I used to be a very demanding person. I am always not allowed to make mistakes. If I make mistakes, I will punish myself. I have no malice towards myself, I just want to get better and better.

If I didn't marry my ex-husband, I would be strict with myself and there would be no problem, because every time I punish myself, I will make peace with myself.

However, after marrying my ex-husband, everything seems out of my control.

Like the devil, their family grasped the psychology of "I demand too much of myself" and constantly put pressure on me, instilling in me psychological hints of "you have to do this, you have to do that" and "you are not right to do this, you are not right to do that". Therefore:

I feel that everything I have done is wrong. I am making mistakes. I can't satisfy my husband's family. Negative psychology such as "self-doubt, self-denial, self-loathing and self-loathing" is becoming more and more serious, and people are increasingly concerned about the views, opinions and ideas of their husbands and families. The whole person is nervous and scared every day, and always feels useless.

This mentality is mixed with my previous psychology of "demanding myself" and becomes:

I have lost the ability to judge the right and wrong of my husband's family. I have always been very concerned about my right and wrong. When I was scolded by my husband's family, I felt that everything I did was wrong. "I am such a bad person!"

After a long time, I am completely crazy. I always cry hysterically, always curl up in the corner, and always let my ex-husband curse and laugh at me.

When my parents learned about my situation, they began to negotiate with my husband's family about divorce. Of course, my husband's family will accept the divorce because I am worthless to them. They not only squeezed and demanded everything from me, but also tortured me into a patient.

After the divorce, my parents took me to see a psychiatrist and took me to therapy. In the process of consultation and treatment, I gradually realized that I didn't have much problem, but the problem in my husband's family was too big, which made me gradually become a depressed patient.

Here, I want to advise others: Get rid of the marriage that makes you more and more depressed, or it will turn into depression after a long time, and you will be miserable.

The marriage that makes you more and more depressed should be thrown away as soon as possible!

When we mentioned "love rat" in an article yesterday, we said this: If a woman lies to herself, even if love rat doesn't try to lie to you, you will be cheated; If love rat tries to cheat you again, and you cheat yourself, you will suffer even more.

The same is true of the marriage experienced by the woman above: whether others deny you, look down on you and dislike you is secondary; Whether to deny yourself, look down on yourself and dislike yourself is the main thing. If you abandon yourself and deny yourself, you will live a miserable life even if others don't say anything about you. And if others add fuel to the fire and deny you, you will definitely be depressed.

She mentioned such a sentence in the complaint, "I used to be a person who demanded a lot of myself. I have never allowed myself to make mistakes. If I make mistakes, I will punish myself! " People in this state must pay close attention to their mental health and be strict with themselves, but don't go to extremes, get into trouble or compete with themselves.

It is not impossible to punish yourself for your mistakes, but punishment is a means, not an end. You made a mistake. What you should do is to sum up experience and learn lessons, so that you won't make mistakes again in the future. If you make a mistake, punish yourself, hate yourself, and hold on to it all the time. This is the embryonic form of depression, and you will unconsciously fall into it and can't get out.

It is precisely because of her own problems in this respect that she was pressured, denied and looked down upon by her husband's family after marriage, so she became more and more terminally ill. For her, it is: the marriage that makes you more and more depressed should be thrown away as soon as possible.

In fact, not only she, but also other people who are not prone to depression should come out as soon as possible when they are engaged in a marriage that makes you feel more and more inferior and depressed, because mental shock and torture are fatal, and you will be in an inferiority complex for a long time. Once you are insane, nothing else can be said and you will never be happy.