Can't I pay a New Year's visit to the funeral in the first year?

Lead: On the first Spring Festival after the death of elders, there are some things that need to be paid attention to, such as red sacrifices, red dishes and red chopsticks. Some friends don't know if they can pay a New Year call in the first year of funeral. Can't I pay a New Year call in the first year of funeral? Share it with everyone below, hoping to help friends in need.

Can't we celebrate the New Year in the first year of funeral?

Can't pay a New Year call. If an old man dies in the first year, you should close the door and thank the guests. He shouldn't go to relatives and friends' homes or pay New Year greetings, otherwise it will bring bad luck to others' homes. If you want to visit relatives, you'd better take a walk in the twelfth lunar month, and you can't visit other sick old people. From the first day to the third day, you can't go out, attend happy events and socialize, because the traditional concept holds that it is unlucky to meet filial people on big days.

What are the taboos during the Spring Festival in the first year of funeral?

(1) Red couplets are forbidden: red is a symbol of celebration. In order to express condolences and respect for the deceased elders, red couplets cannot be posted in the first year of Spring Festival. Generally, couplets are not posted in the first year. If you want to paste it, you can only paste white couplets. Red Spring Festival couplets can only be posted in the fourth year of Spring Festival. At the same time, you can't set off firecrackers, dress simply and simply, and avoid wearing bright clothes. In some places, it is necessary to stagger the time and eat the New Year's Eve dinner in advance on the 28th of the twelfth lunar month.

⑵ It is forbidden to go to busy places: The ancients said that "filial piety is the first virtue", and China people attach great importance to filial piety. After the death of an elder in the family, during the Spring Festival of the first year, the family should try to be quiet and avoid laughter. You can't attend friends' parties during holidays, and try not to go to public places. When going out, you should avoid going to crowded places. In addition, you can't go to temples and Buddhist temples, because these two places are taboo to the dead and will offend the Buddha.

⑶ Don't attend weddings: You can't participate in human relations in happy events, because it is considered unlucky to meet people with filial piety on big days, so it is still recommended not to attend the weddings and happy events of the deceased.

Some taboos of New Year greetings

1

Avoid standing.

Don't be late or absent at will. If you can't keep the appointment under special circumstances, you must come to the door in person or send a message to explain the reasons in time.

2

Avoid rudeness

Be humble, respectful and friendly when visiting your host's house. After entering the door, you should take the initiative to greet other guests one by one.

three

Avoid being a guest with illness.

I'm sick, especially infectious diseases. I'd better not pay New Year's greetings to avoid infecting others.

four

Avoid carelessness in hygiene.

Pay attention to the cleanliness of the instrument when seeing a doctor; Don't spit everywhere, throw ash, throw peel scraps.

five

Avoid nonsense.

Don't say boring and vulgar words, pay attention to language civilization.

six

Avoid noise and play the role of master.

Don't talk about yourself, talk about the host.

How did the ancients pay New Year greetings?

For upper-class families, it is difficult to visit them one by one because of their wide contacts or too many relatives and friends. For some friends who are not closely related, they will not go in person, but will send servants to pay New Year greetings with business cards (called "famous thorns" in the Eastern Han Dynasty and "flying posts" in the Tang and Song Dynasties). Scholars at that time made a lot of friends. In order to save time, they sent more servants to cut a letter paper made of plum blossoms into cards two inches wide and three inches long, with the recipient's name, address and greetings written on them. Wen Zhiming, a poet in the Ming Dynasty, described in his poem "New Year": "I don't meet you, I only talk to you, and my famous articles are full; I also throw a few pieces of paper at people. The world hates being too simple and not too empty. "

Because of the concept that men are superior to women in the old society, most families do not receive women from the first day to the fifth day of the first month, which is called "taboo". Only men can go out to pay New Year greetings, and women can't go out to visit until after the sixth day of the first month.

The old New Year's greetings will last until around the 15th day of the first month.

Paying New Year greetings to others at night is called "Night Worship Festival", and it is called "Lantern Festival" after the tenth day of the tenth lunar month. If the routine ceremony is not carried out for some reason, it is called "memorial to one's old age", so there is a joke that it is not too late to have a cold meal.

In the eyes of ordinary people, New Year greetings are more understood as a ceremonial activity, but it is precisely this ceremony that constitutes one of the cores of Chinese civilization. Ceremony is not only a form, but also a profound humanistic concern.

For individuals, courtesy is the embodiment of self-cultivation and the full expression of the moral essence of human nature. For a group, politeness is respect and understanding for others. Through this interaction, we can promote the communication between different individuals, and then promote the harmonious coexistence between members of different social roles.