Be the best of yourself and be a valuable "other" to others.

After attending the 007 trip to Zhongjin Station, I have been thinking about two questions: What is the difference between me and others? What value can I bring to others?

Professionally speaking, my personal label is an engineer, specifically an engineer who integrates industrial engineering, technology and lean. It sounds great, but compared with other colleagues, it is not inferior at all. The same siege lion, some colleagues published books, some gave speeches in Hanover, and some were soon promoted to executives.

This gap makes me want to explore the differences between individuals and others. How to find your own differences?

Because only by finding differences, truly recognizing ourselves, clearly positioning ourselves and finding ourselves can we avoid "vacuum growth", reduce efforts without direction and useless growth, and gradually realize the goal of being visible, becoming and surpassing the elite.

Bringing value to others is the need of self-realization of Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, and everyone wants to maximize personal value. The more people I meet, the more I feel that others are much better than me and can bring value to others. For example, friends who are doctors provide medical advice to others; Be a friend of HR and give advice to others on career planning; The god of blockchain helps you understand this emerging industry. ...

On the other hand, the value only lies in the work of the enterprise, exporting its own professional knowledge and optimizing the production process, thus improving work efficiency. What value can I bring to others for friends from different industries? I admire others' unique and in-depth insights, and I also hope to bring value to others, empower others, and let my value be recognized by everyone.

The most common definition of value is undifferentiated human labor or abstract human labor condensed in commodities. Value belongs to the category of relationship, which refers to the beneficial relationship that the object can meet the needs of the subject. Value is abstract, invisible and intangible, but it always plays a role everywhere, guiding people's thoughts and dominating people's actions. Evaluating a thing comes from and reflects the abstract ideal value.

Simply put, value is to be able to meet the needs of others! Different industries have different values. Teachers impart knowledge, doctors treat diseases, architects design buildings, manage local affairs of administrators, and so on. Only through mutual cooperation can the whole society develop sustainably.

Money is valuable because it can get more goods, but if each of us has unlimited goods and can get what we want, then money has no such value.

Personal value consists of two parts: personal ability and social evaluation.

Personal ability, as the name implies, is what we can do, what we like to do and what we are willing to do. It can also be said that it is its own advantage. Everyone's personality and ability are different, and so are their own specialties.

Social evaluation refers to what practical benefits we can generate from social activities and whether it can bring positive effects to others. Only by combining the two can we show our personal value. Computer experts use their skills to solve problems for others or enterprises, so their social value is positive, while some hackers steal company privacy files is negative.

1, enhance self-confidence. The emergence of interpersonal relationship lies in the exchange of values and the complementarity of resources. You get support from him and he gets comfort from you; You appreciate each other's frankness, and each other appreciates your wisdom. As the saying goes: there is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason. Things happen for a reason. There are also reasons to make friends and establish friendship.

2. Keep practicing. When it comes to value, everyone will have their own feelings, and the process, things, opinions, results and experiences they have experienced are different. This is a personal character. * * * Sex means that everyone finds himself in practice, adheres to a valuable life creed and perseveres. No one is perfect, you are yourself. Do big things and small things, you must have your true self. If you are too ambitious and cheat, you will lose your value.

3. improve your mentality. No matter how big or small, I have my own uniqueness that others can't imitate. Sometimes, the desire for value is endless, and we often forget the happy time when the value is realized. Occasionally, we will feel distressed when we think of the unforgettable value failure. In fact, we should keep a happy mood in our hearts to resist external interference, and we should be satisfied as much as we can with the value embodied in ourselves. Only by maintaining a happy and peaceful attitude can we succeed in doing things.

Being able to gain a sense of accomplishment will have a positive role in promoting self-growth, and at the same time, it will also verify your own judgment and prove your correctness.

Don't expect too much of yourself, even a heartfelt compliment, concern and understanding can make the other person warm and valuable to others.

1. I don't know my own advantages and disadvantages.

To be a better self, you need to know yourself first. As the saying goes, know yourself and yourself. It is important and difficult to know clearly your own advantages and disadvantages. Knowing yourself correctly is half the battle. Don't overestimate or underestimate your abilities.

Many people lack perseverance and know that they lack perseverance. They still blindly believe that they can persist in doing one thing, but they never want to solve the lack of perseverance, such as using some methods to urge themselves to complete the task.

2. Self-limitation and self-limitation

In the process of self-exploration, many people dare not take the first step of change, imagine the difficulty of things and constantly set limits for themselves. This is too difficult for me. My colleagues will laugh at me if I don't do well. I've never done this before. Wait. A series of scene designs bound my hands and feet.

3. Comfort in the comfort zone

Personal comfort zone always gives people a sense of security. Draw a circle for yourself and stay in it honestly. I believe that many people find that some soft powers such as speaking ability, interpersonal communication ability, writing ability and marketing ability can give them extra points after work, but the attraction of comfort zone and the confusion of personal growth make us flinch.

4. Three-minute heat

Lack of perseverance is the biggest reason why most people can't explore themselves. Many good methods can make you better as long as you persist. Make a plan for yourself: run a few steps every day, read a few pages, meditate for a few minutes, continue to lecture for one minute, and so on. The result is intermittent complacency, continuous mixed eating and waiting for death, and few people really travel long distances.

? What is the best self?

1), give yourself the best self: follow your inner thoughts, do what you like and become the person you like. Spend time and energy on people and things you think are worth it.

2) The best self for others: having the ability to help others, being valuable to others and being willing to help others. Become a valuable "other" of others.

Find your own focus, make continuous progress, and become the truly excellent and best self.

Where there is attention, there is growth. On the basis of knowing yourself, focus your most precious attention on your most important growth, which is the key to becoming a better self.

Do a good job of self-management, change your behavior first, and then improve your thinking.

Only by continuous and real change, under the power of time itself, can our way of thinking really upgrade, and finally our behavior and thinking will change.

Share a few self-management tips learned in Bear:

Time management, improve the time rate of return;

Refuse to be busy, advance key tasks by 20%, achieve goals efficiently, three things a day;

Busy but not chaotic, complete 80% of routine tasks with one page of GTD;

Overcome procrastination, eradicate lazy cancer and fight against bear monkeys;

Efficiency list SOP, establish work and learning process. (favorite of process engineers)

As the philosopher Nietzsche said, "When you know why in life, you can solve everything.". When you have a higher understanding of self-management, these skills and tools will be solved; Moreover, when you encounter some specific problems in your life and work, you don't need to ask "What should I do" and "Am I doing this right?" But under the guidance of these general principles, you will know what to do.

These three questions can also be the "three questions of life" asking the soul, which is the bottom thinking of life; We need to ask ourselves:

Who am I | What is my present situation?

Where do I come from | What problems have I encountered in the process of changing myself in the past?

Where am I going | What kind of myself do I want to change?

Express one's gratitude formally

This article was jointly created by one-sixth of the community, created by Huo Liang, the owner of the Blue Hat case, and assisted by Zheng Yandan.

White hats: Li Shuangshuang, Zhou Mingbo, Fang Qinrui.

Red Hat: Wang Jin, Li Xiaojun.

Yellow hats: Liu Wenbo, Chang Tingting.

Black hat: Xie Lizhi, Lu

Green hat: Yi Feng Zhang Yawei