Daughter-in-law angry mother-in-law: Although I come from the countryside, I really can't do laundry, cook and wait on people. what do you think?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very important part of marriage. It seems insignificant, but its quality can directly affect the feelings of two people. Moreover, many girls think that the most important condition is a good relationship between two people before entering marriage.

So, before I got married, I didn't know much about each other's family, so I got married. Only after marriage did I know that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is sometimes more deadly than the feelings of two people.

Because one side is the mother, the other side is the wife, and the middle is the man. If you don't do it well, the relationship between the two sides will become more and more rigid, and even a few people will eventually divorce.

After all, as a woman, you can't know, in his heart, who is more important, you or your mother? This multiple-choice question, I think, many men don't want to do it. As wives, most people don't want each other to do this.

So many times, many people make this choice passively. In this process, it is the mother-in-law who plays a decisive role.

Zhao Ying had this view before she got married:

If all the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't get along well, it must be the daughter-in-law who made a mistake first. Because people's hearts are all flesh, if you are a daughter-in-law, you will be sincere and kind to your mother-in-law from the beginning, and you will not be careless. How can the other party not feel it? How can a daughter-in-law embarrass herself?

Based on this principle, when she first went to her mother-in-law's house, although she didn't feel very good, she still didn't take it to heart. What she wants is to do her duty as a daughter-in-law first.

She always feels that this future mother-in-law feels a little arrogant in front of her. She likes to ask her to do many things, with a straight face and an unquestionable tone, which makes people feel uncomfortable.

She endured it.

02

Her husband is the pride of her mother-in-law.

Actually, her husband is really nice. Five years after graduation, he gained a firm foothold in this city. He bought his own garage. Although there is still a long repayment period, Zhao Ying is satisfied.

Her husband told her before that mom is a very capable woman and dad doesn't live up to expectations. It was her hard work that brought him up. When he was studying, his father didn't allow it, saying that it was useless to study, so it was better to invest money.

His father's investment is actually just gambling. It was his mother who insisted that he go to school, even though he was selling iron in a stew pot. That's why he is now.

Hearing this, Zhao Ying was in awe of her mother, and the image of a fresh woman who dared to struggle and was not afraid of hardship was established in her heart. She felt it when she first met her future mother-in-law. Such a person has her own aura.

When Zhao Ying and her husband first met, her mother-in-law had moved to the city with her son.

So she has a sense of superiority as a city dweller. In fact, this sense of superiority is only compared with her previous suffering in the countryside. This is nothing to others, but it still can't hide her pride, which is mixed with her son's unparalleled pride and finally leads to the daughter-in-law's criticism.

When Zhao Ying first met her future mother-in-law, she asked about her family and said, "Oh, your family is still in the countryside!" "Zhao Ying's family is in town. Strictly speaking, she thought she was a country, so she didn't refute it.

I don't know this sentence, which has laid a curse for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage.

03

Before getting married, my mother-in-law didn't show much. After marriage, some people become unscrupulous, and quite a few daughters-in-law have to listen to their mother-in-law.

At home, as long as Zhao Ying is all right, her mother-in-law is used to asking her to do all kinds of things and sitting on the sofa watching her finish talking. In fact, Zhao Ying can't do housework. She hardly touched these before marriage. She is the only child in the family, so she grew up in the palm of her hand, so her parents are reluctant.

This has happened so many times that my mother-in-law couldn't help it: "How come you are a girl from the countryside?"

Zhao Ying usually looks at her mother-in-law's cold face and has long complained, because her mother-in-law seems to compare everything with her and refuses to do one more thing for fear that she will suffer.

The most typical one was Zhao Ying's weekend nap, and she didn't get up after three o'clock. Her mother-in-law saw that people who had already got up also went back to undress and go to sleep, which made her laugh and cry.

Because my husband has always been calm, let her tolerate me a little more, so it will only be tolerated. This time, I don't want to endure it any more. I went back angrily: "although I come from the countryside, I really can't do laundry and cook!" "

This sentence was thought by Zhao Ying's mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law was beating around the bush and said that if she were in this house, she wouldn't live here.

She felt a terrible headache. Later, her husband told her that his mother had come all the way. Grandma gave her a lot of difficulties when she was young, so in the eyes of her mother, there is only one relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: repression.

When a mother-in-law can suppress her daughter-in-law, she can also have a position at home.

04

Zhao Ying got a fright after hearing this. What age is this? My mother-in-law still has this idea. But I have to say that her mother-in-law is really a good mother, a good daughter-in-law and a good wife.

Because according to her husband, she feels that she can't live the life of her mother-in-law: her family is poor, her mother-in-law bullies her, and her husband doesn't live up to expectations. But she endured it and raised her son, without falling out with her mother-in-law or getting divorced.

Even later, my mother-in-law took care of her wife who had been ill in bed for many years and never gave up. She followed her son to this city until her death.

After listening to her husband's explanation, Ying Zhao felt relieved that her mother-in-law was actually a poor person. However, she still wanted to know what her husband would do, so she asked, "What now? Mom said that when I was there, she was gone. "

Her husband said: "I have rented a house for my mother, a community." Let her live first, then we'll see. She has such a good face that she will definitely refuse to go back. "

Zhao Ying nodded, also don't want to make again. The harmony between husband and wife needs mutual understanding. She thinks that her husband has always missed her, so he should also think of her husband. After all, his mother gave birth to him and raised him.

So, she said, in the future, she also wants to try to make her mother-in-law change her mind. This is the only thing she can do at present.