A joke story about eating fish.

I once read a fable of fish head and fish tail, telling the daily life of an old couple. One day, the old man was ill in bed and knew that time was running out. He said to the old woman who had been in love for many years, "Old woman, can you help me realize a wish?" I want to eat fish head once. "The old woman froze:" Don't you always like to eat fish tails? Grandpa said, "honey, actually I like eating fish head best, but after I got married with you, I gave you my favorite thing." ""God, why didn't you say so earlier? I don't like fish heads at all. I like fishtail best. " The old lady said piteously.

When I read this story, I thought, how can there be such a stupid person? Don't you live for decades and don't even know each other's preferences? It was not until we reread the story that we found that the seemingly simple story not only reflected the importance of active communication, but also revealed that we thought that being kind to others wholeheartedly may not be needed by others, and others may not agree with and appreciate it, and may even resent your deliberate targeting, which reminded us not to take it for granted to be a good person when interacting with others.

Good old people tend to cover everything, take care of everyone's needs, but ignore their own. People's energy is limited. If they have been paying and consuming in one direction without timely replenishment, then this person will show fatigue and gradually lose enthusiasm for life and even life.

To this end, we must refuse to be a good person.

First, the procrastination method. When someone asks you something, don't say yes immediately, try to delay it. If colleague A asks you to help with one of his work items, you can politely say, "I'm sorry, I'm dealing with a more urgent job at hand." You can do it yourself first, and then I'll see how your progress is. How about doing something for you? "

Second, the law of breaking records. When people ask you again and again, you should resist the pressure and repeat your procrastination like a broken record. If colleague a still insists on doing it, you can repeat it firmly and consistently: "oh, I really want to help you, but I won't say so unless there is really no way." I'm busy with a job given by my boss, and I have to report it later. I hope you can understand. " I believe that after many gentle rejections, the number of times colleagues ask you for work will be relatively reduced.

Third, the sandwich method. If you refuse, say it cleverly. Like a sandwich, put rejection between compliments, like a slap in the face and a candy. If you refuse with a straight face and a blunt tone, the other party will immediately think that you are deliberately stumbling and do not meet the needs of TA. Maybe the next day, rumors about you being picky and not taking the initiative to work will fly all over the sky. It's obviously TA's job, but it turns out that you don't work hard. Do you think it is unfair?

There is a limit to everything, don't please others, and be careful not to be a selfish person without temperature, and distinguish the difference between pleasing others and being enthusiastic about helping others.

Ask yourself if you are timid and do things against your will to please others. Or do you really want to help others, save people from danger and achieve mutual benefit?