Is it normal for men and women to live together in love? Can you accept living together in love?

It was very late yesterday, and a reader came to me and asked me a very common but rarely involved topic in love:

"Ipoh elder sister, what do you think of love and cohabitation?"

After all, I am an adult, and I have to take care of many emotional things myself, and I also have to protect myself.

Cohabitation has both advantages and disadvantages. The advantage is that you can get to know each other better. Living under the same roof, you will have a general understanding of each other's living habits, and naturally you will feel that two people are not suitable.

The downside is that if your partner is not serious about love at all, you will be fooled. You will be hurt in your feelings, and you will worry about whether you have lived together in love and will make your next partner uncomfortable.

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Let me talk about my emotional experience. My boyfriend and I met after graduating from college. He was my first boyfriend and my later husband. They both take their feelings seriously, and so must you. Then after graduating from college, I ended my long-distance relationship and went to work in his city. Naturally, they lived together.

We have been in love for four years and got married, but it can be said that we entered the marriage life in advance from the beginning of love. Two people can be said to be the only ones in this big city who depend on each other. We all came to this city from a small county to survive and face many things in life together. Living together has brought us closer.

But the premise for me to live with my boyfriend is that I know him to a certain extent, and we are serious and sincere to each other without cheating.

After four years of love, we experienced a lot, quarreled a lot, got used to each other, and then naturally got married.

After marriage, my husband is still the same as before, because I have known him since I was in love. Our married life seldom quarrels, and we are already familiar with it.

Maybe some people will say that I am very lucky, because I talked about my first love and got married after living together for four years. But I want to say that my feelings for myself are clear, and I have seriously considered him before I decided to live with my boyfriend.

What's his popularity, personality, sense of responsibility and how much he loves me? Is he a reliable person? Will you respect me? After comprehensive consideration, I decided to live with him.

I didn't get tired of each other, but lived well together before marriage and got used to each other.

If you believe that you love him, not blindly, and you are relatives of each other in the same city, you can consider "cohabitation".

For people who have no home in the city, where their relatives are, their home is there, which is an emotional comfort and dependence.

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Can you accept living together in love? In response to this question, I interviewed five unmarried men and women to listen to their views on "love and cohabitation".

@ Miss Cat, 25 years old, a white-collar worker in a foreign company. Personally, I can accept living with my lover, as long as that person is loved by you and is good to you. It's nice to live together. Two people living together can save rent and feel at home.

My boyfriend and I work in Beijing, and the work pressure is great. It must be better for two people to live together, so that they can take care of each other. By the way, what I want to say is that the two of us will get the license next month. We get along naturally, and the relationship is harmonious, comfortable and happy.

@ Miss Liu, 30 years old, my parents won't agree, which is impossible for me because my parents won't agree. My parents and I live in the same city. How can they let me live with my boyfriend? It's impossible. I succeeded in persuading them to move out by themselves, that's all. My mother will come again every once in a while.

I don't think we should live together. It's better to keep some mystery to each other. If you live together, will you lose your feelings and get tired of each other when you get married? Besides, if you accidentally give birth to a child, the woman will suffer.

@ Zhang, a 26-year-old boy who just graduated from graduate school, I don't think boys will mind very much. I care more about girls. In case their boyfriends are unreliable, will they be rejected in future love?

Anyway, I personally don't mind. I can accept my girlfriend's past as well. It doesn't matter who you were with before. As long as you are with me now, I'm sure our relationship is fine.

Men should have a sense of responsibility Anyway, I will stay with my girlfriend until the end.

@ Mr. Chen, 32 years old, "Nothing, let's see if it's suitable." Personally, I think cohabitation is more like a kind of "try to love before marriage", but there is nothing inappropriate. After all, two people may not really know each other when they are in love. After living under the same roof, they will know each other better. If it doesn't suit them, they can break up, which is much better than getting married and then divorcing.

Love needs to grow and know each other better. I can accept it myself. You will have an agreement on the planning of two people's money.

Men are unreliable, and it is obvious that you will change when you get married.

@ Miss Luo, 27 years old, "Isn't cohabitation very common?" I think it's quite common for girls who live with their boyfriends. They don't even want to part hands after living for a long time. However, most of the girls who will live with their boyfriends are from other places. They have a common home and look after each other.

If you work in the same city, don't accept cohabitation, because parents will be strict.

In fact, in my opinion, love is something that needs to grow. Two people still need to know each other better, and they can only know what kind of person they are when they live together. I am very happy, too. There's nothing wrong with it.

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Do you want to live together in love? I suggest that it should be based on your specific actual situation.

But girls still have to date for more than half a year before agreeing to live with their boyfriends. Don't live together after only knowing each other for a month.

We can accept living together in love, but you have to measure this relationship yourself. After being together for half a year or being in love for many years, you have a general understanding of who you are. In this way, when you live together again, it will deepen each other's feelings and see if the other person is really suitable for you.

Those girls who have just known each other for a month or two and live with their boyfriends are confused about their feelings and have no clear understanding of their boyfriends. How did they get together? As a result of living together, you will probably separate, so girls will take more risks.

Remember Qiu Yingying in Ode to Joy? That's how her first love suffered. She moved in as soon as she fell in love. No wonder she was cheated by director Bai.

You should have a clear understanding of your feelings, know what kind of people you love, and live together under clear circumstances, instead of being confused and blind.

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