Talk to your husband about divorce skills (someone has taught you divorce negotiation skills)

When the marriage can't continue, the relationship has indeed broken down, and both parties may continue to live together, people who have experienced it tell you that peaceful divorce needs to pay attention to strategies! The following negotiation skills can make the other party accept the divorce peacefully. Try them:

Make it clear that you are determined to divorce.

Prepare divorce papers in advance and make corresponding compromises and concessions on child support and property division.

Find friends who are familiar and trusted by both sides, weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each other, and apply both hard and soft measures to promote the purpose of gathering and dispersing.

I don't know each other's psychology and negotiation skills. I failed to negotiate a divorce several times. Pepe and Li Ming have been married for nine years. Because they are far apart from each other, they are at odds with each other in life values, parenting and money, which is what everyone said. Three views disagree? ! There are also some daily chores in life that are full of contradictions.

For example, the man is greatly influenced by the economic conditions of his family, and attaches great importance to money. Li Ming is unwilling to bear the expenses of his family, and has always advocated AA system in marriage. And all kinds of living expenses at home are extremely stingy. For example, children have to struggle to buy an ice cream, which makes Pepe very dissatisfied.

For another example, the relationship between Pepe and her mother-in-law is also full of contradictions. The root of the problem is that Li Ming can't coordinate relations. And every time I send a message from both ends, as long as Pepe says her mother-in-law is wrong, Li Ming will tell her mother-in-law later. When her mother-in-law said that Pepe was wrong, Li Ming immediately told Pepe, accusing Pepe of being bad to her mother-in-law, making her wronged and bullying her mother-in-law. This is unacceptable to Pepe. She felt very sad. How could she find such a man with low emotional intelligence?

In addition, Li Ming is greatly influenced by his father-in-law and has a strong sense of male chauvinism. Li Ming thinks that housework and taking care of children are women's things. How can a man go into the kitchen to wash dishes and go to the bathroom to bathe and wash clothes for his children? Therefore, after nine years of marriage, Li Ming hardly went into the kitchen, let alone bathed the children.

Money, two people each earn their own money; Children, brought by parents; The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is full of contradictions. This made Pepe extremely depressed and felt that this marriage could not last any longer. After much consideration, Pepe finally asked Li Ming for a divorce. However, I told Li Ming eight times before and after the divorce, but he didn't agree. Every time he mentioned divorce, he treated it with indifference. This makes Pepe extremely depressed.

Pepe said the child must be hers, but Li Ming insisted that the child belonged to their Li family. Why did she give it to Pepe? Pepe said that the common property of married couples needs to be shared, but Li Ming said that the wedding room was bought by their in-laws. How dare Pepe ask for it?

To this end, two people had a fierce quarrel for divorce. In the case of Pepe, how does the divorced party accept it peacefully? In view of her situation, I specially visited several experienced people. After summing up their experience, I invited Pepe out for tea again and gave her the following three suggestions:

Make it clear that you are determined to divorce. Pepe filed for divorce eight times, but Li Ming refused. Is Li Ming really reluctant to part with this marriage? Does Li Ming really still love Pepe? Actually, I don't think so!

Pepe strongly demanded a divorce and didn't want to continue this tragic marriage for her. She said:? Sister Yu, I can make my own money, and my parents can help me with my children. For me, Li Ming is completely dispensable, but it has increased countless contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. He doesn't respect me either. What's the use of asking him? ?

I looked her in the eye and said, honey, look me in the eye and answer me, do you really want a divorce? ?

She looked me firmly in the eye and said, yes, I'm not kidding. I've thought about it. I want a divorce! ?

After confirming her attitude, I said to her: Since you have made up your mind, you should understand your attitude towards his resolute divorce. Let him know that you are serious, not joking with him. Besides, you can't fight hard with him, you must reason with him, understand with emotion and analyze with reason. You have to make it clear to him when he is in a good mood, and it's no use pestering him again. If you divorce, it's actually good for both sides. Not only that, but also for children. Children need to grow up in a loving family, not a family that quarrels all day. A family that quarrels all day has a great psychological influence on children. ?

Prepare divorce papers in advance and make corresponding compromises and concessions on child support and property division. Pepe told me about her family again: our wedding room is a down payment from his family, and we will repay the loan after marriage. There is also a 200,000 car, which my family married. A child. The child was brought up by her family, but her husband's family didn't bring it at all. He usually has nothing to take care of the children, and the children don't like him. Basically, they don't want him to hug them. Therefore, I can give in to the property, but the child can never give it to him. I talked with Li Ming about divorce eight times, but it didn't work out. Mainly because he pinched me with his child and said that you would never give you your divorced child. ?

As soon as I heard this, I knew what the problem was. It turned out that Pepe made a mistake that most mothers would make, and she couldn't bear to part with her children.

? You strongly demand a divorce, then you must make concessions. It's good that you can make concessions on the division of property. However, your uncompromising attitude towards the custody of your children has made him grasp your weakness, so he will use your children to praise you. In that case, why not communicate in another way? After you go back, you can talk to him about the conditions, prepare the divorce agreement in advance, and then tell him: the child can be yours, but you must go out clean and see how he chooses. If he doesn't agree, you can give him a choice to see if he cares about property or children. ? I calmly analyzed it for Pepe.

However, as soon as I said this, Pepe shook her head like a rattle: no, no, I can't live without children. You are also a mother. You should understand what children mean to a mother! I'd rather give him all my property. I have children, too! ?

Hey, take a look. This is a common problem of all stupid women. See children as everything, that's why men hold children!

Find friends who are familiar and trusted by both sides, weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each other, and apply both hard and soft measures to promote the purpose of gathering and dispersing. What should I do if I refuse to give up the custody of my child and want to achieve the purpose of divorce as much as possible?

I then said to Pepe:? Do you two have good friends and trustworthy people in common? ?

She thought for a moment and said? Yes, there are several others. He's a buddy. He used to be my high school classmate. One of his female colleagues is now my best friend. What's the matter? ?

As soon as I heard this, I was full of confidence: well, find a friend who is familiar and trusted by both of you to be your middleman. You said what you wanted, and you deliberately said that the child could be given to him. It is better for you to remarry. It is not easy to remarry after having children. See what he says. Remember, you must tell the middleman, weigh the pros and cons with your husband, and apply both hard and soft. In particular, we must profoundly grasp that he takes money very seriously. Because he takes money too seriously, he will never leave home clean. Don't worry! ?

Later, we talked about some details and then broke up. She has gone to do her work, and I just need to wait patiently for news.

A month later, she asked me to call: Fish, I finally divorced him peacefully. The custody of the child belongs to me, and he gives two thousand yuan in support every month. The house was down paid by his family. Although the joint property of husband and wife paid off the mortgage after marriage, I made a concession and gave him all the houses. Besides, I don't have a driver's license. He was driving a dowry car, and it was useless for me to ask for it, so I gave it to him. Perhaps it was this that made him see my determination to divorce and finally agreed with pleasure. Thank you! ?

Hearing the good news, I am happy for Pepe. She finally divorced and got custody of her daughter.

They can divorce peacefully, which is good for both of them and their children.

After all, if the husband and wife can't do it, try not to be enemies. Otherwise, it will be particularly embarrassing to meet again in the future. After all, there is a child in the middle, completely divorced. It may be more difficult for the parent who loses custody to see the child again.

Divorce is not terrible. The terrible thing is that people who once loved each other have become enemies. Too much emotion and energy were put into it, which finally caused a storm in this city. Both of them lost face and could not get a peaceful divorce.

Marriage can't go on. Break up peacefully, get together and part, and everyone is fine.

Best, or bless all people, can join hands with his son, grow old together!