Why do parents like forced marriage?

Forced marriage seems to be an eternal contradiction between unmarried young men and women and their parents. This is torture and torture in the name of love. It is torture for children and firm for parents. Therefore, every adult man and woman seems to have conflicts with their parents because of marriage problems. In the urging of parents again and again, many people rashly choose to marry the blind date they have known for a long time. After marriage, their children finally got married, and they can finally rest assured. But what will happen to their children after they get married?

In 2006, a sophomore I knew came from the countryside. Although he belongs to a relatively rich rural area in the plain, he has the old-fashioned idea that his father is the only one in the family, so everyone in the family has to obey his father's orders. When he was a sophomore, a friend of his father set out to introduce him. The girls who introduced him stayed at home after primary school and never worked outside. In their twenties, what they do every day is chatting with a group of middle-aged and elderly women at the entrance to the village. These two people grew up in completely different environments. The boy naturally disagreed, but the introducer was his father's friend. His father also thought that although he was still in college, he should get married at the age of 22, so they met once and got married three months later.

After three days of marriage, the man returned to school, and the woman continued to eat and chat at the village entrance every day at home. The man comes back on the 28th of New Year's Day every year and leaves after the third day. The first child was born in the fifth year after marriage, but the birth of the child still did not change the relationship between the two people. Men who have worked in other places for more than ten years still go home at the end of each year and leave after the new year. He once said: "Parents want daughters-in-law and grandchildren, and now they all have them. It makes no difference whether I can go back or not. " If I had known that his son's married life was like this, would his father, who had been talking all the time in "Crash into a Building", still insist on his own opinion?

Also around 2006, I can't remember the exact time. I know a 20-year-old girl who is very beautiful. At the age of 20, the small county doesn't go to college, and it has reached marriageable age. Girls are beautiful, people have good conduct, and there are naturally countless suitors. Parents often urge them to choose a suitor and get married quickly. The girl talked about her boyfriend for six years, and finally she didn't get together for some reasons. Now, parents are anxious. In their eyes, girls are too old to get married. Every time they go home, they are urged to stop being picky. Between the lines revealed that "you are so old, good children have long been picked away." If someone wants you, grab it. "

Girls have been indoctrinated with this idea for a long time and feel that they have no hope in this life, so they will soon be with a good boy. The blind date realized that it takes a month and a few days to get married. After marriage, I found out that the so-called home of boys is a business, has a house, and plans to buy a car but has never bought it. All this is a lie. The boy doesn't even have a serious job, and the living expenses at home depend entirely on his mother-in-law. After marriage, boys may also lose their temper every time they go home because they don't have a serious job and have too much income pressure. This family is often noisy.

Of course, there are not a few people who are forced by their parents to find someone to marry casually and live happily after marriage. But marriage is a lifetime thing, and it is necessary to know more before marriage. Although it is said that marriage is the grave of love, it is better for two people to go to the grave together with love than for two complete strangers.