Wang Han-style emotional intelligence: good at talking and dare to criticize others

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Speaking of hosts with high emotional intelligence, many people will think of Wang Han.

Entered the television industry at the age of 22, became popular in Hunan at the age of 25, and became famous nationwide at the age of 30.

Now that he is nearly fifty years old, his career is still in full swing and he lives a happy life with a wife and children.

As time flies by, the only thing that remains unchanged is Wang Han’s gentleness and elegance.

On the stage, he gives people a feeling of spring breeze.

Every word you say can take care of other people's feelings.

A reporter once asked Wang Han: "Who do you think is the number one brother of Hunan TV?"

The scene was in an uproar. This question was not easy to answer.

A positive answer can easily offend people, while silence can make you appear secretive.

As the two main pillars of Hunan TV, He Jiong and Wang Han are both very good hosts. They have their own strengths and weaknesses and are indistinguishable.

How to answer to get the best of both worlds?

Wang Han said: "Of course He Jiong is the first brother, and I am He Jiong's eldest brother."

It seems simple, but it has the effect of making a difference. It first affirms He Jiong, and then reflects The close relationship between the two.

Netizens praised Wang Han for being so good at talking.

Even He Jiong himself posted on Weibo afterwards to praise Wang Han's answer.

Once in Tiantianxiang, Wang Han also showed strong language skills.

At that time, he and Wu Jing talked about Tai Chi.

When I was a kid in the park, some old people practiced Tai Chi so well that they could push people far away with a gentle push.

"For example, where is your home, young man? East Third Ring Road, right? Let's go! One push and you're home."

Odie said: "I'm from Taiwan ! The distance is quite far, you have to push a few times."

Wang Han paused for a few seconds, held Ou Di's hand, and said: "Taiwan doesn't push, it has to be pulled back. ."

After listening, everyone applauded Wang Han's wit.

You know, the Taiwan issue was relatively sensitive at that time, but Odie's unintentional mistake was immediately corrected by him.

Wang Han vividly embodies high emotional intelligence with one mouth.

In psychology, people with high emotional intelligence are not just good at talking.

Instead, he has strong emotional control ability.

In general, it can be divided into "controlling emotions", "guiding emotions" and "expressing emotions".

In these aspects, Wang Han is very comprehensive.

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／Control emotions／

As the highest person in charge on the stage, the host pays attention to the ability to control the scene.

Sometimes, it doesn’t hurt to have a few details, but the scene must not be messy.

Especially in the face of emergencies, we must be able to find solutions in time to prevent stage accidents.

In 2015, the finals of "I Am a Singer" were broadcast live nationwide.

In the middle and late stages of the competition, Sun Nan interrupted the program and announced her withdrawal without consulting anyone.

This made everyone present, including director Hong Tao, panic.

This incident later became known as Mango Channel’s “Seven Black Minutes.”

It is said that the director who was in charge of Sun Nan at the time was so frightened that he cried on the spot.

In such a difficult situation, host Wang Han bravely stood up.

Dedicated a textbook-level divine rescue.

In the face of emergencies, Wang Han remained calm in the face of danger and perfectly controlled his emotions.

Then there are the emotions of the participating singers, staff and audience.

Without any preparation, every sentence is so meticulous, coherent and layered:

First of all, set aside time.

After confirming the situation, Wang Han immediately asked the director to prepare advertising time.

This is to tell the team that I can support for a while, but you should quickly make time for me to communicate.

Then, clarify responsibilities.

Under pressure, mistakes are inevitable.

Wang Han said that he only represented his personal views because he was afraid that any slip of the tongue would have a negative impact on Hunan Satellite TV. It was a textbook classic.

After stabilizing the situation on the scene, he began to appease his emotions.

As long as emotions don’t get out of control, everything can return to the normal track of communication.

Wang Han returned his attention to the remaining six singers and the audience.

The words, "If you don't believe it, just listen!" appeased everyone.

At this point, everyone's emotions have been firmly controlled by Wang Han.

Finally, it’s time to enter the pre-prepared advertising time, and then communicate with the team.

Many times, it is not difficult to speak, nor is it difficult to say something nice.

It is difficult to remain calm and calm under pressure, which makes people convinced.

What kind of cultivation and foundation is this.

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／Guide emotions／

In daily work, such big scenes do not always happen.

More importantly, when others are embarrassed and embarrassed, you should step down for others.

Wang Han once collaborated with Liu Qian on a show - "Gold Medal Magic Group".

At that time, Liu Qian had just finished his Spring Festival Gala, which was very popular for a while, but there were also a lot of controversies. Various revelations and complaints came in droves on the Internet.

During the first episode of the program recording, Liu Qian was maliciously "besieged" by some contestants.

One of the contestants dressed up as a clown and performed money magic tricks.

Liu Qian commented, "The performance was very good, but the costumes did not match the performance."

This sentence is not only not venomous, but also expresses recognition of the player's level.

However, the other party found it difficult to accept such an evaluation and claimed to be "the number one comedy magician in China."

He angrily said to Liu Qian: "I have seen through all the magic tricks you performed, and I can now tell you how those magic tricks are performed!"

Then, he deciphered Liu Qian's performance in the Spring Festival Gala on the spot A magic trick performed.

This move made Liu Qian instantly furious: "If a magician reveals magic tricks on the stage, then he is not worthy of standing on the stage!"

Seeing the stalemate in the scene, Liu Qian was like a hot pot. It is difficult for an ant to step down.

Wang Han said slowly to the contestants:

"I think cracking magic does not mean how smart you are. Creating magic is the real wisdom."

"You must not forget that there are thousands of people who can crack magic, but there is only one magician who creates magic, hiding in a dark house, racking his brains to create."

"So the magician He is worthy of our respect. He delighted everyone with his wisdom." After speaking, Liu Qian smiled. The player knew he was wrong and left the stage dejectedly, and the scene also rang. applause.

In just a few words, everyone's emotions were put on the right track.

Many people believe that people with high emotional intelligence can set people up for others.

In Wang Han’s opinion, it can also allow you to walk up the stairs.

During a Hunan Satellite TV investment promotion meeting, there was a link where Wang Han led Brother Tiantian to say a few words.

Wang Han said a few polite words first, and then said:

"We can all write the word ' Zhao ', next to the handle, add a knife, and below it, there is a mouth. It’s said that we are here with a knife.”

“This year, through everyone’s efforts, we have made the cake of Hunan Satellite TV bigger and better.”

"Now we hold the knife, cut the cake into pieces, and put it in front of everyone to share!"

In this way, Wang Han easily made the donors smile and pay willingly.

Some people say that Wang Han has achieved perfection in how to guide emotions.

He is like a step-builder, holding bricks in his hand to help others pave a path.

No matter where you go, you feel very comfortable.

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／Express emotions／

People with high emotional intelligence are not blindly tactful, nor are they blindly trying to please.

They can express their emotions at the appropriate time.

For a while, Shen Mengchen frequently made headlines on hot searches.

In the program "Mars Intelligence Agency", she wore a sleeveless skirt into an off-the-shoulder skirt for several consecutive episodes.

Even though the dress itself is not off-the-shoulder, the shoulder straps keep being pulled down.

It is in sharp contrast to other dignified female guests.

Such behavior aroused the dissatisfaction of the host Wang Han.

When talking about time travel with Hua Chenyu, Shen Mengchen deliberately pulled up his clothes to expose his entire left shoulder.

Wang Han complained seriously: "Mengchen, can you put your clothes on first before traveling through time?"

Expressing his emotions directly without turning around.

Faced with criticism, Shen Mengchen had no choice but to tidy up his clothes.

In the variety show "Wild Kitchen", Wang Han also showed a severe side.

In the show, the guest Li Dan behaved very lazily, sitting instead of lying down, and even standing very little time.

When I saw others working, I just reluctantly got up to help, and after a while, I lay back down again.

In one episode, Wang Han was going to take everyone fishing in the morning. Lin Yanjun asked Li Dan if he wasn’t going?

Wang Han said directly that Li Dan couldn't get up, and his tone was very dissatisfied.

Later, Li Dan delayed the filming of the crew because he slept in.

Wang Han also got angry directly and asked Li Dan to apologize to everyone.

People with high emotional intelligence never keep all their emotions in their hearts.

They can vent when appropriate and point out the shortcomings of others.

Also know how to let emotions flow instead of suffocating yourself to death.

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Wang Han’s high emotional intelligence is not something he is born with, nor is he born elegant, nor can he develop it in a day.

When he was young, Wang Han graduated from a technical secondary school but never went to university.

He entered Hunan Satellite TV with nothing to do, and could only do odd jobs in the production team with two young boys, Li Weijia.

Being young and inexperienced, Wang Han had only one idea in his heart, and he didn’t know how to behave in the world. He did everything he did with heart and joy.

As a result, they became the happiest stage managers, carrying chairs to the studio every day.

There were 256 spectators at the scene, each with more than 50 gifts:

Braised egg powder, light bulbs, faucets, noodles, soy sauce...

Plastics are removed every day Putting gifts in a bag seems trivial and boring to outsiders.

But Wang Han feels like he has been given a shot of blood, showing no signs of fatigue.

Later, Wang Han became the on-site director, telling jokes to the audience, livening up the atmosphere, and leading the audience to applaud.

Wang Han applauded vigorously in every program.

Once, the station manager came to watch a program on site. Seeing how hard Wang Han was working, he approached and chatted for a few words.

I found that his hands had turned red from clapping hard continuously.

Soon, Wang Han became a director and also served as the host of an internal party.

The station director was willing to give Wang Han a chance because he felt a positive atmosphere in him.

Wang Han said: "I am very happy to do everything. No matter what the situation, I will accept it."

People with high emotional intelligence have a *** The only thing they have in common is their love of life.

In them, you can feel an optimistic mood.

Inspire yourself and inspire others.

Whenever you feel that life is cruel, his actions can give you a sense of hope.

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Loving life is the first step to a life with high emotional intelligence.

But if you don’t have culture, you can only become a happy mediocre at best.

Therefore, for decades, Wang Han worked very hard and never went to karaoke bars or bars.

He is very clear about his career development, which is to be a host.

For this reason, he hid at home and read every day, often from nine o'clock in the evening to seven o'clock in the morning.

Keep chewing the sentences or some thoughts that you think are good in your heart.

Sometimes I even repeat the practice in front of the mirror, just to be more natural when speaking.

When we watch the programs hosted by Wang Han, we are often attracted by his knowledge and wisdom.

Brigitte Lin once praised Wang Han: "Every time I listen to you speak, it's like listening to an excellent prose."

The elegance and calmness in him are exactly what is hidden in him. In the good books he had read.

The calmness and ease of rescue on stage are all due to the accumulation of daily life.

He knows what he wants and what he wants to bring to others.

Wang Han once wondered what a variety show host should do.

Years of reading allowed him to find the answer, which is to make "poems, books, rituals and music easy to read".

The language is the same as the poem, the twists and suspense are the same as the book, the moderation is the same as etiquette, the rhythm is the same as music, the changes are the same as Yi and the spring and autumn are as clear.

These seven words allowed him to reach a state where "the emotions of joy, anger, sorrow and joy are not expressed yet, but when they are expressed, they are all in harmony".

In the program, Wang Han rarely uses the cliché "Let us welcome him with warm applause."

He thought it was rude.

"Language should be short and beautiful. I hope my program has attitude."

In Wang Han's view, working hard is not only to make money, but also to accommodate one's dreams and feelings. .

As he said in "Taste":

"I believe that the real good things and good taste in life are unspeakable. They are sometimes covered with worldly things. Clothes, hiding in some unworldly places. "

Wang Han is a layman, but also a free hermit. He has no restrictions and can leisurely watch the flowers bloom and fall, and the clouds roll and relax.

Perhaps, living in compliance with your heart is the highest level of emotional intelligence.