Think from someone else’s perspective and forgive your children for their imperfections as human beings

I believe all mothers have the experience of accompanying their children to online classes. Have you ever experienced a moment when your baby’s performance in class made you furious, such as being distracted in class, fiddling with things at hand, or not responding to the teacher in class? Questions that don’t use your brain and so on. Even if you are full of anger, you must try your best to suppress it, because if you lose your temper, you will not be able to attend the online class.

Take yesterday, for example, I accompanied my daughter to a thinking class. The teacher asked a question and asked the children to raise their hands to answer. The girl raised her hand, so the teacher called her first. She hesitated and said: "The wrong hand was raised." The teacher didn't hear her clearly and was still guiding her to answer. She looked at it hesitantly. I glanced at me for help. I was silent for a while. Seeing that she still didn't answer the teacher, I told her the answer in order to end it quickly.

I wanted to criticize her at that time. Now that I had the opportunity, I would tell her what I thought. It didn’t matter whether she was right or wrong. However, on second thought, maybe she was not sure whether what she said was right or not, and was afraid of losing face if she said the wrong thing. So, most of my anger was gone, and I realized my problem, so I left, leaving her alone to take online classes.

Now when I think about when I was in school, I was not so active in answering the teacher’s questions. Many times I knew the answer in my heart and didn’t want to say it, or I was not sure whether the answer was correct or not, for fear of being laughed at if I said it wrong. Also at work, when asked to express opinions, don’t you hesitate and don’t want to speak? However, when you are a parent, you require your children to be proactive, preferably stunning, and require your children to perform perfectly in all aspects. Isn't this also a double standard? Learn to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, forgive your children’s imperfections as humans, be less harsh on your children, praise your children more for their shining points, and let go of your obsession with perfection. Only in this way can you gain a good parent-child relationship. Only with a good parent-child relationship can the children be willing to cooperate with your chicken baby plan and achieve our ultimate goal.