Is this the most basic way for a mature person to not dwell on bad people and bad things?

Cry when you want, laugh when you want, and speak when you want to say. Probably, only when you are a child, will it be considered a characteristic of this age group.

In the adult world, what is important is that joy and anger should not be expressed in color, and likes and dislikes should not be expressed in words.

The distance between childishness and maturity begins with being able to deal with unbearable people and things.

Able to deal with mean leaders.

The master leads you in. Cultivation is personal. Meeting a good leader or boss is like finding a good master. He will always give you tips and teach you, and he will also criticize and beat you. No matter whether he laughs or scolds you, or asks you to train in multiple positions, he is all about cultivating you, training you, and ultimately achieving you!

In the workplace, meeting a good leader also requires excellent luck and deep fate.

Most of the time, people will encounter mean leaders. He is always picking on you, blaming you, and blaming you. Taking myself as an example, I feel extremely frustrated at work.

The female boss dresses up every day, walks step by step, speaks in a coquettish manner, and only sees the powerful and her superiors. For a person like me who only works hard and has a plain face, her face is like a Disgust in capital letters.

And work is a prop for her to dominate. How do I know this? Didn’t I ask you to do it a long time ago? ?Early in the morning, she came to my office with a stack of documents and asked angrily.

Needless to say, I also know that the copy she printed last time was lost again, and now her superior is pressing for it. She couldn’t find it for a while, and came to vent her anger on me again.

When I first encountered this situation, I felt like the sky was falling in. I kept blaming myself for not being more prepared. While hurriedly printing, I apologized profusely, feeling that I was truly sorry for the salary I received.

But *** has been working for five years, and she has always been like this. She never does anything, and basically can’t figure out how to do it. She only cares about one thing, reporting work. I was the one to do all the big and small things. She just gave orders and took away the good things from me with a sideways glance. After that, her superiors would point out what was not done well.

I am no longer surprised by her incompetence, her shamelessness, and her rogueness.

I held my breath, let her get angry, and then asked calmly: "What do you need from me now?" ? Hurry up and get me another copy! ?As expected, she shouted angrily.

I knew that the format of the document was wrong, so I quickly called the typing room and asked them to help adjust the format. I pretended to be anxious and said, "I told you last time, why haven't you done it yet?" Okay? ?

I then turned back and reported to her: ?Do you need a file in a standard format? ?

She blushed and said: Of course, there is no need to ask. ?

Seeing her anxious look, I was not anxious at all. Over the years, she has never seen how much laborious work I have done. This time, let her experience it and be angry if she wants.

This document has more than 20 pages. By the time I printed it, she had been pacing back and forth in my office for more than 40 minutes. During this period, she kept mumbling and I pretended not to hear.

When she left my office angrily, I breathed a long sigh of relief. This feeling was so good!

Even though I am already in my forties, it seems that I have matured from this moment on. In the past, I would just accept this mean leader and let him scold me, make fun of me in front of others, and even slander me for my low ability and quality. I can't refute it, and there's nothing I can do about it.

I often ask myself to be perfect, but in the end, I found that she didn’t understand it at all and had no intention of understanding it. In terms of professional ability, she was completely behind me.

It’s just that she is good at catering, good at sowing discord, and good at asking for credit and rewards. These are all her strengths.

And existence is reasonable, and she can continue to run rampant, so why don't I know how to adapt?

I just need to do things well. As for when she needs it, there is really no need for me to send it over in a hurry, because in that case, she will just pretend that she didn’t see it and blame me. Don't understand taste.

If I can get along with such an unbearable leader without arguing or arguing, and still get things done, I will give him a big thumbs up. Indeed, I no longer spend any thoughts with her, and feel indifferent to such ugly behavior from the bottom of my heart. I have walked this road for five years.

It was very painful, but fortunately, I finally got out of it.

When a person matures and has experienced such a mental journey, he will understand that there is too much ugliness and imperfection in this world. The only way to protect yourself from harm is to be with him. Draw a clear line, treat it as a passerby, treat it as a joke, you only need to watch from a distance, watch with cold eyes, don't get angry, don't get angry, but the premise is that you must be the person who can do things and let others Never find your fault.

In this way, no matter what the other party says or does, they can have a clear conscience and be prepared.

Able to get along harmoniously with cunning colleagues.

There are very few people who can develop colleagues into friends. The root cause is that all colleagues, no matter how close their relationship is on the surface, have competing interests. No matter how good your colleagues are, they will fall out once their own interests are involved.

You are putting your heart and soul into it, but others are plotting behind your back. Only when you fall down hard will you suddenly realize, "Preventing fire, theft, and co-workers" is really not a joke.

Liu Ping and I applied for this company on the same day. We are similar in age and have similar hobbies. Naturally, we rented the same room. After getting along day and night, I realized that Liu Ping was not that easy to get along with.

For example, when I was working overtime, she would bring a group of friends to the rental house to play. When I came back tired, she would get up and leave. The house was full of mess, but she would not take the initiative to clean it up. .

What makes me even more frightened is that because we are both engaged in copywriting and planning, whenever there is a project, Liu Ping always talks from me sentence by sentence, but I have no defense and feel that I can Just try your best to help.

But it turned out that I was tricked by myself.

Liu Ping won recognition and appreciation from her superiors with her outstanding copywriting, and all her creativity actually came from my own ideas.

I feel that I can no longer dance with the wolf.

I immediately left the shared house. At work, he also began to deliberately keep a distance from Liu Ping.

But I understand that on the surface they are still as close as sisters.

Be able to face your bad ex head on.

My best friend Alin has been very depressed these days, and she cried to me.

It turned out that her son was going to study in the city and needed a room in a school district. She had left home before and had no savings. With the idea of ??giving it a try, I asked my son to find his father. After all, it is not difficult for him to buy a house in the city.

But the son’s words were of no use. The ex-husband refused because he had no money. Just when Arin was about to give up, his ex-husband called and said that he had bought a house in a school district, but it would take three years to hand over the house. Therefore, his son still could not enjoy the qualifications to enroll in a house in a school district.

To be clear, I don’t regard my son as my son. A Lin was very worried, but there was nothing he could do.

But she reflected on what she had done, wasn’t it because she still had some illusions about her ex-husband. When he got divorced, he chose not to have children. For several years, he couldn't afford the living expenses of 600 yuan a month. But the kind-hearted Arin always believes that blood is thicker than books, and as a father, he will still feel sorry for his son after all.

But facts have repeatedly shown that her ex-husband is so indifferent to his son. Arin said that he was still angry and cried. However, after crying, I wiped away my tears and finally deleted my ex-husband’s contact information that I had long wanted to delete.