What should I do if I break my word with my child?

These will cast a shadow over your relationship with your children, and your relationship will also fade. So, what should parents do if they break their promises to their children? 1, can't take the baby to the zoo "why are you crying? What's interesting about the zoo! Smells like a stink; Besides, it's not like you haven't been there before, and so is the animal show. " Or "Do you want to ride a horse? Do you want to see how milk is expressed? What's interesting about the zoo? Animals there are not allowed to touch! Good boy, I won't go to the zoo. Next Sunday, my mother is free. Shall I take you to the ranch? " Psychoanalysis: Often parents find that "let's go to a new place next time" can't effectively solve their children's sense of loss. Children will cry and go to the "old place" and resent your failure. Psychologically speaking, babies have narrower horizons than adults. Every time they go to an old place like the zoo, they will find some "new fun", so they will not get bored easily. What's more, it is the most risky and taboo to promise a new promise before practice. If you don't even have time to go to the ranch next time, the baby will hardly believe you. Even if you take your child to the ranch next time, you will find that your child is not as interested in the ranch as the zoo, and you still owe him a promise to go to the zoo. To put it another way: you might as well "forge" the letter from the animal star (written in the tone of the breeder), saying that the little monkey was caught in the rain recently and was ill; Or orangutans eat too many bananas and have diarrhea. "I hope the baby will come back when they are ready!" ""When we are ready, the new program for the puppy will be practiced. You must come and see it. When will you practice the new program? We'll call your mother and tell her. " In this way, postponing going to the zoo has become the baby's active choice, and the unhappiness of "breaking an appointment" will not affect the mood of mother and child. 2. Let the nanny accompany the baby to take a vaccination. "You are such a little grinding child! Why doesn't the injection hurt? Does it hurt to go with mom and dad? Joke! It was the doctor's injection, not mom and dad's. It doesn't matter who accompanies you! Tell you what, call the doctor and ask her to call gently, okay? "Psychoanalysis: Almost all children will have an instinct when facing the pressure of injection and dental care, that is, when they are pregnant with their parents, they lean forward and drill around. This shows that children need family protection to face the test of pain and discomfort. In this sense, it is relatively painless for mom and dad to accompany the vaccination. What makes children sad is that, in fact, it is mom and dad who are faithless and impatient! To put it another way: "Mom and Dad were going to accompany you, but the nurse aunt who listened to the injection said that this time it was about' brave baby'. Any baby who is not accompanied by his parents and does not cry after the injection will get a medal (small toy, big lollipop, etc.). ). Mom and Dad really want the baby to be this brave baby, so let the nanny lead you. "In order to make this white lie more" round ",mom and dad can call the nurse who vaccinated and ask her to give the baby an award after vaccination. Of course, the prize can be "secretly" given to the nurse by the nanny in advance. I can't go to Hong Kong Disneyland for the time being. Mei Mei, when they came back, they all said they were sunburned, tired and thirsty. Those Mickey Mouse Donald Duck were pretending to be human, which was really boring. Might as well go home and watch Mickey Mouse's CD! How about watching Mickey Mouse together? Mom will take time to buy you a Mickey Mouse schoolbag later! " Psychoanalysis: In the baby's mind, Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck in cartoons are his companions, full of life, joy and sadness. Therefore, don't expose the truth of Disney for your own convenience. Fantasy is a beautiful emotion given to children by animated stories. For most people, this kind of emotion will naturally be shattered with the growth of age, but it does not mean that the fantasy that once existed is redundant and ridiculous. A schoolbag or a T-shirt printed with Mickey Mouse can't quench the thirst for "fantasy come true". To put it another way: you can tell your baby to postpone the plan and divert his attention so that his mood will not be entangled in "not next time, I will go this time." You can say to your baby, "I heard that Mickey Mouse is going back to America. I wonder if it will still be there when we go to Disney next month. Call Mickey Mouse at once! " You can find a friend to play the voice actor, imitate Mickey Mouse or Donald Duck and talk to the baby, and tell him that they won't go back to the United States for a holiday until they meet him! In this way, the baby's attention will shift to "what small gift should I give Mickey Mouse". Mom is ill and can't go to the seaside. "How can you be a little inconsiderate and unfilial?" It's not that mom doesn't want to take you. Mom has a high fever. How can you tread on water and pile sand like this? "Psychoanalysis: three or four-year-old babies have no empathy. They are generally taken care of in every possible way, thinking that adults will not get sick, and only babies will get sick. Therefore, hearing his mother accuse him of "unfilial" and "inconsiderate", the baby is at a loss. Babies understand that their parents' consciousness is not innate. You can take this opportunity to let him know that an adult is sick and what a good baby should do when his parents are sick. If he covers you with a doll's towel, you should thank him. At the same time, don't forget that you still owe him a chance to play with sand. To put it another way: "Last time, my baby wanted to go to the inflatable city, because I couldn't cough, so my mother went with me when my baby was well;" "This time, my mother was ill. Although the baby really wants to go to the seaside, can he wait until his mother is well? " If you ask this question, nine out of ten babies will nod. At the same time, you will find that the attraction of the beach to the baby is similar to that of the bunker downstairs. It will be several years before the baby can feel the beauty of the natural landscape. Now, his narrow-minded eyes only have fun sand. As parents, we all hope to fulfill our promises to our children one by one. If you have to cancel the appointment, you should tell the child the real reason first. For example, mom is not feeling well today and wants to rest at home, so she can't accompany you to the children's playground. Through such words, children understand a lot of truth. First: not all agreements will be fulfilled as scheduled; Second: adults need to rest at home when they are sick; Third: there is a reason for breaking an appointment. When children show negative emotions after hearing the news of breaking a promise, parents should understand their emotions and give them appropriate comfort. For example, you can say, "Mom knows that you really want to go to the children's playground, but now there are only you and mom at home. Mom is sick and can't take you.