Why can't ancient women eat "second tea"?

"Kan river mouth is a slave, if lang is free to drink tea. Building a wall and building a house in loess, there are bauhinia in front of the door. " This is Zhuzhi Ci written by Zheng Banqiao, a famous painter in Qing Dynasty, and it is also a popular folk song in the south of the Yangtze River, which shows that it has become a folk custom to express love through tea. Lang ruo comes to drink tea in his spare time. You see, there is a girl under the burning bauhinia who invited her to have tea at home and left her home address and house number. The scene in the poem makes people daydream.

Besides, tea is an indispensable item in engagement and marriage. In ancient times, due to the limitation of scientific and technological level, it was generally believed that tea trees were not suitable for transplanting, so most of them used tea seeds to grow tea directly. For example, Lu Yu's "Tea Classic" said, "It is rare to plant any art that is untrue." In order to put the idea of "obedience" into marriage, tea not only becomes a prelude to marriage-a symbol of engagement, but also a symbol of wedding. After the Tang Dynasty, countries in the north and south called engagement "receiving tea", marriage "eating tea", engagement deposit "tea gold", bride price "tea ceremony", bridal chamber "Hehe tea" and "osmanthus tea", and New Year greetings "worshiping tea" and "kneeling tea". In the Tang Dynasty, Princess Wencheng married Songzan Gambu in Tibet, accompanied by tea and Tao Wei. The spread of Tibetan tea began after marriage.

Since the Ming and Qing Dynasties, "tea ceremony" (commonly known as "tea") has become more popular. Jin Ping Mei has described the tea ceremony many times. Ruan Kuisheng of A Qing Dynasty wrote in Tea Passers-by that Huainan people gave the betrothal gift, "Under the precious coins, the tea was lined up and even the bottles were given to relatives and friends." Fogg of A Qing Dynasty also said in Listening to the Rain and Reading: "In this wedding, tea is used as currency, and it is not necessary for the official residence." In the 25th episode of A Dream of Red Mansions, Daiyu went to the Garden one day and met Xifeng and others. There is such a description: Lin Daiyu said with a smile: "Listen, it's like eating a little tea from their house and then ordering people around them." Feng smiled and said, "Please gossip. Since you have eaten our tea, why don't you be our wife? " Hearing this, everyone laughed together. Although Xifeng is joking, she is justified. In the past, people's custom was that if men and women liked each other after meeting, the man gave a dowry and the woman accepted it, and the marriage was settled. This woman is even a "tea drinker". If she is hired by another company, she will be a "second tea eater" and will be looked down upon.

Today, in the marriage customs of many ethnic minorities in China, we can still see various relationships with tea. Yao Man should bring tea and cigarettes when she proposes. Brown people propose marriage with sour tea. De 'ang people proposed several times, all with tea. Wa wedding should have tea, bananas and wine. Salar men ask matchmakers to give gifts, called "betrothal tea", usually a pair of earrings and a piece of tea. The engagement gift of Baoan people in Jishishan, Gansu Province is generally tea, which is called "taking tea". After the wedding date of the Lahu nationality in Yunnan is determined, the man should send tea, salt, wine, rice and firewood as a dowry, and other gifts can be given without tea. There is a saying among the Lahu people: "You can't get married without tea". In Dongxiang nationality, there are several packets of superior tea in the dowry, and the engagement is called "ordering tea". In addition, Dong people used to "withdraw tea". Marriage is arranged by parents. Girls don't want to, just put the tea in the man's house and turn around and leave. If she is not caught by that man, she will be retired.