There are 3 things not to say and 5 things not to do in rural areas. If you get it wrong, the consequences will be very bad.

In rural areas, funerals are a big event. Funeral customs are slightly different in different regions, but they all reflect people's nostalgia for their deceased relatives and are a concrete manifestation of our country's "filial piety" culture. .

Doing a "white matter" is not as simple as burying it directly. There are many things to pay attention to. There are three things to keep in mind. If you get it wrong, it will be a joke.

There are three things not to say:

One thing not to say: Don’t say "death" when announcing a funeral

As the saying goes, people cannot be resurrected after death. In our country, we often use " "Dead" to express that a person has passed away.

However, in funeral activities, the word "death" is very taboo, as it is considered disrespectful to the deceased and a sign that future generations are not polite.

Therefore, when announcing a funeral, try to use the word "go" as much as possible.

Especially when notifying relatives and friends, pay more attention to the words used to announce the funeral.

Er no need to say: Carrying the coffin does not matter the importance

In the folk, if it is a burial mode, the descendants of the strong men closest to the elderly are usually asked to carry the coffin, which means that the coffin is delivered personally. The old man's last journey.

The coffin itself is relatively heavy, especially for some families. The coffin itself may be made of heavier wood, and there are many burial objects inside the coffin, so carrying the coffin is not an easy task.

However, there is a folk custom that when carrying the coffin, one cannot talk about the importance. Even if it is very difficult to carry the coffin, one cannot mention it.

In addition, if the coffin is too heavy, you can tie a strong rope to the coffin to prevent it from falling to the ground.

Three Don'ts: Don't talk about retaining the guests after they have dispersed

Folks believe that the greatest things for a person are nothing more than happy events and happy events.

If the family members contact you after the death of an old man, you should go to this family to express condolences as soon as possible.

After all the funeral matters are over, the guests also have to return to their homes.

The ancients had a tradition of hospitality. If relatives and friends came to visit on weekdays, the head of the household would usually ask them to stay when they left.

But in funeral activities, when the guests leave, the head of the household cannot retain them.

Other funeral customs:

1. Do not visit during the mourning period

The seven days after the death of a loved one are called the mourning period among the people.

In ancient times, the mourning period was very important. No matter what important events happened to the children in a foreign country, they had to return to their hometown and stay at home beside their loved ones. They wore sackcloth and mourning, knelt down and worshiped in the mourning hall, and were not allowed to leave.

With the development of society, although this custom has gradually disappeared, people believe that it is best not to go out to visit relatives during the mourning period, because people believe that after a person dies, there will be "bad luck" "If this family visits relatives, it will bring bad luck to others.

Because, after the death of a loved one, the descendants usually stay at home for seven days.

2. Family members should stay by the bedside

After the death of a loved one, the family members are the busiest. They not only have to prepare various funeral matters, but also have to stay with the elderly.

In ancient times, wealthy families had great undertakings. If an elderly member of the family passed away, all they had to do was stay by his side wearing sackcloth and mourning. The rest of the work of notifying relatives and friends and preparing for the funeral was left to the servants. Do it.

Nowadays, when an ordinary family encounters such a thing, the descendants must contact other relatives as soon as possible, and then the elder’s immediate family members, such as children, etc., must stay with the elder and not leave. Funeral matters are generally handled by other relatives. Organized by relatively close relatives.

3. The head cannot be placed on the coffin

The position where the old man lies in the coffin is also very particular. Chinese people are more particular about being down-to-earth, especially after death, they must implement this. a little.

Therefore, after the old man dies, people close to him usually help put on the shroud, put soft cushions and pillows in the coffin, and then place the old man in the coffin.

When putting the old man into the coffin, be careful to put the old man's feet against one end of the coffin, which means that he is down to earth and will be able to feel at ease when he goes to another world after death and will not drift outside.

4. Be careful about burial

After all the preparations are done, you can prepare for the burial.

In rural areas, "white affairs" are usually carried out by burial. A "feng shui treasure land" is selected and the elderly are buried here.

During burial, you need to use a hoe to dig a big hole first, and then put the old man's coffin into it.

When digging a hole, the children usually dig three times with hoes first, and send the old man away personally on behalf of the children.

If there are many children in the family, the children will be dug three times in order from oldest to youngest, and the elderly will be sent away.

5. Send off the relatives after the funeral

As we all know, after the death of the Empress Dowager Cixi, there was a big luminous pearl in her mouth. In fact, there has always been this custom among the people, which is called sending off the relatives after the funeral. .

After the death of a relative, the descendants will put something in the mouth of the relative, such as coins or night pearls. The more precious the thing is, the more property the family has.

Poor families in ancient times would put one-cent coins in the mouths of their loved ones after their relatives passed away. Nowadays, ancient coins are becoming less and less, and some families will put one-yuan coins in the mouths of their deceased relatives.

In short, the funeral ceremony in rural areas is still very grand. After the death of a loved one, the whole family and even relatives and friends will come to express their condolences.

During this period, there were also many funeral customs. The above eight customs are common among the people. What other funeral customs do you know?