What psychology is sour grapes?

This is an old fable about a fox and grapes. So, what is the psychology of saying that grapes are sour if you can't eat them? Let me introduce you next. If you can't eat grapes, it's sour grapes.

If you can't eat grapes, it's a literary psychology. Literary decoration refers to a person looking for reasons to defend himself in order to cover up the behavior that is easy to be teased by others. Or skillfully prove that the feelings and behaviors he can't stand are what he can stand. What is the literary psychology

There are two manifestations of literary psychology: one is to transfer the object of venting. Originally, I encountered setbacks or failures, and I should condemn myself and criticize myself, but I blamed the environment or others. If someone fails in the exam, they don't look for reasons from themselves, but complain that the teacher didn't teach well, the exam environment was too noisy, and they couldn't settle down for the exam.

second, make fun of yourself and enjoy yourself. Since you can't get what you want, you say what you can't get is the worst, and what you get is regarded as the best even if it is not good. If someone always wants to be promoted to a professor, but fails because of poor performance, he turns his dissatisfaction into? Sour grape psychology? Spread around saying:? What does the professor stand for? Comment on the last professor who earned only a few hundred yuan more a year. The psychology reflected in the story of fox and grape

A fox ran under the grape trellis and tried to steal grapes. The first fox ran under the old farmer's grape trellis and looked at the tall grapes on the tree, but it couldn't reach them. Finally, it said to the grapes, This grape is too sour! ? The second fox ran under the old farmer's grape trellis, looked at the tall grapes on the tree and swore: Damn old farmer, who told you to plant grapes so high? ? As a result, the old farmer was attracted to kill it with a hoe. The third fox ran under the old farmer's grape trellis, looked at the tall grapes on the tree and said, I will make up my mind not to be afraid of sacrifice. ? I started jumping endlessly, and finally I was exhausted under the grape trellis. The fourth fox ran under the old farmer's grape trellis, looked at the tall grapes on the tree and began to blame himself. How can I be so useless! ? I was so angry that I died of a tumor.

we used to laugh? Can't eat grapes and say that grapes are sour? But from a psychological point of view, the first fox is the cleverest. Although its purpose was not achieved, it came back alive. Because it correctly recognizes its own ability, works hard to do it, and can eliminate the frustration that it can't achieve its goal. Correctly treat the sour grapes

1. First, we should realize that the psychology of decoration is a self-defense measure to treat the symptoms rather than the root cause. Its positive role is to maintain a short-term self-esteem and psychological balance, and to prevent excessive behavior due to anger. Just like painkillers, taking one tablet when you have a headache temporarily stops the headache, and the effect is still good. If you always treat your headache in this way, it will not only lead to drug resistance, but also delay your serious illness. If you comfort yourself with literary psychology when you encounter setbacks or failures, you will easily develop the psychology of escaping from reality, make yourself depressed, make no progress, and form a morbid personality, which will affect your progress and health. Therefore, the psychological disadvantages of abusing cultural ornaments outweigh the advantages, which cannot be taken lightly.

2. Second, learn to know yourself correctly and dare to face setbacks or failures. It is not strange to encounter setbacks or failures on the road of life. As long as you work hard and have an enterprising spirit, you will inevitably miss them. The problem is how to deal with setbacks or failures when they patronize you. If you resort to literary psychology, you can only get temporary peace, but what you lose is the lofty goal. If you face setbacks or failures, calmly analyze the reasons and find out the lessons, but it can find out the crux of the problem for you. How to adjust your mentality

1. Learn to care for yourself. Only by caring more about yourself can you care more about others. If you have enough ability, you should try your best to help those you can, so that you will get some happiness, help others more and be kind to yourself, which is also a way to relieve stress.

2. When you are upset, you can drink a glass of water, play a soothing light music, close your eyes and reflect on the people and things around you, so that you can sort out the new future slowly, which is both a kind of rest and a kind of calm thinking.

3. There is no need to envy others or envy others if you compete with yourself more. Many people always fall into an abyss because they envy others. You have to believe in yourself, as long as you do it, you can do it. Be a bystander for every progress you make. The more you do this, the happier you will be.