How to live a good life, regardless of other people's eyes?

It is impossible for people to be completely indifferent to other people's eyes in society, but we can really avoid paying too much attention to other people's eyes by adjusting our mentality and state, and live our own life according to our own ideas.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory holds that people have five basic physiological and psychological needs.

You will find that social needs are at the third level. When you lack respect and achievement in the fourth level and motivation to pursue personal ideals in the fifth level, you tend to be too involved in social needs, and then you will be very concerned about the eyes of others.

Therefore, it is a good way to live a good life, find the meaning or ideal goal of life, and resolutely pursue it.

When you meet someone pointing fingers, you can firmly believe in your heart: I am fighting for a longer-term and higher goal (such as living a happy life, living a free life, finding a soul mate and so on). )

Just like one of my good sisters, she is very beautiful, has a successful career, has a car and a house, and is still single in her thirties. Of course, there will be many voices around, pointing, questioning and worrying, not to mention the eyes of relatives and friends who go home every New Year. But she told me: life is short, I hope I can live happily and freely. Now my quality of life and satisfaction are very high. If I marry another person, it must be because I can feel happier with him, otherwise I would rather be alone. Such Soulmate must be hard to find, but if you give up early and put yourself in a pile for the eyes of others, you will regret it when that person appears.

I think it makes sense.

In addition, many people care about other people's eyes because of their small living environment, and people around them will put him in a competitive atmosphere. It should have been a childhood of accumulating inner strength, but it was forced to compare with others. In order to meet the high requirements of parents, teachers or others, we unconsciously form an inner world of "observing words and feelings", "living for others" and "being an excellent child in the eyes of others", and form a state of conceit or inferiority.

In this case, it is mainly necessary to grow and repair the self-mind, such as taking some psychology courses, breaking through the limitations of one's own mind and looking at oneself and life with a broader vision. When your ego awakens, you can live a good life regardless of other people's eyes.

Teacher Mao Mao, TLI lecturer of mind mapping certified by Bozan Center (official account of WeChat: mind mapping).

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