How to avoid attracting young people when you are old?

Why do you have to please young people? When you are old, you have to try your best to please people. Are you tired all your life? Who do you live for?

What's it like to wear an old hat when you are old? Walking in Bomei in the community in the morning, I met the blonde Mrs. Wang walking in 16 building. Do you talk much? Go to the square at night and dance square dance with your old arms and legs that can't be stretched out? Participate in children's housework. When you imagine that you are old, you just run back and forth between the pictures above. If your imagination is poor, you don't want to think about it. There are 10,000 kinds of old people. You just want to think that old people should be annoying.

Doing nothing, playing the devil's advocate, being stubborn and arrogant, refusing to change ... stamping old people, you feel extremely relaxed and effortless. Many young people only know how to draw a line with the elderly, laugh at their behavior and thinking, and say that they will never do that again when they are old. Do you know what people who have been there think of you? Naive, arrogant, impetuous, take it for granted ... it seems that poking you is a breeze? But old people won't refuse you easily. Even if he thinks you are an unrealistic child with an unknown address, they will still be willing to admit that the world is still yours, as long as you are young and fashionable. A n experienced person is a n experienced person. What they once owned was your fault, so people who have experienced it don't care, and people who have experienced it are tolerant.

There is a very shameful concept, which is the value orientation of the topic. Need others to understand, but also need others to abandon. What do you think of the elderly? On the one hand, they resist their own group, on the other hand, they think that the reason for doing so is that another group of young people tell them that you are different from us, so you have to understand why we are doing this. Don't be too double-marked bitch.

Do you know what real understanding is? Just go your own way and don't tell anyone what to do. The old man dressed himself up in the street with great personality, not because he wanted to blend in with you, but because he lived too long and knew how to be himself. The old man made himself old-fashioned and didn't mean to be out of touch with the world. He knows what comfort is.

However, it's you, now swaggering to guess another look you can't see. Have you ever thought that it would be your future? Who will eventually grow old, don't be melodramatic about the present when embracing you in the future.

You live your present and they live the rest of their lives. There is an intersection of * * * tones, but there is no parallelism of * * * tones. Experience and years have sharpened every old man's weapon. They never point a weapon at you and say they want to exchange fire. Why do you have to hit each other naked?

There is no shame in getting old. When you get old, it doesn't interfere with anyone's business, or it doesn't interfere with your own business. It is shameful to say that you don't like it.

It is shameful to be young. It is very shameful to desperately hope that everyone likes themselves, loses themselves and rashly blames others.

My parents-in-law are a good example. My parents-in-law are over 60 years old. My two sons and daughters-in-law have never abandoned them, but they all respect them.

My husband and I were introduced by friends, and our two families arrived in 40 minutes by car. After getting along for a while, they felt that everything was suitable, so they went home to see their parents at the end of that year.

It's the first time to meet my future parents-in-law. To be honest, I'm really nervous. However, after meeting them, I found that the two old people are very easy-going people, so I put my heart into my stomach.

My father-in-law opened a pig farm in his early years, but now he has changed hands to others; My mother-in-law runs a small clinic at home, and the business is not bad. The husband's two brothers, the eldest brother, are married and have children. The two old people said that the most important thing now is to watch the younger son get married.

My mother heard that my husband's family is two sons, and always advised me to think twice: "In the future, it will not only be a mother-in-law relationship, but also a sister-in-law relationship. Don't think so simple. "

I advised my mother not to worry about it: "Your future in-laws are reasonable people, so don't worry for the time being."

On the 23rd, my husband's family came to my house to propose marriage. At the dinner table, my mother-in-law spoke very directly: "Lili's parents, I am also dumb and can't talk very well, but I am a straightforward person." Please forgive me if I am wrong. "

My parents smiled and said, "No, no, let's talk about it."

My mother-in-law said, "Then I won't beat around the bush. As you know, our two sons, Xiao Wei's brother, got married a few years ago, and we gave a bride price of 654.38+500,000 yuan. Now Xiao Wei will follow this standard. What do you think? "

At that time, 1.5 million was not a small sum in our place, and parents had no requirements for bride price. But my parents have one condition, because I am an only child, and my parents hope to have a child with their mother's surname in the future.

My parents-in-law said, "We have no problem with this. Besides, getting pregnant in October is the hardest thing. This is also reasonable. "

My mother said that's all, and she was very satisfied with this in-laws. She is really a reasonable person.

After the marriage, the parents-in-law took the initiative to clean up the house in the county and moved back to their hometown.

I also said, "Dad, Mom, if you go back like this, people will say that my daughter-in-law kicked you out and you don't know."

Mother-in-law smiled and said, "We want to go back and live by ourselves. You two just got married, and it's inconvenient for us to live together. "

I said, "There is nothing inconvenient."

The mother-in-law said, "You haven't given birth yet. It's nice to live alone. If you have children and need our help, we will come back. "

At that moment, I was really warm. Such a sensible mother-in-law is really rare.

Pregnant after marriage 1 year. From the day I was sure I was pregnant, my mother-in-law said she would move in and take care of me.

Three meals a day are always cooked for me in different ways. I gained 40 pounds throughout my pregnancy.

Later, my mother-in-law and I discussed, "Lili, you'd better go to the moon center, and mom will pay."

I said, "That moon center is valuable. Don't waste this money."

My mother-in-law said, "That won't do. Now it is said on the internet that the hatred next month is not * * * and the postpartum woman is already emotionally unstable. If I have any bad feelings, it will not exceed the loss. " ? "

I smiled. "Mom, am I an unreasonable person in your eyes?"

Mother-in-law said, "Of course not. At that time, we didn't have such treatment. Since you have this ability, you should let your next generation enjoy it. We can't let you suffer what we suffered in those years. "

When the child is half a year old, I am also ready to go to work. The mother-in-law was afraid that she couldn't handle the child alone, so she asked her father-in-law to come and help.

I was a little worried at first. After all, my father-in-law is a man, so it will be inconvenient to live together.

But after my father-in-law came to our house, the problem I imagined did not happen.

My father-in-law and mother-in-law are very particular about personal hygiene. My father-in-law never walks around the house wearing a vest.

Usually, as long as my father-in-law and I are alone at home, my father-in-law will take the initiative to find reasons to go out for a walk, just to avoid embarrassment.

My father-in-law never comes into our room. Everything is said from a distance outside the door. Mother-in-law will come in after knocking at the door and getting permission.

My father-in-law is a heavy smoker for more than 40 years, but since we lived together, my father-in-law has taken the initiative to quit smoking, and sometimes he goes to the stairwell to smoke a few cigarettes if he is addicted to smoking.

I feel respected for these little details.

In terms of child feeding and education, my mother-in-law will also take the initiative to consult me about parenting knowledge.

I also laughed at her: "You have been a doctor for most of your life, but you still have to learn from me."

My mother-in-law said, "You are laughing at me. Now you pay attention to scientific parenting. Of course, my old ideas should be abandoned. "

Once a child lost his temper and threw away the bowl. I caught him and hit him, but my mother-in-law didn't stop her.

Afterwards, I asked her, "Mom. Don't you feel bad about what I wrote? "

My mother-in-law said, "Why don't I feel bad? I am distressed. "

I asked her, "Then why didn't you stop me?"

The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Then you are a mother who educates her children. If I stop it, isn't it bad for you? " It's hard to discipline a child if he knows that someone is supporting him. "

To tell the truth, it is really rare for grandparents to recite so clearly.

Every time I quarrel with my husband, my parents-in-law directly avoid it. I asked my mother-in-law, "My parents are trying to stop the fight. Do you want to leave directly? "

Mother-in-law said, "This is your husband and wife's business. We don't interfere. As the saying goes, husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. This is not the case when we are parents. "

Before buying a courier, I would take it home quietly, fearing that my mother-in-law would say that I was spending money indiscriminately.

I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be tested, but she said, "Women should buy it at buy buy. What's wrong? "

From then on, I shared the joy of unpacking with my mother-in-law every time I picked up the courier.

Last year, my husband and brother changed rooms, and my parents-in-law gave 200 thousand.

When the family was having dinner, her mother-in-law said, "The eldest brother's 200,000 yuan was given by us two old people. The second one doesn't buy a house now. We can't afford to lose the money. If you want to do business in the future, this 200,000 mother will save it for you. "

Actually, don't say it's 200 thousand. Even if I buy toys for my grandchildren, my parents-in-law will choose the same price and will never take sides with anyone.

Although we are two sons, my sister-in-law has never blushed.

My parents-in-law never say that I eat more salt than you eat, and I walk more roads than you cross the bridge.

We will discuss big and small things at home. According to their words, "we are old now, and now it is your young people's world." We don't have as many new things as you, so naturally we should listen to your thoughts. "

I don't think anyone will dislike such an old man.

To sum up, I summed up some things that the elderly should do to avoid rejection:

① Respect the daughter-in-law and her family;

② Take the initiative to quit the life of young people;

③ Pay attention to personal hygiene and form good habits;

(4) Do not interfere in the private lives of sons and daughters-in-law;

⑤ There is not much care and intervention for the next generation.

6 treat children as fairly as possible;

⑦ Don't rely on the old and sell the old, and accept new things with an open mind.

This problem is just to my liking, because we often discuss it in the office. Especially when I see the actions of some old people around me are particularly disgusting, I often remind myself not to make such mistakes when I am old.

I don't think young people are disgusted. What should I do? First of all, we must have a healthy body. As the saying goes, there is no dutiful son in front of a long bed, especially now that children may not be working around, it is too difficult for them to stop working and take care of the elderly. So when you can still move, exercise as much as possible to make your body great. This is not only good for yourself, but also good for the children, and it will cause less trouble to the children.

In fact, we should keep learning, especially some emerging social software. In the future, when the children are not around, we can video chat with them. At least we know how to use it without children teaching us. Not many people have the time and patience to teach their parents to use these softwares. I don't think I can teach them anything.

And learn to be reserved, and don't spend all the money you earn on children. As an old man, it will be more comfortable to have Sambo around. When there is an old nest, you don't have to go to the children to suffer indignities, and you don't have to be angry with them. Second, with capital, you can be self-sufficient without asking children for money. Third, you'd better have a wife, at least you can chat to pass the time, and there is a caring person with a headache around you.

The most important thing is to keep a happy mood, don't scrimp, don't be narrow-minded, and be generous and optimistic, so that you can laugh at everything.

When we are old and have lived for so many years, we should see through everything, be sophisticated and arrogant.

We should be tolerant, open-minded and generous. Young people are always thoughtless, and immaturity is their true nature. Isn't that how we came when we were young? Why should we criticize them and bring unhappiness to ourselves and them? Turn a blind eye, a wise man is a fool.

We should know how to let go, forget and forget. Everything has passed, whether it is regret or success. It's almost the age of burial. What's the use of caring? Let go at the right time, give yourself a magnanimity, and give your soul a home.

When you are poor, you should know how to be content. It is not easy to live to this age, and I am much luckier than those who leave halfway. Then be content. Don't criticize and complain about everything around you and everything you encounter. Enjoy the last time happily.

We should love cleanliness, not sloppiness and rags. Let yourself be fresh every day, at least you are comfortable, and young people will not be disgusted.

Finally, spend the rest of your life happily and optimistically.

Now, every day is a precious gift from heaven.

One day is one day.

In this rapidly changing era, the experience of the elderly is basically worthless, and the fresh lifestyle and fresh living conditions are completely different from the past. When you get old, you have to admit that you can't keep up with this era, and you have to admit that this is the world of young people. You only belong to history, quietly watching the back of the sail, enthusiastically encouraging and affirming young people, reaching reconciliation with the world and young people and achieving a harmonious life. In order not to be rejected by young people, we should do the following:

First of all, we must maintain a positive and optimistic attitude. We should look at young people with admiration, instead of thinking that they are hairless, unstable, impulsive and less experienced than you. We should admit that young people's way of thinking and measures to solve problems are adapted to this era. Maybe you don't like them, but they are often more effective.

Secondly, we should keep the spirit of learning and be curious about the world. A person who is good at learning and constantly asks for advice from people around him is always willing to accept and help, even if he makes many primary mistakes. Learning will always make people progress, and progress can be synchronized with the world, so that they have the same interests and hobbies and the basis for dialogue with young people. At the same time, maintaining the curiosity and exploration spirit of the world will also delay the pace of aging.

Third, we should have a healthy body. It is difficult for a person with poor health to maintain an optimistic attitude, and at the same time, it is bound to need the care of young people. So young people have so many things to do and are struggling for their careers. How can they have time to take care of you? Not having a dutiful son in front of the hospital bed for a long time has dragged down others and increased their sense of guilt, and everyone has been adversely affected.

Fourth, we should have our own life circle. People are gregarious animals, so we must seek groups and gain a sense of value identity. When you are old, you should also have your own hobbies and strive to have certain expertise in a certain field, so that you can find your own circle and get mutual help and appreciation in the circle. You are not completely divorced from society and will not disturb the lives of young people. At the same time, you may have some help and guidance for young people.

Fifth, we should have a suitable goal in life. Although life will be exhausted, with the improvement of living conditions, people's life expectancy is also prolonged. You must have a clear goal and work hard for it, so you will also be respected by young people. People with ideals and practices, whether humble or prominent, are awesome, so young people will take the initiative to make friends with you and learn from your life experience, and your light and heat will continue to play out.

China is a country of courtesy and righteousness, and advocates the behavior of respecting the elderly and loving the young. So, how can we get old and not be rejected by young people? Please come and study with me!

First, abide by social morality. Old people must look like old people, and they must never sell their old age in front of young people. For example, the elderly should not talk loudly in places where people work, live and rest; Don't form an escape team and walk through the middle of the road or crowded places without scruple; Don't force young people to give up their seats on the bus. Can understand the hard work of young people to and from work and the helplessness of crowded buses. Try to ensure that young people don't go out after work, and don't give them any trouble.

Second, we should have an open-minded and generous mind. Old people should not haggle over every ounce, be approachable and be kind to anyone. To win the respect of young people, the elderly should learn to care about young people and become role models for young people everywhere.

Third, we must have a positive spirit. When people are old, they learn and struggle until they are old. If the elderly are sloppy and confused all day, they will be rejected by young people if they can't get the respect of young people. Therefore, the thinking of the elderly should not be rigid. The rich experience accumulated in life can influence the growth of young people.

Fourth, self-discipline and mental health. Nowadays, few old people are disliked or cursed by young people because of their disorderly behavior. For example, smoking and drinking in public places; Hands on women in crowded places; Beat and scold young people who give up their seats in time; Abuse his son and daughter-in-law at home for no reason; Gather people to talk about others ... once the elderly have these irritating behaviors, they will not only be spurned by young people, but also be punished by law.

The reason why old people should not be rejected by young people is that they should be themselves first. Economically confident, attractive in character and respected in quality!

Knowing the past, you can't sell the old with the old.

1. Live independently, try to stay away from them, and try not to disturb or bother them.

2. If the language is unreasonable, try to communicate less and contact less.

Don't take part in young people's occasions.

4. Have your own living habits and fun.

5. In daily life, many things are not asked or told.

6. You go your way and I'll go my single-plank bridge.

First: Be sure to take care of yourself.

Second: Good economic planning can help children never want money.

Third: Insist on studying and reading newspapers. Don't be blind and ignorant. We should master everything about buying electricity, water and payment in mobile banking, and try not to fall behind too much.

Fourth: children have the obligation to need help and go back to their homes immediately if they don't need it.

Fifth: If there is any contradiction between the son and the daughter-in-law, we must criticize the son on the daughter-in-law's side and be obedient to her.

When you are old, if you don't want to be annoying, just pretend to be deaf. Even if you are deaf and dumb, don't say anything you don't like, as long as it's not a mistake in principle, such as turning on the light when it's not too dark and often turning on the TV all day and sleeping late. ...

As an old man, no matter how much contribution you made to your family when you were young, don't always take it to heart. Let bygones be bygones and face the future!

In order to prevent young people from being disgusted, the elderly should read more books and articles in all aspects, improve their thinking, keep up with the development form of modern society, prevent being eliminated by society and prevent the generation gap between their children.

The life of the elderly should be regular, the nutrition should be balanced, and regular exercise should be maintained, for example; Walking, Tai Ji Chuan, singing, dancing, etc. It is very beneficial to the health of the elderly to participate in sports activities suitable for the elderly. As long as you are in good health, you won't be tired of children serving yourself and won't cause unnecessary burden to children.

If our elderly people are financially sound and healthy, and there is no generation gap in talking to their children, they will have a harmonious and warm family, which is what we all expect.

Therefore, the elderly should keep a clear head, maintain a healthy body, keep up with the times in words and deeds, and don't add chaos to their children. If they have the ability, they should try their best to help their children do some housework.

I believe that how can such an old man make his children dislike him?