Rich people tell jokes.

When I meet a stranger, I don't know what to say, and even feel embarrassed to ask the way. The same is true of meeting acquaintances. After a few words, we can't talk anymore. Shyness As a pupil, it is extremely difficult to ask others to do things, let alone talk about money. Do you often have the above situation in your life? I have made up my mind to change myself

And some people always chat in a harmonious atmosphere. Although they are not eloquent, they generally have no icebreakers, which is enviable. Of course, being able to speak also has many advantages. One important point: It is no exaggeration to say that connections are money veins.

Wealth, to a certain extent, depends on how comfortable your speech makes others, and negotiation is an essential step in investment.

Have you found that rich people are especially good at talking? Whether it's a rich man who loves to talk and preach ideas, or a big coffee who wants to have the right to speak, he speaks with charming wisdom, often hitting the nail on the head, and people can't help but applaud. Speaking is one of the necessary skills that we often ignore.

"Water under the bridge" is like spilled water. Sometimes once you say it, you begin to regret it. Criticize others in a questioning tone and communicate violently without thinking clearly or understanding clearly. As a result, apologizing is embarrassing.

In order to minimize this situation, we don't need to understand how the brain controls the language center. Just know that language expression ability can be cultivated, and it is good not to be blinded by the so-called talent theory. No one is born good at talking, just try to practice.

Those free speeches are all practiced, and you don't need to say them in daily life. Take some time, use a little skill and pay proper attention, and you will gain a lot.

Generally speaking, what we say is what we think. Isn't this nonsense? Come to think of it, no. Some people often have a mantra, which obviously does not need to be thought through the brain, but a habitual reaction. Nervous and unconfident, repeated many times, the other party will obviously be very uncomfortable. So the mantra is the part that needs to be deliberately removed.

In addition to the mantra, without training, the brain and mouth are often not well synchronized. A situation, I don't know what to say, or I have ideas in my head but it's messy. In fact, this situation is relatively easy to solve. There is a trick, "I'll answer you later". Ask others for time and leave your brain a few minutes to think.

Don't be embarrassed, others won't sneer at you just because they wait for you for a few minutes, but get unfounded or even wrong answers. After several trainings, the brain's reaction speed and speaking speed will naturally be faster. Just like when we were young, we practiced mental arithmetic. How much is 75×75? People who have not been trained really have to count for some time.

It is necessary to do some homework before the conversation if communication is not timely or time is short. If you write it out, the organization of your speech will be greatly improved.

Another situation is that the speaking speed is very slow, and the rhythm and intonation of the speech are inappropriate, which makes people feel uncomfortable and unfriendly. it is quite easy to do so. You can buy a recording pen and practice on a topic. Say it a few times, and you will talk more and more.

Language expression can be divided into oral expression and written expression. Although oral expression is much more casual, we should also pay attention to the tone of speech. Talking to friends is definitely different from talking to leaders. There are still many people bossing around their leaders, and the efficiency and accuracy of communication are very poor.

As for written expression, different styles look complicated, but fortunately, they are not used much at ordinary times, as long as you pay a little attention. Some misleading online language and insulting or discriminatory language should not appear.

When comforting others or prompting others to make mistakes, try to be tactful, and don't be afraid of anyone. But if you want to form effective communication, the main purpose of communication is to let others listen to you. Different expressions obviously have different effects.

At the same time, empathy is also necessary in communication. Put yourself in others' shoes, or try to look at the problem from others' point of view, you can establish a good communication foundation.

For example, people often talk to extremes. Stay away from them except not to be provoked. Have you ever thought that they may have been treated unfairly before, or that you have touched someone else's sore spot? Others are aiming at your point of view, not yourself. If it makes sense, let's discuss it together. If it doesn't make sense, don't play with them. There is no need to "fight poison with poison".

The most common scenario of empathy is negotiation, and commission, discount and cash back are all indispensable. The strength and confidence of negotiation come from your understanding of the other party, the situation and your thinking latitude.

For example, my aunt loves to bargain, but you can't be unconvinced. It's not that easy to cut it yourself. Going to the vegetable market every day, aunts naturally know the price of vegetables, and which seller is more accommodating. Some people may not agree with this. This little money is not worth it at all. Don't bargain until you make a lot of money. 100 yuan is far from it, and it is even harder to cut 100 or 100.

In fact, negotiation is also a logic that needs to be practiced from small things and practice empathy. Think back, in your experience, did you save a lot of money through negotiation because you did your homework?

Negotiation ability is one of the core abilities of investment, and the price of investment target is often the price in the minds of both parties rather than the real fair value. Most importantly, empathy can achieve unity and form a win-win situation.

Of course I let you "talk", but you didn't learn to flatter others when you met people. A hypocritical person has no friends, because a fake can't be true. After a long time, people will not buy it. Do you have any stingy friends around you? The following means of communication, the boat of friendship, can be turned over.

"What day do you have time? I invite you to dinner and chat. "

"Yes, I have time today."

"Oh, I remembered something else today. I'm so happy that I forgot just now. Sorry, maybe next time. "

Then he ran away in a hurry, which made people feel funny. After a while, you did the same thing again. You quit your job and didn't eat their so-called farewell dinner. What are the good opportunities to get rich in the future? It's strange that others can think of them.

Keep your word.

In a word, the weight of speech is different for everyone. If you can't do it, don't promise easily. If you don't keep your word, others' trust in you will be discounted. When house prices rose sharply last year, many sellers broke the contract and said a bunch of excuses, which others saw through at a glance.

Deception is the greatest harm to others. If you talk nonsense, you will be responsible. Without sincere communication, no matter how good the acting is, it is useless.

How powerful is your speech? In ancient times, there were Lin Xiangru who returned to Zhao intact, and Zhuge Liang who fought Confucianism. Ping Yuanjun praised Mao Sui. "Teacher Mao's three-inch golden tongue is better than a million teachers." Let's look at the hosts of many talk shows now. In fact, speaking is also a core competitiveness.

Wealth is just a piece of cake for people who can talk.

Improve your knowledge and thinking depth. That makes sense. It's useful to others. Naturally, some people like to hear it. If you can get a sense of accomplishment from speaking, introverted people can also become extroverts.