38-year-old professional woman: I want to earn money to support my family. My husband advised me not to work too hard. What should I do?

A woman's youth is very limited and fleeting. Some people think that from graduation to marriage, to having children, and finally returning to the workplace, it feels like half a century, so long.

It is not easy for women. They should work hard in their careers and play an extremely important role in their families. Both sides are excellent and can't be careless. But women are not superman. Without superhuman powers, they will be unable to persist and want to find a shoulder to lean on.

But life forced them to give up something. Some people sacrificed their marriage for their careers, and even stayed unmarried all their lives, becoming golden leftover women; Some people have no ambition, just want a happy family, and don't care about anything else.

Maybe you can endure it for a while, but don't endure it for a long time, which is not only bad for the relationship between husband and wife, but also bad for the growth of children. A woman's career is the power in marriage, and she has the right to speak.

Although some women are born as career women, compared with their husbands, she earns less and has to make sacrifices to take care of her children. When the child grows up, I think about working harder and find that there is no such opportunity.

There was once a woman who confided her troubles to me. She is 38 years old. In the workplace, she is still an irrelevant place and has no right to speak. She is a marginalized figure.

Compared with her peers, most of them are department heads. It is self-deception to say that she is not unwilling, but for the sake of her family and children, she has to do so and give up one promotion opportunity after another.

To be exact, it is not that she gave up, but that she is not qualified. She doesn't even have a chance to be selected. It's really hard to see people coming in at the same time climbing on their heads, taking care of themselves and telling themselves what to do.

In order to break this embarrassing situation, she began to change and took the initiative to work overtime in order to wait for a promotion. After suffering for half a year, the result was still not as good as her intention, and she missed the opportunity.

After returning home, she confided to her husband, hoping to get some comfort. Unexpectedly, she threw cold water on her and said that she couldn't tell how much she weighed. At her age, she should put her family first and stop thinking about her amazing career.

In fact, she doesn't want to do too much, just want to earn more money to share her husband's pressure. As everyone knows, she is not understood and supported, and she is advised not to work too hard.

At the same time, she complained in a gentle tone without impatience. This shows that the relationship between their husband and wife is still good, otherwise they would have gone on the rampage and cursed each other.

In fact, I also think that her husband feels sorry for her and that it is a man's duty to earn money to support his family. As a woman, she doesn't need to live vigorously in the workplace. Husbands want their wives to stand behind her and silently support them and be their wives.

Actually, I don't quite agree with this division of labor between husband and wife. Why should the woman sacrifice, not fight for her career, or even give them a chance and let them give up directly?

In any case, it is not very humane. Maybe men think that career women are too tired because they love them. They don't want their wives to be so tired, and they want their wives to accompany them gracefully and beautifully to grow old together.

At first glance, I feel very warm and particularly moved, but I can't stand the scrutiny. If you love her, you won't let her pursue her dreams, but let her lead an ordinary life for you. Such love is too narrow.

To really love her is to let her dare to be herself and pursue her dreams. Don't blindly think that what you think is good for her, but what you think is only what she wants.

If you really love her, encourage her more, don't be bound by marriage and children, and bravely pursue your dreams. When she needs your support, give her your full support.

My neighbor, he is really a good man. They got married after his wife graduated with a master's degree. When the child was over one year old, his wife had the idea of studying for a doctorate on a whim.

She just said it casually. I didn't expect him to take it to heart. She went to inquire about the plan of studying for a doctorate and told her wife in detail when she got home. The wife said solemnly that it was just a joke before, so there is no need to take it seriously.

He knew his wife's dream and she was thinking about the economic situation, but he said it was just a heartless joke. In order to support his wife's dream, he did a lot of work, and both husband and wife agreed to at least try, in case he was admitted.

During his wife's preparation for the exam, her husband fully cooperated and did a good job in the reserve army. As a result, as he expected, his wife was admitted to the doctor's degree and realized her doctor's dream. At that moment, he was more excited than his wife, leaving tears of joy.

Every couple has their own acre of land in their hearts. Some people used it to plant pear trees, so they harvested sweet and refreshing pears. Some people use it to plant flowers, so they harvest a colorful world, while others don't want to plant anything, and finally they are covered with weeds, which is ridiculous.

This also implies the way for couples to get along. They Do not forget your initiative mind, always on the road, don't sacrifice themselves too much for marriage and children. They forget that they are also people who have dreams to chase.

The best relationship between husband and wife is "four words", that is, mutual fulfillment, rather than blindly letting one party sacrifice.