Why don't I like Gu Jia in Except Thirty? What kind of woman is a role model when it comes to marriage?

Introduction: In daily life, if there is a contradiction between husband and wife and the marriage is on the verge of collapse, friends and relatives around you will probably persuade the woman to be tolerant and stick to the marriage for the sake of the children. As a result, the woman swallowed her words because of inertia. But times have changed, and many women drag the wrong husband to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate without saying anything, because they would rather raise their children alone than face a bad marriage all day.

In July 2020, there was a large-scale TV series "Nothing, Only Thirty".

The three heroines in the TV series are all around 30 years old, and the characters are relatively real, so the plot also won a good reputation and praise at the beginning.

But gradually, the story of dog blood appears constantly, and the appeal to women in the play is also implied, especially Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan, a bad couple. Many women gnash their teeth.

Why are you gnashing your teeth?

Gu Jiaming can not participate in things that affect her mood, and she can definitely give herself a bright future. But writers and directors dare not shoot like this. In this way, isn't the independence of women more obvious?

But for the female audience, especially the married middle-aged female audience, if Gu Jia forgives Xu Huanshan, then Gu Jia will either lose his head or be beheaded.

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A perfect Gu Jia does not bring a perfect life.

Let's look at Gu Jia's design in the play.

In the first episode, it was explained that Gu Jia was a high flyers, graduated from university with top grades. At the age of 30, he maintains a 20-year-old figure and is self-disciplined and confident.

At 6: 30 in the morning, she finished her morning run. While her husband and children were still sleeping, she began to prepare breakfast, even if she moved the next day.

As a full-time housewife, Gu Jia is a very competent wife and mother.

If everyone thinks she is incompetent, look at her home layout, look at her decent clothes, and look at the full-time wives around her. Which one is so cold?

In daily life, most housewives often yell at their children to get up early in the morning, urge their husbands to hurry up, and then send their children to school at one meal. Who would want to finish the morning run before 6: 30?

What's more, Gu Jia is not only a full-time wife who only asks her husband for money, but also manages the company and mixes his wife's circle. She is a capable woman.

But here's the problem. Such a perfect woman with high face value, good ability and wholehearted love for her family and husband has not been treated sincerely by her husband, but has become dirty water.

Gu Jia's husband, Xu Huanshan, began to show signs of ambiguity in the first episode. Until the end, he was still dreaming of the Spring and Autumn Period, making Gu Jia sacrifice his property and dignity and thinking about getting back together with Gu Jia.

As a female audience, especially those who are married and have children, don't you feel a little blocked when you see this?

But the thing is, Gu Jia didn't keep her marriage. In the end, she may be angry with herself. For the sake of her children and family, or for the sake of the little love left, she can live in Xuhuanshan again.

Even if two people get back together, I don't know if Xu Huanshan can do it again. If he makes a mistake again, will Gu Jia continue to choose to forgive?

It is true that women are getting colder and colder after watching this TV series. It's chilling.

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If a husband is unfaithful to his marriage and family, what should he do as a wife?

Compared with Gu Jia, who has the overall situation, understands the overall situation and has a model of female virtue, but is not liked by the majority of female compatriots, the other woman is much more grounded.

Let's recommend a film "Mystery of a Floating City" by China literary director Lou Ye, and see how the heroine Lu Jie responds. This will be a method of education level.

The film The Mystery of Floating City is very interesting. The script originated from a blogger's post on Tianya Forum: "Watch how I clean up bitches and mistresses".

Lou Ye's director is very skilled and his casting is in place. He chose Hao Lei as the heroine, Qin Hao, the brother-in-law of the fire in this period, as the hero, and Qi as the female companion.

The story is simple. The female host and the male host are college classmates, and they have very good feelings. After marriage, they have the ability to start a business together and have a certain net worth. However, the hostess is in poor health. In order to protect the baby, she chooses to be a full-time housewife, mainly taking care of the children at home.

When the child went to kindergarten, the hostess found that her husband was not as affectionate and single-minded as expected.

At this time, what is facing the hostess is a profound question: if the husband is unfaithful to the marriage and family, how should the wife deal with it and face it?

Whether it's Tianya's post or the movie Mystery of a Floating City, the female host's response is simply a textbook-level response, which is much more grounded than Gu Jia's.

First of all, find out the ins and outs and see how her husband betrayed his marriage. The hostess met her daughter and the mother of the kindergarten boy, that is, the female match. After the woman's casual guidance, she found the scene of a man holding a strange woman.

With the efforts of the woman, she found that the real mistress was a female match, and the female match gave birth to a boy for her husband.

Here, the hostess made it clear that her mother-in-law wanted grandchildren, so her mother-in-law always knew about it.

The hostess was very shocked. It turned out that the female companion was too smart to approach her with malicious intent. And she was even more devastated to find that the man not only has a mistress similar to the relationship of raising children, but also has a dew love relationship similar to that of mistress and mistress.

The hostess is very sad. She questioned her original choice, but she tried to maintain a stable mood in her family.

Secondly, the husband company with financial power must not let go. With certain evidence, women began to plan a counterattack. Find a tax bureau, a lawyer, and a related person. In short, if the man has no money, he can play with these women!

Seal up the accounts of the male owner's company, overhead the male owner's company, deliberately approach the female match, and record the evidence of the male owner's derailment.

By doing these things, the hostess can see the IQ and EQ that a middle-aged woman should have. Some things in life can't be solved by crying, quarreling and quarreling.

Because the woman and the man started from scratch, their social skills and work ability were excellent, and the property problem in marriage was quickly solved.

Never let go of what belongs to you. You and your daughter deserve it. Why do you want to give away your hard-earned mountains and rivers or leave them to your daughter?

But later, the man's conscience was still alive and he divorced without paying too much attention to property.

Finally, I insisted that my ex-husband marry the cheating object, resolutely pulled out of their messy lives and started a new life with my children. After the decisive divorce, the man begged the woman, and the woman insisted that the man and the woman marry. Isn't it just to be a justified wife that female companions are so eager to destroy their marriage? Moreover, the man's biological mother still prefers sons to daughters and recognizes illegitimate children as grandchildren.

The hostess took money and her daughter to buy a house from south to north and make investments. And have a very comfortable life. And both the man and the woman are unhappy after marriage. The man can't change the problem of cheating, and the woman can only endure if she doesn't want a divorce.

In Tianya's original post, some netizens left a message saying that "it is still necessary to divorce the male owner, so that single-parent life is unfair and not good for children."

I really want to laugh at this news, so why not say that man is shameless? Knowing that cheating is disrespectful to his wife and family, why can't he cheat all the time?

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Why do women not like Gu Jia in Nothing More than Thirty, but like Lu Jie in The Mystery of Floating City?

First, marriage is not the only criterion to judge whether a woman is happy or not.

Until now, there are still many people who judge whether a woman's life is happy or not, or just decide to get married and have children.

Some time ago, netizens had a heated debate about Yang li Ping's infertility and the late actress Li Jianqun's pregnancy before marriage, saying that a woman can't be called happiness if she doesn't have children all her life. Yes, many women think so, and even some women think that having no son cannot be called having happiness.

But the reality is that some women are single, but still live happily.

They are active, enthusiastic, brave and successful, and have a happy and beautiful life. Can you say that they are unhappy?

Don't limit a woman's happiness to whether she is married or not and whether she has children. Times have changed, and we should be able to accept all the possibilities of happiness.

Second, there is nothing wrong with women not forgiving men who betray their families. They don't need to wronged themselves for their good reputation.

Take Gu Jia in life as an example, there is a high probability that relatives and friends will persuade shameless people to forgive him, because children need a complete family. If Gu Jia doesn't forgive him, it's Gu Jia's fault. Gu Jia hurt the child's abnormal self-esteem and didn't give him a complete home.

Don't think the above words are jokes. Once a female friend was beaten by a violent husband from time to time, and the friend could not bear to divorce.

Afterwards, the ex-husband asked for a reunion, but the friend did not agree. As a result, many elders said: Why are you so cruel? Just a quarrel between husband and wife, don't you give your child a complete home?

My friends are speechless. Why don't they say my ex-husband likes to hit people? If one day I accidentally kill me, do I deserve it?

Therefore, when a woman does not forgive a man who betrays his family, there is really nothing wrong. I just don't forgive, I just don't want to make myself feel bad, I just don't want to wronged myself. Is it worth building my life for a good reputation and a "complete family"?

Finally, the society is talking about equality, and the times are also talking about each other, so we should also treat women with a fair heart.

While demanding women, men are also required.

Huang Tongtong, a female writer, once said, "The life of men in China is really good."

Because many men have something in their lives, they are ignored or ignored. If a woman has something, she will hold on to it.

For example, Xu Huanshan derailed and later showed remorse and sincerity. Gu Jia had to forgive him, otherwise he "wouldn't give the child a complete home".

Lu Jie asked her ex-husband to marry Xiaosan because she didn't "give her children a complete home".

Women just want to do housework, that is, honor their parents-in-law. Men only need to go to work, and it is understandable that men ignore their parents-in-law. In short, women should forgive men who make mistakes, otherwise it is women's fault. But men make mistakes and men cheat. Why should women forgive them?

Living in today's new era, everyone should demand men and women with a fair mind, not just women, but men everywhere.