"You have low education, so you need a house as a dowry when you get married!" What's wrong with low education?

In a happy marriage, most people think it is important to be evenly matched. Since this word can exist, it means that there is a reason for its existence, at least it is recognized by most people in society

The content of being evenly matched includes not only family relationships, but also personal abilities, and of course a person’s academic qualifications. Everyone knows how important academic qualifications are to a person today. Academic qualifications are not only a stepping stone for a person to enter society, but also a stepping stone for you and your partner.

If the academic qualifications of you and your partner are too different, the circles in which the two parties negotiate will naturally be different. Maybe you are dealing with the bottom workers in society;

But your The people the subject comes into contact with are all white-collar workers or senior executives of the company. They have their own classmates or friends from all walks of life. Naturally, the topics they talk about are also different. Over time, the two people will also have communication problems.

It is not ruled out that some highly educated people find partners with lower education, but they are still a minority in society. When some people are looking for a partner, they may agree with the other person’s values, or they may be attracted by the other person’s values. Certain characteristics may attract him, or the other person may be a very motivated person, so the gap between the two parties will not be too big.

But in marriage, in addition to the problems of the partner, there are also family problems. We all know that falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. Even if your partner does not dislike your academic qualifications, the other person's family will use the topic of academic qualifications to become a stumbling block to your marriage.

Emotional Case

This is the relationship between Xiao Zhou and her boyfriend. Xiao Zhou graduated from a college and worked in a private company after graduation. Because of work, he met a boyfriend who was a graduate student.

My boyfriend’s family is full of intellectuals and has a good family background. His father is a civil servant and his mother works in a hospital. Xiao Zhou's parents are ordinary working-class people.

After the two had been together for a year, Xiao Zhou’s boyfriend took her back to meet her future parents-in-law. When the future mother-in-law asked about Xiao Zhou's academic qualifications, the atmosphere in the whole family changed.

At the dinner table, the boyfriend’s parents were talking about academic qualifications. Although both parties spoke tactfully, they both overtly and secretly disliked Xiao Zhou’s academic qualifications for being too low and not worthy of him. His family made Xiao Zhou instantly feel that he was at the bottom of a chain of being despised.

After meeting her parents, Xiao Zhou did not break up with her boyfriend immediately, but she began to feel a little estranged from her boyfriend. Even though neither party mentioned it, her boyfriend also began to It was hinting that she should improve herself to match his academic qualifications.

On an anniversary day between two people, the boy gave Xiao Zhou an electronic product for study and said: "I like that you can use this device to enrich yourself and learn more. ”

But at that time, she gave a bottle of car perfume to her boyfriend. The boy immediately said: “These things are flashy and have no effect. I don’t need to buy these things for me anymore. My sense of superiority comes from this.” Regarding my academic qualifications, if possible, I would still choose to continue studying. I also hope that my children will also have good learning abilities in the future."

"And as parents, we should set a good example. , take the lead for your children, so I hope you can improve yourself."

Her boyfriend hinted at her academic qualifications again and again, which not only made her doubt that her boyfriend was with her. What is the reason for being together? Only then do we despise ourselves again and again.

But because Xiao Zhou really likes this boyfriend and is with him, Xiao Zhou feels very happy and does not want to give up this relationship. However, his boyfriend's words hurt himself again and again. She was very troubled by this and didn't know whether to continue this relationship.

While she was still grappling with this issue, her boyfriend’s mother conveyed an absurd request: “Since you two have chosen to be together, we will not object.”< /p>

“But before getting married, the woman can be a little sincere and compensate for your low education, for example: buy a house in the city center. In this way, your marriage will not be looked down upon by others, and neither will we. It's a joke for others.

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Facing the unreasonable demands of her boyfriend’s mother, Xiao Zhou was shocked! The attitude of her boyfriend and his parents had already made her very uncomfortable, and this behavior made her even more uncomfortable. Zhou couldn't bear it: "Our family is just an ordinary family, how can we afford a house? "

"Since your family's requirements are so high, you don't need your son to marry me, and I don't have to marry your son! ”

Throwing these words aside, she turned around and left her boyfriend’s house. Her parents, who originally thought about being a “white wolf with empty gloves”, could only stare at her wildly. Accusing Xiao Zhou of being rude

Since the last time both parties had an unpleasant incident, Xiao Zhou has never seen her boyfriend again. Even though the boy has been sending messages to explain his parents' behavior, in Xiao Zhou's opinion, It's just a joke.

Emotional advice:

As the saying goes: "It's easy for mountains and rivers to rise, but it's easy for people to fall back." "

Faced with such parents, Xiao Zhou seemed very rational. Xiao Zhou said: "Maybe this is another way their family is using to force me to make progress, or maybe this is their calculation. I retreated from the difficulty. Facing such villains, I could only take back my original intention and stop entangled with these "high and mighty" people. ”

Marriage does need to pay its own “cost”, but facing a marriage that is looked down upon, as a woman, there is no need to do things that harm self-esteem. Before marriage, even one’s own self-esteem can be No, don't expect to be cherished by the other person after marriage. If a person loves you, he loves you. If he doesn't love you, his true nature will be exposed sooner or later.

The level of academic qualifications is just an excuse. What can really be done. Don’t accept marriage, there are so many snobbish comparisons, and being able to block these at the door of true love only means that the two of them are not on the same page. In the face of such people, we can only take back our true feelings, and we don’t have to Waste your time on these people.