Wise men are silent, fools are eloquent.

Wang Xiaobo once said: "You seldom learn human nature from words, but you can from silence.

If you want to learn more, you should keep silent. "

When I was young, I idolized those eloquent debaters, thinking that they could make great achievements with their eloquent tongue.

As I get older and experience more things, I realize my shortsightedness and self-righteousness.

the more impetuous people are, the more they like to compete with others in words to win or lose.

A truly capable and intelligent person never argues with others, but does his own business silently, keeping a low profile and working hard.

There was a story in history.

At the end of the Western Han Dynasty, there was chaos in the world, and Liu Xiu set out from Nanyang to fight for world hegemony.

things didn't work out. Liu Xiu, who just started out, is a rookie. He won a few victories, but he suffered a lot in defeat.

On one occasion, Liu Xiu was defeated again, and his soldiers became dejected and demoralized.

at night, he went to patrol the camp to see everyone's mental state.

but after a lap, instead of reassuring him, he was full of worries.

I saw some tents in the camp, crying and choking with grief. Some tents, although not crying loudly, are also complaining about heaven and earth, and they are constantly swearing.

until the last tent, there was neither crying nor swearing, which surprised him a little.

Through the curtain, I saw a young man sitting calmly in the tent, wiping his weapons and armor, saying nothing, showing neither anger nor loss, only a calm face.

When Liu Xiu saw this, he was shocked. He felt that this man had the boldness of vision that Mount Tai collapsed in front of him and remained unchanged, and asserted that he would become a great man in the future.

Sure enough, this young man was later ranked as one of the 28 generals of Yuntai in the Eastern Han Dynasty.

In the face of cruel reality, all hysteria is meaningless.

Whether it's cursing or grieving, it's just expressing one's inner dissatisfaction, which is useless.

in that case, why not clear up your mood and sail again?

as long as you don't give up, even if you fail 99 times, you will win the hundredth time.

success is just finding a way to the top in the process of trial and error.

No one has ever been able to go down in history by luck, and no one can achieve success by one good luck. Everyone stands up after another failure.

people who don't complain and don't become dejected and despondent, pack up their mood faster and get ready for another journey.

When Yao Ming first entered the NBA, he got zero points in several games because he was not familiar with the rhythm of the game.

In this regard, basketball commentator Buckley once derided Yao Ming as the worst center in history, and even boasted: "If Yao Ming can score more than 19 points in a game this year, then I will kiss the ass of the donkey!"

In the face of this malicious personal attack, Yao Ming could have lodged a complaint with the League, and even relied on public pressure to ask Buckley to apologize in public.

But he didn't do it. Instead, he showed great consideration for Buckley and said with a smile, "It's too hard for him. I'd better try to get only 18 points per game."

He deeply understands that his current performance is really unsatisfactory.

Even if there is a storm all over the city in the end, Buckley is forced to apologize to him, and everyone's impression of his poor performance will not change, but the fact that he is incompetent will be confirmed.

In the face of others' suspicious eyes, Yao Ming didn't argue, didn't complain, and didn't shout grievances. Instead, he devoted all his energy to training and worked hard without saying a word.

after others get off work, he is still working overtime for himself; When others are resting, he is still training, being strict with himself and never relaxing.

Fortunately, everything comes to him who waits. Soon, in a game, Yao Ming faced O 'Neal, the first center in the league, but became more and more brave. When he finally blew the whistle, Yao Ming scored 2 points!

After the game, Buckley kept his promise: he brought a donkey in the live broadcast room and kissed its ass in front of the American audience.

from beginning to end, Yao Ming didn't argue about anything, but in the end, he won the respect of everyone by his strength.

Perhaps Yao Ming became Yao Ming because of his understanding.

If faced with provocation, he hastily stands up and argues, the outcome may be very different, and he may even fall into a trap carefully planned by others.

those who are really good will never care about the outside voice, let alone argue with it.

they understand that actions are more powerful than words.

ridicule and questioning are just a joke in the face of grades.

The first winner of China-born Nobel Prize in Literature was Guan Moye, whose real name was Mo Yan.

When he mentioned his pen name, he once said, "When I was a child, I often put my foot in my mouth and asked a lot of questions I shouldn't have asked, which caused a lot of unnecessary trouble.

my mother often scolds me, but I still can't help it. I often say it and regret it very much. Therefore, I gave myself the name' Mo Yan'. "

He has his own feelings about Mo Yan.

Once, Mo Yan invited someone to dinner. After everyone was full of wine and food, there were many dishes left on the table. Mo Yan, a farmer, couldn't bear to waste them, so he continued to eat.

As a result, it attracted the irony of others: "Look at Mo Yan, you have to eat his little money back."

At this time, Mo Yan's face was like a loud slap, and he could only stand there.

Later, in order to avoid similar situations, Mo Yan would drink two bowls of porridge and eat two steamed buns to fill his stomach before going to dinner.

at the banquet, he ate slowly and gently.

but even so, it still attracted other people's rhetoric.

"Look at Mo Yan's hypocrisy, as if he could eat Jia Baoyu with only his front teeth."

no matter what you do, you will never satisfy everyone.

if you change yourself to cater to others' preferences, you will never satisfy everyone, and you will only suffer and suffer in the end.

in this world, the most important thing is prejudice.

Even Tolstoy, a world-famous great writer, once said, "No matter how great a writer is, he is just writing his own one-sidedness."

great writers are still like this, and ordinary writers like you and me are even more difficult to escape.

if you can't please others, please yourself.

treat other people's banter as a joke, just listen to it.

it's even more unnecessary to argue with others and decide whether to win or lose.

even if you can argue with others, you are just looking for comfort.

It seems that everyone is speechless. In fact, the clown only has himself, and others are just too lazy to care about you.

Kanaky once said, "Under all circumstances, there is only one way to win an argument, and that is to avoid it."

when the water is deep, you don't speak; when people are steady, you don't speak.

how good a person can be depends not on how loud you play, but on how beautifully you do it.

There has always been only "misfortune comes from the mouth", but never "happiness comes from the mouth".

If you want to live a smooth life, you must calm down and accumulate strength, and grow and develop silently.

the sign of a person's maturity is to learn to recognize cowardice and not argue with others.

Because you can never win others' respect by arguing, only actions can.

when one day, you become excellent and radiant, those doubts will naturally dissipate.

for the rest of my life, I hope you and I will focus on pleasing ourselves and not let the outside world change us easily and live a free and easy life.