Do you know why Mr. Sheng can teach excellent students?

Xianhui is nothing but a bodhisattva carved in yellow mud, the memorial tablet of Confucius. If you do, you will regret it for the rest of your life. A man is your lifelong support. Even if you don't like him, hold him and don't let the woman next to you have a gap. Don't put on any lofty airs, that is, men don't have that kind of fancy, you have to be able to see! "These words brought tears to people's eyes. How lucky and happy it is to have a person who loves and cares about himself? Although a good man is not obvious, a smart woman will "train" her man well. I was chasing "Know No" because I liked Zhao, and later I fell in love with Sheng because of this drama. In order to know more about the characters, I read the original again.

The characters in the original work are more profound. Sheng Minglan lost her mother when she was a child, but she was born a gentle and considerate girl who knew how to hide others and lived clearly and transparently. So who doesn't love her? It seems inevitable that such a girl will have a happy ending. However, this kind of Ming Lan has a very good teacher, the old lady Sheng Jia. Without this teacher, there would be no prosperity. In other words, the teacher is willing to teach, and the apprentice will be willing to learn, so he inherited the master's experience and learned steadily, which made Ming Lan. It is said that a good old man is a good feng shui for a family. Looking at Mrs. Sheng's life, I believe this sentence even more.

Why did Mrs. Sheng cultivate such excellent people? This is directly related to her own marriage and love experience, or a series of survival views and marriage views given by the elderly at home are actually due to the pits she has walked, the things she has experienced and the people she has faced. Experience is passed on to future generations through experience, and the correct three views are conveyed through her own feelings about life. Good feng shui at home is the upper level. Mrs. Sheng's background, contacts and personality are excellent. Whether in the original or in the TV series, we all see that Mrs. Sheng has some old friends in the palace, such as Queen Jing 'an, who are all her friends, which shows how wide she is. But in those days, Mrs. Sheng married her "true love" Sheng family, instead of marrying a noble family as her parents wished. Although the old man in Shengjia is a flower picker.

But it is definitely not suitable for the old lady's family. At that time, the old lady Sheng, who married love, married into Sheng's family with her mother's "ten-mile red makeup". According to common sense, both husband and wife have cultural backgrounds, not to mention how much love they have, but they must also have a harmonious family. And Mrs. Sheng is a woman who doesn't know anything about running a marriage. She is just a woman who uses everyone's temper to defend her love and marriage. As we all know, women who are too strong in marriage generally have a bad fate. But at that time, the young lady Sheng was such a woman. She doesn't have any plans, only knows how to be a straight man. Although she is excellent at heart, she is famous for her temper, which makes her infamous and her marriage ruined.

It was not until the young man who betrayed himself in love and accepted a concubine was seriously ill and died that she suddenly realized that there were many ways to live, but she chose the stupidest one. Once, Mrs. Sheng had a child who was killed by a concubine. After her father died, she raised the illegitimate child as her own son. But this son didn't regard his first mother as his own mother, just let his future be in sight with his first mother. After the death of Mr. Sheng, Mrs. Sheng obviously could remarry on her own terms, but she realized that she had not managed her marriage well, which led to her husband's early death. Too much guilt and regret made her regret not keeping the family's reputation, and she was also blaming herself for her husband's marriage in her heart.

So she is willing to keep everything in Sheng family for her dead husband. Speaking of Mrs. Sheng, it seems that she has never lived for herself. In the first half of my life, I put out a fire for moths. My short marriage life was a chicken feather, and then I began to spend most of my life endlessly for a prosperous family. But it is precisely because the old lady Sheng has gradually changed from a simple old lady who has no intention of being a woman that she gradually understands what life is and what is the management of men and women, and she fully understands it. Therefore, the Sheng family respected her and relied on her more, and she naturally became the pillar of the Sheng family. With her in Shengjia, it won't be chaotic. What everyone in the Sheng family wants to do and make it look like is seen by the old lady of the Sheng family, and it is also a simple understanding.

Mrs. Sheng started it very well. Only by fully understanding her concept of marriage and love and her lifestyle can she finally achieve a positive result. Therefore, the luck of a lifetime is not to marry Gu, but to accompany her grandmother to grow up. It also belongs to a vivid wake-up lesson for countless women. Whether you are living or getting married, you must follow the following points:

First: even if you love someone again, you still have to understand that bitter gourd is not sweet. In marriage and love, the one who loves deeply and speaks first is the one who suffers. Don't be too active and enthusiastic when you love someone again. Not to mention marriage and love, things that are too easy to get are hard to cherish. Therefore, when my grandfather expressed his love many times, Ming Lan always gave a very decent and steady response and made tentative progress step by step. Finally, after learning that grandpa and himself were doomed to be inseparable because of the lintel, he quit decisively, leaving no room. Sometimes, in addition to the unequal feelings of two people, there is also a gap between family lintels. If you squeeze into some unequal lintels, the outcome will not be too good, not to mention you can't squeeze in at all. Girls, still in love and marriage, are nothing more than initiative, reserve, self-love, and freedom is always good.

Second: even if you love someone again, you can't lose yourself. In marriage and love, some women are very emotional. Once you fall in love, you can't let go. After losing myself, I was scarred and still didn't keep my love. In the final analysis, the truly right person won't let the person who loves him lose himself, because in real love, everyone knows that love is mutual management, and a single love is fruitless. Single love is humble and loses self, but in humble love, you can't get the respect of the other person at all, let alone get his love. Those who can correctly absorb the teachings of the old lady Sheng have good expectations for marriage and love, but she has always had her own bottom line. She can love a person very much, but she will never please herself in order to win attention. In her concept, love is equal and mutual, and it is taken for granted when the other party has the right conditions.

Third: Be lovers, friends and confidants with men, and never be enemies. All good wives are full of wisdom in their bones. All strong women who look smart are actually stupid at heart. After a woman gets married, a man will be her support and pillar for the rest of her life, or marriage management is not easy, and no one's marriage is divorced because of disagreement, so it takes some "skills" to manage marriage. Good men are not managed, but cultivated by women. It's just that many women don't understand this simple truth, and finally they suffer, so that men who leave themselves are lucky and think that "separation is right." Old lady Sheng said to her, "Even if you don't love him, you should hold him. Don't put on airs ... "Obviously, in men's eyes, it doesn't matter that a woman thinks she is smart and tough. A really smart woman never really likes to be angry, but keeps things in her heart and ponders them with her heart.

Fourth: improve yourself, and you can reduce your sadness to the lowest point to the greatest extent without relying on anyone. You can go on living, but you can't stop because life is not satisfactory. Stop if you want, and I won't wait for you. At that time, you were old and white-haired. What can you do then? Not every old man is an old lady. He can have a well-trained Ming Lan to make up for his shortcomings when he was young. A woman, only by constantly improving herself and constantly enriching herself, can not be afraid when all accidents come, at least she can live well without a lover.

How sad it is to see many women give up all opportunities for self-growth for a man. In the end, the men and women in the marriage, one kept climbing and the other stood still. When their marriage broke down, they didn't even have the concept of how to live. Not every old man is an old lady of the Sheng family, and not everyone is Sheng Minglan. Marriage is not a woman's ultimate goal, but it is definitely the only way for a woman's life. Marriage and love are not always in harmony in the end. Compared with men, women are always much more fragile in marriage and love. In order not to be eliminated for the rest of my life, I need to keep growing.