No matter how good your relationship is, don’t reveal these three secrets to others. It will easily cause trouble and even lead to loss of money.

In life, you must understand that the truth of the world is not black and white; the nature of human nature is not simply good and evil.

Therefore, we should have our own judgment and principles when dealing with others and making friends.

There is an old saying: "If a secret is not kept secret, misfortunes will come first." Therefore, there is a common saying: "When you meet someone, you should say only a few words, but you should not put your whole heart into it."

The reason why human nature is complicated lies in the entanglement of interests, emotional entanglements, and relationship disputes. Therefore, there are some things that cannot be said to everyone.

A truly mature and steady person knows what he should and should not do, does not blindly follow the crowd, does not show off his talents easily, and has reservations when getting along with others.

Words speak to the heart, there are some things you cannot say, and you must not say them, no matter how good the relationship is, especially these three secrets, you should reveal as little as possible, otherwise you will easily get into trouble.

1. Your own privacy and secrets (things you regret)

Privacy is unique to the individual and has nothing to do with others, but you are unwilling to disclose personal secrets known to others. Including physical state, psychological characteristics, living habits, past experiences, etc.

Romain Rolland said: "In the bottom of everyone's heart, there is an island of buried memories that will never be opened to others."

Therefore, everyone has his own Privacy is generally those unpleasant, painful, regretful past events, success or failure in career, setbacks in life, the past of growing up... These are your own affairs and cannot be easily revealed to others.

In life, you have to think twice about what you say and do, and you cannot reveal your heart to everyone. In fact, it is safest to keep secrets in your own heart. Once you say it, it is no longer a secret.

Everyone has inner secrets, which belong only to themselves. It is safest to keep them hidden. Only you can know these secrets. Don’t let anyone know about your inner world, because others will tell you. Treating your secret as a joke and publicizing it will cause you deep pain.

In this world, people are always at odds with each other. Some people just like to gossip about other people’s privacy and laugh at other people’s jokes. What’s more, good friends also have their own good friends. How dare you be 100% sure about yours? Good friends don't talk to anyone and listen to them.

Therefore, never show your secrets and privacy to others easily. Guarding your heart is a kind of respect for yourself and an act of being responsible for yourself.

You must know that privacy and secrets can only be kept by yourself and cannot be given as gifts. No matter how good your relationship is, once your relationship breaks down, everything about you will be known to everyone and you will be hurt. Not just yourself, but everyone involved in the secret.

Kazuo Inamori: I have lived for so many years and lived very well. I have a secret. Let me tell you: Don’t think too highly of human nature.

Everyone will have regrets and pain, lament their own powerlessness, and finally feel uneasy. At a certain stage, they will want to share it with others to relieve the pain, but Munger said not to think too much about human nature. Okay, don't talk about privacy.

Whether it is with friends or family, be careful when sharing private information. A very personal secret has left a lot of pain in your heart, and maybe you will be comforted by telling it. But in fact, this comfort comes with risks. Others cannot understand your pain, nor can they share it with you. Even if you want to maintain the relationship. Just to keep it a secret, ultimately the key is learning to grow. There is a saying worth sharing: There is no *** in the world. Even if you get sympathy from others, the sympathy from others is only a momentary feeling and will not change your current situation or past.

2. The strategies and ambitions in your heart (your own goals, plans and creativity).

Hiding is a kind of great wisdom.

Every dream deserves to be respected, no matter it is big or small, no matter poor or rich, but dreams should not be spoken easily, just like making a wish when you see a shooting star, just say it. It doesn’t work anymore.

Furthermore, when you are poor, talking about your ambitions with others is a bit ridiculous in the eyes of others. Others will think that you are just talking and meaningless.

As the saying goes: If a person is poor and has a low status, he should speak lightly if he is in a low position. The old friend is poor and cannot express his ambition.

Although I don’t say anything, I can’t lose my ambition in my heart.

A person must have the backbone to turn things around. Even if you have great ambitions, there is no need to tell anyone. You can only work hard and study hard. When you make achievements, people will naturally look at you with admiration.

No matter what stage you do, you will have a goal. Many people will tell others their goals and ideas, but in fact Munger has always been silent in this regard. He said: Arrogance sometimes becomes Big winner, but I don't want a group of arrogant people to dangle in front of me, I choose cautious people.

Therefore, a person's wisdom is best kept in his heart. What's the use of talking about his own goals with others. Apart from being laughed at and being used, it is better not to talk about it and work hard silently. That's right.

Besides, if the goal is known to others, you will be burdened with invisible and heavy pressure. If you succeed, others will take it for granted. If you fail, others will laugh at you for talking big. . No matter what you say in the future, no one will believe it, because what you said has never been fulfilled, and the impression you leave on others will only be bragging! Your set has collapsed a long time ago, but you don’t know it... Sigh

Master Nan Huaijin said: "Everyone has his own loneliness. He can’t tell others. It’s not that he doesn’t want to, but that he can’t."

Kindness and sincerity are very important in dealing with others, but when really interacting with others, you must also be wary and guard against being hurt.

3. Your financial situation (income and savings).

Whether you are working or doing business, you will have savings after working for a period of time, especially after you start a family and start a business. The amount of savings will affect your living standard. On the issue of savings, Munger also has his own views. He advises some People who can't keep their mouths shut should speak less and not talk more. When dealing with people, the most taboo is to show off one's wealth due to vanity and comparison.

Human nature is often vulnerable to money.

Therefore, it is a kind of wisdom not to reveal your wealth. If people want to have a pure friendship, then the exchange of money should not be involved, because once money is involved, it is difficult to be pure.

If your income is low, or even very poor, please do not share it with others, let alone cry about poverty, because in this situation, no one will take the initiative to help you, they will only look down on you from the bottom of their hearts. Your approach will only make others think you are naive and gradually alienate you.

If you have a high income, don’t share it with others, because no one wants you to live better than yourself and is happy for you. Not only will they think you are showing off, but it will also arouse jealousy and give you You will cause trouble, or your relatives and friends will borrow money from you, which will only cause a lot of troubles.

When you tell others that you have a large amount of money saved, think about what will happen if others hear it? Will others reject or doubt your behavior of showing off your wealth, or even think you are too vain? Or do others covet your wealth and ask you to borrow money in case of emergency? There will also be your friends who will exploit you together, want to eat and drink with you all day long, and even borrow your things and refuse to pay them back. Too many things will affect your quality of life, and the unspeakable key is deposits. , exposing income actually also exposes trump card. To be cautious in the opposite way is the wisdom of Kazuo Inamori.

There is an old saying in China: Wine is a poison that penetrates the intestines, color is a steel knife that scrapes bones, anger is a tiger descending from the mountain, and money is the root of trouble.

Everyone has both good and evil sides. Don’t underestimate people’s malice. Since ancient times, we must not have the intention to harm others, and we must have the intention to guard against others.

Conclusion:

"The Book of Changes" says: "A gentleman hides his weapon in his body and waits for the time to move." As a person, you must know how to restrain your sharp edges, be humble and low-key, and accumulate energy. Only in this way can you become successful. Great atmosphere and great achievements. In this world, the more people know how to hide, the more prosperous they will be in the end.

The maturity of a person is to know how to control one's mouth, not to reveal the secrets of one's heart easily, to learn to be alone with oneself, to keep one's mouth when in groups, and to keep one's heart when alone, so as to cause less trouble. Therefore, regardless of following No matter how good your relationship is with others, these three kinds of secrets cannot be leaked, otherwise you will make mistakes by talking too much, and disaster will come from your mouth.

Remember, when interacting with others, the less you talk, the less trouble you will have.