"My mother received a bride price of 200,000 yuan, turned around and bought a house for her brother without giving me a dowry." What should I do?

What would you think if your parents received a bride price when you got married, but they didn't buy you a dowry or bring it back to you as their own money? Will you feel comfortable in your heart?

I don't think many people will.

My cousin had a fight with her family the night before the wedding. The reason is bloody and common. My cousin wants to know how much the guests have come, as well as the wedding customs in our country. The day before the wedding, the woman puts out wine and invites the guests, and the next day, the man puts out wine.

Probably the care was out of order, and all the money collected was taken away by my uncle and aunt. Cousin quarreled with cousin first, uncle drank some wine, and aunt was not happy that cousin was pregnant before marriage. Suddenly there was a quarrel at home, which affected the bride's wedding mood.

It is said that home is a warm harbor, and affection is the most worrying. But affection is sometimes hard to avoid vulgarity, talking about money.

Money, in some cases, can best witness the love of our family.

Whether parents really love their daughters and prefer sons to daughters will be known when they get married.

In our hometown, the bride price is not high, and it is rare for the woman's parents to deduct all the bride price money. Instead, I will buy my daughter a dowry, a lot of household appliances, gold jewelry, motorcycles and cars with better conditions as dowry.

The more dowry, the more face the woman's family has, and the higher the status of the daughter to her husband's family.

However, not every place has the same customs, not every parent attaches great importance to his daughter, and not every parent really loves his daughter.

How many families sell their daughters as "commodities" in exchange for high bride price, change family conditions, or save bride price for their sons, buy a house and marry.

This is no different from "selling daughters".

But this act of betraying her daughter also deeply hurt her heart and hurt the parent-child relationship.

It is said that until the moment I got married, I didn't know whether my parents really loved my daughter, and I didn't know your position in my parents' hearts.

02.

One of my readers cried and said to me, "I always thought my mother loved me very much." I didn't know until I got married that my mother's heart was proud. " My mother received a bride price of 0.2 million/200 thousand, turned around and bought a house for her brother without giving me a dowry, which really chilled me. "

In the world, there are such eccentric parents. When I was a child, my parents always talked about love, but once they really wanted their rights and interests, their parents seemed to forget that their daughter was their own child, and a bowl of water was even.

When they are old and can't do anything, they kidnap their daughter with morality, ask her to support her old age and die, and ask her to repay her parents.

Ah, affection is a harbor and a sword. Sever the affection between parents and daughters.

She said:

I have a younger brother, two years younger than me. I worked hard since I was a child, and I did all the housework. There is no hot water at home in winter, so I pick up the dirty clothes of the whole family and wash them in the river. There is no running water at home, so I have to go far away to carry water home.

It's enough that my grandmother is partial to my brother. Everyone thinks of him first when they have sweet potatoes, and my own mother, although not as obvious as my grandmother, still loves her brother more when I grow up.

My mother always said, "You can have a chance to study because I pity you and love you, otherwise you would have gone out to work at the age of 15, just like other girls."

I always remember that my mother loves me.

My mother often says to me, "I am so kind to you. Don't forget to be filial to your mother when you make money later. "

I still remember finding a job as a clerk after graduating from college, and sending it back to my mother after I got paid.

But my brother, who just went to college for a year, spent four years of money from others, and I paid tribute to my mother.

03.

After working for several years, I saved some money and made a boyfriend. My brother also graduated and entered a unit through relationships. The salary is not high enough to support yourself.

Boyfriend's family is not very rich. He just came out to work a few years earlier than me and his salary was higher than mine. But he has been saving money, but it is a little difficult to buy a house in a big city. His family comes from the countryside and his parents have little savings.

So the parents of married boyfriends can't support it.

I don't know where my mother got the confidence to ask for a bride price of 200 thousand, otherwise she wouldn't agree to this marriage.

After my boyfriend went home to meet my parents, he began to feel depressed and depressed, but this is a relationship for many years and can't be said. I also talked to my parents, but my mother insisted, "No less. Don't forget that you have a younger brother. You don't think about yourself or your brother's future. Don't be so selfish. "

It is not until the interests are really involved that people can see clearly their position in others' minds. Even if this "other person" is his own biological parents, their attitude towards each child is different. Otherwise, how can there be so many family feuds?

My boyfriend counted his savings, 1.5 million, and my parents saved 23,000, adding up to 1.8 million. I still have to beg my mother to give me less bride price. We will live and have children in the future, but we can't live too hard.

Mom is still cruel to ask, no less.

Finally, I secretly moved 20 thousand yuan from my savings to my mother. I know about the bride price. I'm waiting to get married.

I thought I would get married as glamorous as other girls, dress beautifully and shine brightly.

However, I was wrong. On the wedding day, my mother took out some quilts, some chairs and benches, some kettles and some slippers from the room.

Some daily necessities, dowry that is no longer valuable.

But in my eyes, this is not a dowry.

04.

From that moment on, I really gave up on my parents.

I still can't help asking my mother, "Mom, I'll give you 200,000 yuan as a bride price. Where is the money? Will you buy these for me? "

My mother replied lightly: "The down payment has already been paid. I don't have time to tell you because you are busy. Last time I saw a real estate, I just finished the pre-sale before the opening. The apartment type and price are suitable. Your father and I bought it and will marry your brother in the future. You are also 25 years old, and you still have two or three years to get married. "

I can't believe my ears. My mother took my money in her left hand and bought my brother a family business in her right hand, leaving me no money. Can I be weirder?

"Mom, that's my money! Is this different from selling a daughter? "

"Your money? Is it easy for me to support you? I was counting on you to provide for our old age after the water poured by our married daughter. I am not so confident. "

Mom's words broke my heart again. From that moment on, our mother-daughter relationship fell to freezing point.

Until the moment of marriage, don't easily say that your parents love you very much. Whether you love them or not, money knows best.

Li Yinhe pointed out in his new book "Li Yinhe says love": "See if the money is for the woman's parents or for the young couple's life. If there is a wedding to buy daily necessities when you get married. This money ultimately belongs to the young couple, so naturally it should not be regarded as a disguised marriage. "

A woman who has the same reader experience as me is going through a "disguised marriage". The bride price did not return a certain amount for her daughter to take back. As the economic source of the young couple after marriage, dowry is not used instead.

Such affection, in front of the bride price, has changed its taste.