Why don't you speak too fast?

Probably no one will deliberately offend others. Many times we offend others not out of sincerity, but because our language expression is biased. As the saying goes, "A miss is a journey of 108,000 miles", and a slight deviation in language expression will lead to a digression of meaning, Wan Li. If you want to reduce this unnecessary trouble, the most important thing is not to make your mouth turn faster than your brain.

People who turn their mouths faster than their brains can be roughly divided into two types: one is a witty person who blurts out and talks eloquently, often making people stunned instantly; The other is a person who speaks without thinking, but has limited talent. Often his words hurt people, and sometimes he can't finish.

The former kind of person is a genius, and this kind of person is one in a hundred, but the latter kind of person can be seen everywhere and robbed a lot. Talking without thinking may offend others without knowing it. When you understand and are in a hurry to make up for it, it is often the more urgent the worse. In the end, you said a lot of good things, but people offended you.

Let's look at the following joke first:

A barber shop was stolen. The next day, the barber went to the client's house to shave his head, with a sad face. When the customer asked him why he was worried, the master replied, "Last night, robbers robbed me of my savings for a year. On second thought, I should only shave my head for a year. " The customer got angry, drove it away and changed to a barber. The master asked, "There was a master who served you before. Why has it changed? " The customer told the story in detail, and the master nodded. "People who can't talk like this really ruined their jobs."

The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. A few words without thinking produced this kind of misunderstanding that made people laugh and cry, and the result was fired. That's the price of speaking without thinking.

If you don't say anything, people who talk faster than their heads will make a lot of jokes and even offend others unconsciously.

Xiao Daocheng, the ancestor of Southern Qi Dynasty, proposed to compete with Wang Sengqian, a famous calligrapher at that time. Both the monarch and the minister carefully wrote a regular script. Then Qi Taizu asked Wang Sengqian, "Tell me, who is the first and who is the second?" Wang Sengqian didn't want to sell himself short and didn't dare to offend the emperor, so he replied: "For the calligraphy of ministers, people are the first; Your majesty's calligraphy is the first among emperors. " After hearing this, Qi Taizu had to laugh it off.

Wang Sengqian's split answer is quite clever. On the surface, considering the dignity of the emperor, the monarch and his subjects cannot be compared with each other. In fact, it avoids the problem of not wanting to sell yourself short and not daring to offend the emperor. It's killing two birds with one stone.

In ancient times, there was a funny man named Wu. He took the imperial examination with the son of someone in the village. After the exam, Sun Shanxian came home, and the father of that fellow villager asked Sun Shan if his son had been admitted. Sun Shan replied with a smile: "The best place to solve the name is Sun Shan, and Xianlang is outside Sun Mountain." This is the origin of the allusion "Falling into Sun Shan".

Sun Shan's answer was both tactful and implicit. This kind of expression, instead of poking the pain of others, makes others admire his witty banter. Even if the father's son fails to make the list, he will not be stimulated by Sun Shan's words. This is the charm of language expression.

Therefore, think twice before you speak at any time, and don't let your mouth turn faster than your brain, otherwise, you will suffer.