People who know how to suffer losses are called high emotional intelligence.

My mother is a housewife and spends all her time in the kitchen and vegetable market. Her greatest hobby is criticizing my father.

That day, my mother picked vegetables and started the daily dislike mode for my father.

"Your father is all right, but he is too sincere."

I feel uncomfortable and want to defend my dad:

"When did faithfulness become a disadvantage?"

"Why not? Your father would rather lose money than take advantage of others. It's called stupidity. Whose XXXX do you think is particularly tricky? ",Balabala. I gave my mother a dirty look to show my disapproval.

I don't know why, the general logic of older people is "you can lose money if you can take advantage", just like "you lose money if you don't pick up money on the ground", which is dumb.

I don't know how to refute my mother's fallacy. I only know that people who can't eat a little loss will have a small pattern, and those who don't take advantage will definitely not suffer.

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Xiao Gan, a former colleague, just graduated and joined the company as a clerk. Before joining the company, it was the Dragon Boat Festival, and the company prepared a fruit conference gift box as employee benefits, while Xiao Gan joined the company after the holiday and was not included. But in order to show the company's mind, the colleague in charge of administration went to the farmer's market and picked fresh fruits with similar specifications for her to assemble. But what I didn't expect was that Xiao Gan was unhappy after comparing the fruit gift boxes of the old employees, because she was missing ten mangosteen. The administrative colleague explained that Xiao Gan still seemed dissatisfied because of the shortage of mangosteen in the market. Finally, as a last resort, several of our old employees took out two mangosteen from their own shares and spelled ten mangosteen for Xiao Gan, and the matter was solved.

Because of these ten mangosteen, I have a little opinion about this little girl who usually looks natural and graceful. Later, Xiao Gan formally joined the company. As a fresh graduate, the company intends to train her, hoping to let her contact with other departments as much as possible, and finally choose a direction and study in depth. Therefore, as long as the company departments have meetings or activities, Xiao Gan will be allowed to attend and participate. However, Xiao Gan did not appreciate it, and refused the "invitation" of other departments on the grounds of being very busy every time. Over time, people stopped calling her.

One day, HR finally couldn't help communicating with Xiao Gan, but the answer was "Those are not my jobs, I have no obligation to help them do things for free", and HR expressed helplessness. A year later, Xiao Gan offered to resign, because there was no challenge at work and she could not learn anything. The company didn't keep her, and she quickly agreed.

In the workplace, knowing how to suffer is more like a survival rule, especially for young people like Xiao Gan. If you don't want to suffer, but don't want to do more work and study, then even an excellent original stone will eventually become a stone with only a superficial appearance.

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Sometimes, losing money is to make us better. Sometimes, losing money is a clever philosophy of life.

I have a junior high school classmate Tingting who has been in love with her boyfriend for 6 years. They are a perfect match, and they often show their love in the circle of friends, which is very sweet. However, just as they were finally going to join hands in the sacred marriage hall, the two families broke up.

The reason is because of this wedding. The woman asked the man to buy a house and add Tingting's name. The man declared that this was pre-marital property and did not add it. The woman asked the man for a100000 bride price. The man felt that the woman had to be reasonable about the money, and he felt bad. After bargaining, she got down to 60 thousand yuan.

The man proposed to the woman with a car of several hundred thousand yuan, and the woman asked the man to pay for the 20 tables of banquet hosted by the woman. Such as the specifications of the banquet, the arrangement cost of the shuttle bus for relatives and friends, etc. ....................................................................................................................................................

In this wedding, neither family is willing to back down. Behind every careful calculation, Tingting's family thinks that marrying a daughter can't lose money, which makes people laugh. It is the man who thinks that marrying a daughter-in-law can't suffer from boredom and can't swallow a breath. This argument led to the end of a beautiful marriage.

Speaking of losing money, we are used to weighing every penny between interests, but we forget why we should lose money and for whom. Too many people would rather be smart than smart. If it is a compromise out of love, then suffering is a blessing. If losing money can get better results, it is wise to choose losing money.

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Xiao is my sales friend. Strong ability, good performance, less than 3 years, promoted to business manager

Because of frequent business contacts, we have become idle friends.

During the Qingming small holiday, I made an appointment with Xiao and two friends to go to neighboring go on road trip for three days. Drive a car and we will share all the expenses among the travelers. Although it is AA system, it basically takes turns to treat guests. Every time it's Xiao's turn to treat us, he always invites us to a local specialty restaurant with good evaluation, sometimes it costs three or four hundred yuan for a table.

To this end, we will discuss whether to make up the price difference for Xiao A, and each person will be around 80 yuan. I will come forward to propose to Xiao A..

"A, you always invite us to dinner these days, and it's not cheap, and there's a round-trip gas bill. We will make up the difference for you and play together, and we can't let you suffer. "

Small ah smiled. "I regard you as a sincere friend. What's the loss of sharing what you like with your good friends? A pleasant trip for 200 yuan and three good friends are worth it. "

I don't know how to strike up a conversation at the moment, but if we continue to argue, it will appear that we are not sincere enough.

Later, I found that Xiaoa not only didn't care about being with friends, but also had dinners or activities in business. Xiao is always the most active person, scrambling to pay bills and buy water. Although in our opinion, he can completely avoid losing money, he enjoys it.

Small generosity has brought him a good relationship and his business is getting bigger and bigger. Now, Xiao is promoted to one of the candidates for regional director by the company.

As the saying goes, losing is a blessing, but unfortunately many people still can't see through it. Laozi said, "Misfortune lies in happiness, and Misfortune lies in happiness." This sentence means that misfortune is the premise of happiness, and happiness contains unfortunate factors. Happiness and misfortune can be transformed into each other. Sometimes, happiness can be a curse, and misfortune can become a blessing. The same is true of losing money.

Instead of coveting small profits, it is better to choose to be smart and accommodate each other. Don't suffer, have a steelyard in your heart, understand all kinds of gains and losses, straighten your mind and let yourself live calmly, which is the greatest wisdom in life. If every loss you eat can make you better and stronger, why not? People who know how to suffer losses are called high emotional intelligence.