Sharing the wrong person is a joke.

Recently, Wan'er and I chatted and said that she was a little depressed. In the face of naughty, stubborn and unloving students in the class, she can never turn them around. Wan'er is a compulsory education teacher. I warned her not to worry too much. There's always something you can't do. Take your time. As long as you work hard, there will always be a way. Aren't you at a loss

Later, we talked about another roommate who worked in a counseling institution. They are close and often meet each other. Wan'er told me that this roommate wanted to quit his job because of too much work pressure. Parents always ask for immediate improvement in their grades when sending their children to counseling institutions, and schools are also very concerned about students' grades. Her personality is not suitable for working under pressure, so she can't stand such a working environment.

That night, we chatted with my roommate again and asked her how she was doing recently, trying to distract her from being so depressed. We talked from our major to our present employment, from students to parents, and I could feel that she was somewhat absent-minded. I always take the initiative to find a topic. Later, we talked about my present situation. I told her that I had been admitted to two key middle schools, but I was still thinking about it and didn't make a final decision. She replied, "It's great to be admitted to a key middle school, as if she were great herself", and then withdrew the news. Seeing this news, I looked blank and lost in thought.

Shouldn't I share my happiness with my friends? Holding a mobile phone for a long time, I was at a loss. Why did she withdraw the news? Is it because it doesn't suit me? I seem to understand, maybe this should be the message she wants to send to her boyfriend. I comforted her kindly, perhaps in her view, I was showing off myself. At this moment, I really understood that "happiness should be shared with the right people, because sharing with the wrong people is called showing off."

All along, we always share each other's happiness and sadness without reservation. She will tell me what kind of surprise and romance my boyfriend created for her, where I went to see the sea during the holiday … I will also tell her what exams I passed and what awards I won in the competition … In my memory, we will be sincerely happy for each other's progress and sincerely wish each other.

It seems that this time, something is different, and my enthusiasm has been poured cold water. I even began to wonder, is it really that I love to show off too much? Everything I've shared with them for so long, does she think so? After all, I am the only one of the six who is still continuing his student career. This is a different life circle. I didn't doubt our friendship, but I began to reflect. Maybe my emotional intelligence is too low and I am not sociable.

I just canceled this group that has been chatting on it, because the change of chat content and the embarrassment of chat atmosphere in the group made me a little strange. Now, after work, there are more and more groups, and there are more and more groups talking about serious things. It used to be just a group of roommates and girlfriends, but now it's all calm.

When I was at school, this group was the most lively except for our class time together, and I don't want to ignore it. At that time, I was afraid that I had missed a little news in the group. I set up this group. At that time, WeChat was very popular, and I always felt that it was a bit troublesome to send text messages in groups, so I set up this group to share messages. There are some new trends in the class, or there are group activities in the dormitory that need to be discussed by voting. We will inform or discuss them in the group. More often, this group is a good way for us to enhance our feelings.

"Which one of you is in the canteen, help me bring my meal back."

"Who didn't you bring an umbrella? It's raining outside. "

"Is there anyone in the dormitory? Come and give me an umbrella. Don't forget to collect your clothes. "

"My boyfriend is here, and now he's in the hotel. I'll wait for you to come over for dinner."

"Go and play with friends, bring you a barbecue and come back early to eat."

"Who has the professional course review materials for the exam the day after tomorrow? Please make a copy for me. "

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No matter what news you send, you should be responsive and try your best to speak. Most of the time after graduation, we were joking and chatting, so that the chat atmosphere in the group was always very active. Occasionally, I will vomit the hard work and family life in the group. Of course, I will also gossip about each other's work, life and emotional progress. It seems that this place is a place where we can completely lay down our weapons and be our truest selves.

I seriously reflected for several days, perhaps I was too active to tell them things that they were not interested in, and I didn't accurately locate my position, and I didn't want to say whether these words were appropriate.

Yes, when others are unhappy at work, I just talk about my life now, regardless of each other's feelings. Perhaps this is the last thing to do. Time is always ruthless.

I still firmly believe that true friendship can stand the test of time. I also know better what happiness means. You must share it with the right people. If you share it with the wrong person, you are just showing off. ''

—— Written on 20 17.

Three years later, when I turned to this article again, I still felt that the distance was drifting away.

When I was in college, I was in an unknown two colleges. 80% girls are busy shopping, eating and gossiping. I didn't want to live that life at that time, not because I had very clear goals. Like most people, I am at a loss about the future. It's just that the education I received from childhood told me that I shouldn't waste time like this. My counselor also told us that there are many places for girls, so don't stay in the dormitory if you have nothing to do, and go to the library more. This sentence still feels very beneficial.

University life, I spent the first three years in the library, and finally I was busy preparing for graduate students and stayed in the study room for more than a year. I get along quite well with them. Six people have won scholarships and won the title of four-star civilized dormitory for many times.

After graduation, go your separate ways. This year is the fifth year of our graduation. Four of them are mothers, and 1 is unmarried. It's hard to get together. We can only meet at our own weddings. We were busy with the children, and the conversation was superficial. The group has been silent for a long time, and there will be no news until we discuss when we will arrive at the wedding venue. In the world of adults, they are busy for their families and are also pursuing their own happiness!