Does joking in daily life count as lying or gossiping?

The abstention from lying: the abstention from lying, sometimes also translated as the precept against lying. This is the lesson of abstaining from speaking lies and lies. Lies, musàvàdà in Pali, also known as falsehoods, refers to speaking false and untrue words that are contrary to the heart and the mouth. If you don’t see, hear, feel or know, but say you see, hear, feel and know, you are deceiving others. In addition to speaking lies, lying also includes body language such as writing and gestures. Any behavior or language made with deception in mind constitutes a violation. Those who have learned to avoid lying should also try to avoid the following three kinds of language: 1. Two-tongue - gossiping, telling A about B's right and wrong, telling B about A's right and wrong, alienating relatives and friends. 2. Harsh words - cursing and cursing to embarrass others. 3. Fairy talk - meaningless worldly rhetoric, topics that can increase relaxation and forgetfulness. Lies are constituted when two conditions are met: 1. Deception in mind; 2. Use various methods to make people understand. The following situations do not constitute a violation: 1. Speaking quickly due to impulse or other reasons without thinking. Since I have no intention of deceiving, I don’t do it. 2. Trying to say one thing but mistakenly saying another - due to stupidity and other reasons, the content of what is said is different from what one wants to say. 3. Crazy person. 4. Those who are disturbed.

Literal speech[1]

There are four conditions that constitute a violation of lying, namely

1. Untrue speech;

2. Having the motive to deceive;

3. Deceiving in various ways (through physical actions, such as letters, hand signals, movements or words);

4. The other party understands the meaning of what is said.

Situations that do not constitute a violation are:

1. Joking;

2. Slip of the tongue (speaking too fast, that is, saying something while thinking about (As a matter of fact);

3. There is no intention to deceive.

[1] Lies (musàvàdà): refers to speaking falsely and untruthfully, such as saying that you see, hear, feel and know without seeing, hearing, feeling and knowing. to deceive others. The precept not to lie also includes:

1. Not to talk nonsense (sammphappalàpa)? Chatty talk refers to those topics that are meaningless, unprofitable, worldly and rhetorical, and can increase looseness and forgetfulness;

2. Not being two-tongued (pisu?àvàcà)? Being two-tongued means gossiping, telling A about B's rights and wrongs, telling B about A's rights and wrongs, and being deviant from relatives and friends;

Three, not using harsh words ( pharusàvàcà)? Harsh words refer to cursing and cursing to embarrass others.

Although joking is allowed, too much joking means nothing. Therefore caution should be taken. There is a difference between joking and deceptive joking. For example, humor is also a joke, and deception is also a joke. Therefore, humorous joking is allowed, but if it contains elements of deception, then I think it is a violation of the precepts. For example, it says this, but you say it that way. Such jokes should be avoided.