At which moment did you really hate your in-laws?

Before pregnancy, my mother-in-law urged me to have a baby, saying that it would be nice to take me to work after giving birth. I was told to go to work in the second month of caesarean section, and then every time I saw me, I told my husband to urge her to wean when the child was weaned. After weaning, the husband said that the child would go to kindergarten, and the mother-in-law said 18 months, urging her to go to kindergarten, and the child would go to kindergarten for five days. My mother-in-law found me four jobs only after I went back to my hometown for a week. I had to follow me to the interview, but I refused. Later, my father-in-law specifically asked me. I said my husband wouldn't let me work Now I can see that their family regards me as a tool for giving birth. You can't eat at his house for a day after giving birth. Hehe, I just won't work in the future. Anyway, my husband always wants me to take care of the children, and I also want to work. Now I won't work as long as my in-laws are alive. What should I do? They are now over 60 years old and will be in poor health in a few years. They want me to quit my job and go home to serve them, treating me like a brick and always contributing to them. I won't do it. My aunt hasn't worked for so many years, and my mother-in-law didn't say she was going to work, just telling me. Moreover, judging from her mother-in-law's attitude towards her son-in-law, her husband has never helped her mother-in-law for so many years, and her daughter has cheated. She knows that. She also said to my face that her son-in-law is a mangy dog like a plaster, and once it sticks, it can't be pulled off. She said that her son-in-law was not good, and I thought that she didn't even appreciate his contribution to his family, let alone my daughter-in-law who spent money to bring the famine back.