Six core attachment needs of boys

The trust that a boy needs refers to "space"+"freedom", which gives him the space to gallop and the freedom to choose independently.

I suggest you do (give a speech):

I'm sure he can give you support ("I'm always at ease with you around me").

I believe he can fulfill his promise ("I believe you can do it, even if it doesn't turn out, I believe you tried your best").

I believe he has the ability to solve problems ("No matter who or what the outside world is, you are the best in my eyes").

Believe in his loyalty ("you are a measured person").

Leave him alone, I don't recommend you to make (a speech):

Check your phone ("Let me see your phone").

He kept calling when he was away ("What the hell are you doing outside?" ).

Grasp the unnecessary details to explain ("Why didn't you send me good morning today").

And a series of such words and deeds. A complete self should build a multi-dimensional life, as we often say, there is more than love in life.

From the standpoint, treat him as one of our own, and two people are like-minded. Emotionally, agree with him unconditionally, especially don't criticize him on the personality level.

I suggest you do (give a speech):

Don't exaggerate, a good partner is boastful ("you can always handle things well").

Don't solve internal contradictions outside ("we are husband and wife, one glory and one loss").

Correct attitude, boys are also people about our age ("you are an independent person, and you also have your hobbies and growth").

It is not recommended that you do (give a speech):

Deliberate him intentionally or unintentionally in language or attitude ("Can you still do this?" Compare "other people's boyfriends/husbands ...").

Embarrass him in public ("tell me clearly in front of everyone")

Boys need to be dependent, dependent, and gain a sense of strength by giving and being worshipped as heroes.

I suggest you do (give a speech):

Show weakness ("I can't handle this, I need your intelligence").

Express your needs ("I have a problem with XX now, and it is inconvenient for you to help me XX, please ~").

It is not recommended that you do (give a speech):

You don't need him to do anything, as if you can do anything.

Understand him, see his motives and inner needs through his behavior, and give him a hug and support when he is weak, such as staying with him when he is frustrated in the workplace, losing friends, or getting sick. When he is "hiding in the hole licking the wound", send him a cup of hot water and take care of other things. Tips: This is not a nanny service.

I suggest you do (give a speech):

Listen to the sound. Look at the real needs through his behavior. ("If the other person is angry, you can say," I feel that you are a little defensive now. Maybe something I said or did made you feel uncomfortable. You want to talk to me ").

Give him what he likes, not what you like.

Do something for him that is inconvenient for his position. For example, you may not know that boys also like to receive flowers.

The following actions are not recommended:

After he was tired from work, he clamored for bedtime stories (don't ask me if you still love me when I become a turtle).

Let him watch an idol drama with you and complain that he didn't do anything.

Focus. Boys also need a sense of security.

However, the sense of security they need is different from that of girls. Girls need to be watched all the time, and replying to messages in time means a sense of security. Boys are active, and the sense of security they need is not that you always take the initiative to report (of course, it is also extremely insecure and behave like a girl in love).

Remind this kind of boy, peach blossom all his life, be careful to kill the pig plate. What he needs is that you can respond positively when he takes the initiative, and emotional stability is enough.

I suggest you do this:

Emotional stability, positive response.

It is not recommended that you do this: the mood is changeable, and the reply message is full of negative energy, depending on the mood.

Wake up, sister, teaching you to be a wayward princess is just coaxing you to praise you for spending money. In the end, you will only experience the script of boys fleeing over and over again. Who doesn't want to have a lover who can "see himself" and has a good relationship?

Expose a fragile solution

It's better to make it clear to your face and tell each other what you can do now. He doesn't have to stay away from you. He can make friends with you, socialize normally, or delete you.

Let him know that he has many choices at present, so you don't have to be timid when you get along with him. If you feel uncomfortable, you can just say it. After two people break up, the mode and role of getting along can be changed again.

Another friend said that I asked him out and he didn't see me. What should I do? At first, he didn't see it, so he didn't see it. Come back with another idea. You don't have to go the same way. If this method doesn't work, then think of another way. For example, if your direct appointment is rejected, find an excuse to make an appointment the next day. If it still doesn't work, find a friend to make an appointment for you and organize the game the next day. I believe that as long as your words are in place, your reasons are justified, and your patience is enough, this thing is not afraid of being impossible.

In intimate relationships, the best way to promote the rapid warming of emotions is to present your true and weak self.