Three rules of life: self-knowledge, self-examination, and self-discipline

As the saying goes, a country is easy to change, but a person's nature is hard to change.

Although people are stupid, they can learn, cultivate, and improve themselves. A person's value lies in himself. If a person can grasp these three yardsticks: self-knowledge, self-reflection, and self-discipline.

Even if you cannot have a bright future, you can still reduce the things that are not as good as life to one or two things.

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Know yourself

Wang Yangming said: "A serious illness in life is just a word of pride."

If a person is arrogant and If you don’t know, people will avoid it, and even good luck will take a detour.

Xu Da and Zhu Yuanzhang were good playmates when they were children. When Zhu Yuanzhang established the Ming Dynasty, Xu Da was brave, resourceful, and accomplished, and was favored by Zhu Yuanzhang.

Although Xu Da has achieved great achievements, he has never been proud of himself. Every spring, he went out to conduct command and returned to Korea at dusk and winter. After returning to China, I immediately returned to Shuayin and still lived a very simple life at home.

Zhu Yuanzhang once said to him: "Brother Xu Da has become famous and has never had a good rest. I will give you the old mansion in the past and let you enjoy a few years of happiness."

These ancient palaces mentioned by Zhu Yuanzhang are actually the palaces where Wang Wu lived before he succeeded to the throne.

One day, Zhu Yuanzhang asked Xu to drink at his old house and got him drunk. Xu Da woke up in the middle of the night and asked the guard where this place was. The housekeeper said: "This is my old residence."

Xu Da was startled, jumped out of bed and fell to the ground, crying hard. Zhu Yuanzhang was very happy to see that he was so humble. He ordered people to build a large house in front of the old house, set up an archway in front of the house, and wrote the words "great achievements" in his own handwriting.

Later, in order to consolidate the throne, Zhu Yuanzhang massacred "arrogant" heroes, and only the "respectful and humble" Xu Da survived.

Man, you are self-aware. You can be proud of your outstanding achievements.

Mr. Jiang Yang once said:

"No matter which step you take in life, there will be people looking up at you at the bottom of the steps, and there will also be people looking down at you at the bottom of the steps. If you look up and feel inferior, you can only look directly. Only in the front can you see your true self. ”

Being self-aware, not arrogant, being humble and treating others equally is not only a reflection of good self-cultivation, but also a reflection of the overall situation.

Only those who know themselves, care about the world, and respect nature can live more comfortably and transparently.

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Self-examination and progress

Zeng Guofan warned his brothers in his home letter: "If you complain too much, you will stop in the future. If you Blaming Sky for no reason will not be tolerated by Sky. People will not accept it if you accuse others for no reason. The sense of reason is natural. "

People who like to complain can only see in their eyes. You can never find the cause of other people's problems, so you lack the ability to introspect and the opportunity for progress.

People who learn to introspect themselves will find the reasons for everything within themselves instead of blindly blaming others.

Only in this way can we better understand ourselves, control our own life trajectory, and get closer and closer to success.

Zeng Guofan should thoroughly reflect on and clean up his words and deeds in his daily diary.

Once, Zeng Guofan’s friend Dou Lanquan came to study with him. Zeng Guofan didn't understand what his friend meant, so he "talked to others because of his weak energy." It was originally a matter of increasing their studies, but it turned out to be the opposite, and the two broke up unhappy.

Later Zeng Guofan reflected on himself and said: "When we disagree with each other, we argue repeatedly, and the rest are arrogant and special. I suspect that others are not humble. Why is it better to blame others than to blame yourself?"

On the ninth day of November in the 22nd year of Daoguang (1842), Zeng Guofan went to Dai Yun's house to celebrate his mother's birthday.

This is a holiday event. As a result, Zeng Guofan talked nonsense and made everyone embarrassed. After the banquet, he hurried home.

In his diary that day, he reflected: "In the future, don't talk like you're smoking. If you talk nonsense again, God will tell you what to do! People who don't want to abandon me always have to I am responsible for this.”

Zeng Guofan’s lifelong cultivation and career have reached a very high level, which is inseparable from his lifelong self-examination and reform.

In fact, behind every successful person, there must be hardships, sweat and blood that ordinary people cannot see, as well as the introspection of "I saved my life three times".

Laozi said in "Tao Te Ching": "The hugged tree is born from tiny drops; the platform on the ninth floor starts from tired soil; a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

There is no one-time success. Only by constantly seeing yourself and moving forward can you be favored by fate.

Self-examination and self-correction are the most dazzling qualities of life.

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Strong self-discipline

I once saw a joke on the Internet

Two college students watched the old couple’s breakfast at the subway station. After hearing the news of selling 300,000 yuan a year, I was very excited and wanted to put in a lot of effort.

The research, location selection, purchase, and booth design were all meticulous and thorough, and they were much more professional than those ordinary vendors.

But when everyone wanted to see them make a fortune, the two of them declared that their business had failed.

The reason: they got up too early.

It sounds like a joke, but this is actually the reason why most people fail.

Except for IQ, none of us are bad.

But the biggest difference between people, apart from thinking, is self-discipline.

Those who are successful do not make plans, but do what they say, relying on self-discipline and persistence day after day.

Writer Haruki Murakami is an extremely self-disciplined person.

He gets up on time at 6:40 every morning and runs 10 kilometers every day. , He has been running since then.

Someone asked, is self-discipline painful?

The answer is yes.

This is inevitable, but it is better than the pain caused by doing nothing.

Matsushita Konosuke once said: The highest achievement comes from self-discipline.

Any great achievement benefits from self-discipline. A truly outstanding person is one who has long-term self-discipline.

In a world filled with materialistic desires, only by tempering one's mind and accumulating wealth can one find a corner of peace, a happy face and sweetness.

I agree with one sentence: people have self-awareness, then self-examination, and finally self-discipline.