The baby is not old, we are old. When the baby grows up, we will become empty nest parents. Is it really good to have a second child?

# "Flash Moment" Theme Essay Phase II #

Dabao is Diandian, and the twin Bao Xiao is Cocoa Lele.

Generally, people aged 40 to 55 will be called middle-aged people. At this time, their parents are basically seventy or eighty years old, and there are not many elders who can help them. Even if their parents promised to help, they couldn't stand it. If my parents don't promise to bring me cocoa, I will never dare to have a second child.

If you can be a full-time mother, that's fine. Babies are the hardest to take care of when they are 0~3 years old. He was so busy that he was upset with fatigue. As long as the baby is sick, it is really a long story to go to the hospital every day.

My Coco Lele is a twin, born prematurely and in poor health. /kloc-before the age of 0, go directly to the provincial children's hospital as soon as you get sick. Every time he goes, four adults go out together. If he is not careful, it will take 4-7 days to get an intravenous drip. He has to go to the emergency room at 3 am every day, waiting in line for five hours, seeing a doctor for four minutes and getting an injection for three hours. Before Cocoa Lele was ready, the four of us were too tired to be human.

Of course, if you are financially strong, you can change your nanny at will, and this one can be ignored automatically.

The child is a money shredder. Milk powder, diapers, clothes, toys, early education products and books are all money. I used to take my baby, thinking about buying brands, and buying good ones and expensive ones. After the second child came out, the level of food, clothing, housing and transportation of everyone in the family plummeted. As far as I am concerned, the price of my daily skin care products is directly behind zero compared with before. I can really afford it, but I can't!

Of course, if you are extremely financially strong and spend money as you please, then this item can be ignored automatically.

When people reach middle age, Dawa is generally a critical period of life from junior high school to high school, and they meet their rebellious period of youth.

Most children have enjoyed their parents' love for more than ten years, and suddenly a small treasure came out to grab their love. Parents are obviously more concerned about favoring milk dolls. How can they be happy? So they have to go against their parents from time to time, and they especially hate this sudden brother and sister.

Adults only have so much time and energy, and they also have two treasures. They need to be fed, cared for and accompanied, and the time allocated to the oldest baby has dropped sharply. If Dabao coincides with the key point of junior high school to middle school and senior high school to university, it will be more and more difficult to study and the psychological pressure will be greater and greater. If parents can't spend a lot of time, money and energy to help their children tide over the difficulties, their children will not only fail in further education, but even have serious psychological problems.

The year when I gave birth to Coco Lele was the third grade, because Coco Lele and Coco Lele both experienced many difficulties, and they couldn't take care of her study. Diandian made a serious mistake at the beginning of her promotion, and her poor high school directly affected her admission to college. This is something I have always regretted. Diandian strongly opposed my having a second child, so until I was 2 years old, Diandian hated Coco Lele and ignored her sisters at home.

Of course, if Dawa is excellent and likes Bauer, you can just ignore this.

40 years old is the watershed of the body. After 40 years old, you will obviously feel that it takes a day or two to recover from the long night. Shoulder and neck pain, backache all day; Lack of qi and blood is afraid of heat and cold ... middle-aged people and young people are really two completely different concepts. Anyway, my old waist has never been better, and the cat's eye has become my symbol.

In addition to good health, we must have a good attitude! When you go out for a walk, you will often meet enthusiastic strangers and ask you, "Are you the baby's grandmother or grandmother?" Anyway, I have been beaten n times, and now I can reply calmly and affably: "I am their old mother."

These are not the most worrying. Our biggest fear is: I am not old, I am old!

When Coco Lele was 22 years old, I was 62 years old and Bao Dad was 67 years old. I have been in poor health. It's hard to bring cocoa and music. I'm really afraid that I will die young and I won't see them get married, have children and live a happy life.

Of course, if you are in good health and in a good mood, you can skip this one directly.

The first three years with Bauer are the most tiring. It is much better to be sent to kindergarten after the age of three, but elementary school, junior high school and senior high school are all equally difficult, which is equivalent to going through all the processes of bringing up a big baby on Bauer again.

However, our mentality of taking care of the baby has obviously changed. As the saying goes, "the boss keeps his books, and the second is a pig." Indeed, I can accept the imperfection of Coco Lele more, and I was not so demanding when I was young. I don't ask them to be smart, cute and excellent, I ask them to be safe, happy and healthy.

In fact, as long as Dawa goes to high school, we basically become left-behind parents; After the eldest baby went to college in other places, we completely became empty-nest parents. When people reach middle-aged couples, there is nothing to talk about in daily life, and they may even live in separate rooms because of different sleep habits. When I got home from work, the room outside the window was silent and lifeless.

But since Erbao appeared, the little people in the family have been running around, joking and doing bad things from time to time. Around these two little people, there are always endless topics, and the family is always full of laughter and vitality.

Although there are many difficulties and hardships, it is more joy and happiness.