How to treat "children are promising and parents are confident"

Here's the thing. Parents who don't want their children to succeed just don't expect to repay themselves. At least it is gratifying and proud to see them live a good life, and of course they are more emboldened.

Sometimes a child's parents have no hope, and confidence becomes a sigh.

Girls from relatives' families are smart since childhood, and they are so-called children from other people's families academically. Her parents have always been the envy of her parents, and the girl has lived up to her expectations. At first, her parents were very happy, and gradually they felt that it was not that smell. The girl found a foreign boyfriend and knew how to call home at first. Later, don't say "New Year", her parents seldom say hello to her birthday, and her parents are no longer as proud as before. Look at that.

I also know a girl who worked hard outside for several years after graduating from college. When her work began to improve, her mother was ill and her father was in poor health. As an only child, she resolutely quit her job and went back to her hometown to take care of her parents while studying. Two years later, she was admitted to the civil servants in her hometown and county and did her duty.

Parents should realize that children are not tools to compare and show off, as long as they try their best to give their children a good life and education, so that they can grow up healthily and be upright. This is the greatest commitment to children and the best reward for parents.

Stupidly, this is human nature, especially in our country, which is almost universal and understandable. However, I dare to take the world by storm and advise parents to get out of the misunderstanding. There are four reminders:

First, children are promising, which does not mean that parents are promising. In this world, everyone is an independent individual, and no one can replace anyone, even parents and children. It is their responsibility for parents to raise and educate their children. It is normal for parents to feel gratified that their children have a bright future. However, therefore, I still have confidence. What is this? Is it that children can have confidence in economic security when they have a good future, so as to "support their children and prevent their old age"? Is it the confidence that children can boast in front of relatives and friends if they have a good future?

Second, parents' self-confidence should not only stay on their children's ambitions, but also should not take their children's ambitions as the main reason for their self-confidence. In daily life, everyone is familiar with a sentence: "I am an adult in the first half of my life, and I am a child in the second half." Every time I hear it, I always feel sad! Think about it, I'm extremely scared. Isn't this the contemporary version of the concepts of "mother's son" and "husband's wife" in feudal society? It is puzzling that since parents can cultivate promising children, why are they so worthless and have the cheek to "note" on whether their children are promising!

Third, there is no contradiction between children and parents, and they can go hand in hand. The feeling that "children are promising and parents are confident" seems to have a subtext: parents spend their energy, financial resources and material resources on their children for their success, so they can only pin their hopes on them. This is clearly an excuse! The weight that children can't bear! Just think about it, it's good to say that children are promising. Once they are worthless, should they be held accountable for life? Suffering from conscience all your life? !

Fourth, parents' ambition can stimulate children's ambition and make them more confident. Family is a child's first class, and parents are a child's first teacher. As the saying goes, show is better than shout. The power of example is infinite. For children, the role model of parents is "sneaking into the night with the wind, moistening things silently". This kind of "example" is far better than "teaching by example". Being a parent with ambition, pursuit, realm and pattern can be an inexhaustible motive force for children to struggle forward. Only in this way, not only in front of relatives and friends, but also in front of children, can parents have confidence!

The topic above is too heavy. Tell a joke: One day, a father used Watt to educate his children in order to encourage them to study hard. The child asked, "Dad, why didn't Watt's father invent the steam engine?" In the face of mowgli's childish words, I can't laugh.

I hope that parents everywhere will never lose themselves for "promising children". The bottom spirit should come from the pursuit of realizing one's own life value. This is the greatest confidence of parents!

I quite agree with this! I was admitted to the civil service, and I should be doing well in our village, so my parents are looking bright now.

Before graduation, my parents were very worried about my job.

Before graduation, my parents were very worried that I did not have a decent and stable job. So when I was in college, my father would often visit my neighbor's aunt's house and send mutton, pork and beef on holidays, just so that my aunt could arrange for me to work in a state-owned enterprise after graduation, so that I could have money and face.

Every holiday, my father and I go to my neighbor's aunt's house, and my parents always greet each other with smiles. At this time, my heart is actually mixed. I also want to win honor for my parents. I don't want my parents to greet others with such a smile. It was from this time that I vowed to be admitted to the civil service. Only in this way can I turn over as a serf and sing.

Second, the hard way to take the exam

My journey to take the civil service exam is really difficult. After graduation, I didn't seize the opportunity and stayed at home for three years. In these three years, my heart is empty, helpless and inferior. Every time I meet my neighbor's aunt, I feel my face is very dull.

But there are many things to grind. This year, I studied hard. I spent 20,000 to 30,000 yuan on the remedial classes, and finally I successfully received the interview through the written test, and I spent tens of thousands on the interview remedial classes. Finally broke through the interview, successfully entered the medical examination and political examination, and finally became a civil servant.

Third, parents' faces are bright.

After being admitted to the civil service, my parents' faces are full of light. When I met my neighbor's aunt, my parents straightened up. Greeting is no longer a smile, but more of an equal smile.

Everyone in the village knew that I was admitted to the civil service and congratulated me, but I didn't say that I spent tens of thousands of dollars on remedial classes.

When I told my parents the news that I was admitted to the civil service, my father was very happy that night and drank six or two liquors with my mother's fried dishes. For a week, I hummed a little song and drank a little wine every night.

Fourth, my target is also within the system.

When I was unemployed at home, I met my other half. My partner doesn't dislike that I have no job. She always thought I was a potential stock, so she decided to marry me.

I was admitted to the civil service because my wife supported me very much.

Now my wife and I are both working in the system, and my parents' faces are bright and their waists are straight when they walk on the road. Parents are very, very happy that their children are promising.

This sentence is so right.

In rural families, children are promising, parents don't have to worry too much about marriage, and they are also beautiful in front of outsiders.

One important thing in life is to make progress while you are young, and another thing is to educate children well, especially to supervise their study. We have a man named Lao Guo who is often looked down upon by his relatives because of his poor family. Lao Guo's wife doesn't leave her family all the year round, because after she went there, she came back a few days without confidence, and her brothers and sisters looked down on her sister. His younger brother is a teacher in a middle school in our hometown (a civilian teacher has become a regular teacher), and his nephew is studying in his school. In the third grade, every time my nephew talked to him, he always ignored me, let alone asked my nephew to go home for dinner.

But his nephew did well in school. At that time, there were high-quality students in junior high school who could be sent to senior high school. His nephew was sent to a key high school and got good grades in high school. Coupled with the poor family conditions, the high school principal exempted him from tuition for three years. He also lived up to expectations. He was admitted to Tsinghua University with excellent results in the college entrance examination, and now he works in an office in Beijing. Since then, the younger brother, a teacher, has often visited his sister in Lao Guo's house, and his relatives have become enthusiastic.

People live all their lives, and it is more important for children to be successful than anything else. When their wealth is exhausted and their children are capable, their parents will not only have face, but also enjoy happiness for several years when they are old.

I like listening to this. That's really the way it is. Let me give you an example:

The Lao Wu family in our village has a son. Mr. and Mrs. Lao Wu later came to our village. They only had eight acres of land (every family in our village has dozens of acres and hundreds of acres of land, all of which are mechanized). Because there is no land, life is very difficult, doing short-term jobs and sideline jobs everywhere, and the family is very poor, which is often looked down upon by the villagers. Especially for weddings and funerals, gifts are the least. I remember once when everyone else went to 200 yuan, 100 yuan, Lao Wu only went to 30 yuan, which was embarrassing.

Lao Wu has only one son. He studied very well and was finally admitted to Xi Jiaotong University. I can't afford to go to school because the mayor funded 4000 yuan, and the love organization and the village Committee funded a lot. Unexpectedly, the child graduated from college and finished his postgraduate work-study program. After graduation, he was recruited by a large enterprise with an annual salary of 500 thousand. This time, Lao Wu turned over, built a new house, bought a motorcycle, and spoke loudly and confidently. Since then, no one has looked down on him.

Children are promising and parents are confident. This is a real and logical thing. Family members around you can interpret the meaning of this sentence.

In this family, there are three men and one woman born to their parents. When the children were studying in succession, their parents broke their hearts for the livelihood of the whole family. Besides, this family is an out-and-out farmer, and the children's parents are also honest. Apart from working year after year, they can't go out to earn money during the slack season. A family of six lives by farming with their parents on a few acres of land.

At that time, the school had to pay tuition and miscellaneous fees to the school, and four brothers and sisters went to school at the same time. The parents had to borrow some money from their three relatives and neighbors to make up for it, so as to pay the tuition and fees of their four children every semester. I have borrowed it many times. As long as this parent appears in the village, people are afraid to see him. Close the door or ignore it. Even his relatives gradually ignored his family.

The countryside loves to hold banquets. In the banquet hall, people are reluctant to share a table with this family for fear of bringing poverty to themselves; Even people with children's records regard his family with special respect and think that there are few members in his family. When people live to this point, they really can't lift their heads in the eyes of all people and have no confidence in life.

However, his children lived up to expectations. After more than ten years of hard work, one of his children went on to go to college, except for his second son who failed in the exam. so far

I went to work in various units. My two sons worked in the local procuratorate, and my youngest daughter worked as a teacher in a county middle school.

Man is really a strange animal. Look down on people at home who take the initiative to come over and befriend; Relatives and friends also came to his house from all directions to recognize relatives. Being left out for more than ten years, this family suddenly became crowded. Now that the children are promising, the parents have regained their dignity that they have lost for many years and have confidence in their hearts. From then on, no matter where parents go, someone will take the initiative to come and talk to them.

Children have ambition and parents have confidence? There is no doubt about it.

Whether a child can become a success is the result of personal efforts and perseverance. What parents can do is to help their children grow up.

Children can get ahead, parents are "indispensable", and their efforts will not be less. From the beginning of enlightenment education to primary school and then to college, it is also heartbreaking. No parents need to settle everything for them and let their children study quietly. It is no exaggeration to say that behind every successful person, there will be a great parent.

This is an environment where parents lead their children to success, and the rest are the results of their own efforts and enterprising.

Generation after generation produces talents, and each generation is stronger than the next. This is everyone's wish. Who doesn't want their children to get ahead? This day has really come, and it is time for parents to hold their heads high.

This is also a hot topic before and after tea. Who, who, who? Whose child was admitted to the university, found a good job after coming out, and their parents had face in front of them, and their parents also taught their children well. This is by no means flattery, but sincere praise.

That's what happened!

There is an old saying in China that the father respects his son in the first 30 years, and the son respects his father in the last 30 years.

In reality, such examples are not uncommon. I have been engaged in commercial retail for 20 years, and I have received a variety of people. I think I have a say in this topic.

An old local leader, the highest position has always been the deputy secretary of the county party Committee. When I was on the stage, I was an omnipotent person in our small place. I'm definitely somebody. When I came into contact with him, I already knew that his children and grandchildren were disappointing. He was in his early eighties. Stumbling, glassy-eyed, and mixing with old people, you can't imagine his brilliance at all.

There is also an old man in his seventies who used to be a contractor. In the 1980s, the assets had reached several million. In the Forbes list of our small county, if not the first, it is definitely in the forefront. But the son didn't live up to expectations and the son-in-law took drugs. Like ordinary old people, this once rich man crowded at the gate of the supermarket at six or seven o'clock, waiting for special eggs and rice.

A neighbor of my uncle's family is an ordinary worker in the rural grain depot. But he gave birth to a good son, who was taken away by the Central Security Bureau after graduating from Luoyang Institute of Foreign Languages of the People's Liberation Army. When I met the old man a few years ago, his son was already a senior university. At that time, he was the chief bodyguard of a senior leader. The old man met the old man on the road, trotted over and shook hands with him with a smile.

There is also an old man who was an employee of our local commercial bank before he retired. Talking with him, I found that he was extremely contemptuous of many peers, and there was a mantra that "Don't compete with me for money and be better than my son". I found that his son studied in Germany after graduating from the University of Science and Technology of China, and got a doctorate ... He really has proud capital!

Society is so realistic, people are so snobbish, and this is the fact.

Children have ambition and parents have confidence. This is the true meaning of life.

People want their children to become useful people, no longer rely on their parents, live independently, achieve something and be happy all their lives. In this way, parents don't have to work hard for their children, live their own lives carefree, enjoy their own happy life every day and live happily until they are old.

Therefore, children are promising and parents are confident, which is the wisdom of a happy life and the secret of longevity.

This is a question of pleasing, and it is also a question of one's fate. They are all women. Why can't some children get what they want? People's fate is doomed, which depends on whether children can learn and think about the meaning of life as required. Assuming that they can study and live according to their parents' opinions, the child raised by their parents may have a bright future. Nowadays, people pay attention to scientific feeding, so that they can cooperate with teachers' education when they grow up. However, they also add a lot of unnecessary burdens to their parents. Parents feel very tired when they go to work by themselves, and they have to take time out to help their dolls learn. However, we just want to say that at that time, we didn't pay that much attention, so we asked you to study and read it. Working in Guiyang is also rare. We must not relax, and we should treat our work and work with the enterprising heart of the past.