The epidemic is almost over, but the children in the second grade are hospitalized because of depression. What should I do? Drop out of school?

I solemnly tell you that depression is a terrible disease, which is caused by the decrease of transmitter secretion in the brain. What you see is only his superficial problems. In fact, his inner feelings are overwhelming, life is worse than death, just like losing his soul and having a strong desire to commit suicide. This is beyond his control, so he must drop out of school, receive systematic treatment, and then take the medicine for at least 13 months. 90% of depression in China has not been treated in time, and it has become chronic. I hope you pay attention. Ask me questions!

Finally, warn the families of patients with depression: depression is a specific disease of the body, not a disease! It's not depression, they're not the same thing! Don't try to change your treatment through psychological adjustment and thinking. Attention!

I think nothing is more important than health. Children should be treated first. Everything else can be shelved.

I am a nurse working in a psychiatric clinic. You will often meet some parents who have the same troubles as you. Since the child has been hospitalized, it is recommended to treat the disease first. If the child's condition is not alleviated, there is no way to continue his studies.

I have also contacted many parents of depressed patients, and I would like to remind you that apart from genetic factors, many children of this age have a great relationship with their families. Many parents will compare their children with other people's children, and will also say some very negative words to their children, and even often abuse their children, causing psychological harm to them.

As we all know, the main symptoms of depression patients include depression, lack of interest, loss of pleasure, low self-evaluation, sleep disorders and so on. This disease plagues children. How can children study hard?

Parents are also advised to communicate with their children more, talk about topics that children are interested in, encourage and guide their children to recall some interesting childhood experiences and experiences, and express and stimulate their yearning for a better life through discussion. We should give positive language encouragement, don't often say some negative language in front of children to aggravate their inferiority complex, and don't over-identify with children's pessimism to strengthen their depression.

The children in Grade Two are hospitalized because of "depression". According to our many years of experience in psychological counseling services, first feeling is not the best way to deal with problems.

Because the second-grade children are diagnosed as "depression", it just shows the severity of their psychological problems.

I doubt whether hospitalization can really help children. Ask the child in what hospital. Is there a professional psychology department? Or "psychiatry"? Is to use psychological principles and techniques to help children. Or just use drugs to "treat" and "treat" children? If you only use drugs to "cure" and "treat", the result will definitely hurt the child, not help the child.

Now look at the essence of the problem: children have serious problems, not qualified excellent children, not qualified excellent students, and may not necessarily become qualified excellent people. One of the reasons why children have these problems is that their parents are not qualified and excellent parents. Mom and dad may have a successful career, prosperous business, excellent cadres, excellent work, qualified couples and excellent children, but these can't replace qualified and excellent parents. Mom and dad are not qualified and excellent parents, which is the main reason why children are like this today.

There must be other factors, but mom and dad are the biggest. To make children become qualified and excellent children, students and people, parents must first become qualified and excellent parents. This is a causal relationship. To solve children's problems thoroughly, parents should first become qualified and excellent parents. What should we do?

Don't expect parents not to change, just change their children to solve the problem. No organization can do it. If any organization says it can do it, it must be a "big lie." Because children's problems and parents' problems are linked, parents' problems and children's problems must be solved simultaneously. Fear can't solve anything.

Parents are advised to seek professional and formal psychological counseling services as soon as possible and seek the help and guidance of high-level psychological counselors. Parents should participate with their children, learn together, change together, and improve their wisdom. Only when parents grow up to be qualified and excellent parents can children become qualified and excellent children, qualified and excellent students and qualified and excellent people.

This is a very difficult and big project, which takes time and requires parents and psychological counselors to reach an agreement. It takes a process, so do you need to take it slow?

Children in grade two have serious psychological problems and should drop out of school first. After the psychological problems are completely solved, returning to school will not delay any problems. Just solve the problem in the right way, don't take detours, hurt children and delay children.

Two months ago, I also received a consultation from the parents of another senior three child. Girls in senior three are also prone to depression when they see a doctor. I wrote an article about her, and I don't know if it is of reference value to your child.

Parents must not ignore their children's depression. I suggest:

First, take your child to see a professional psychologist.

Many patients with depression are caused by sudden changes and unbearable psychology. Is your child under great pressure to study? Or other reasons? This requires going to a regular hospital to see a professional doctor.

The doctor will make a clear diagnosis and suggestion according to the child's condition. If the doctor recommends hospitalization, give the child leave and cooperate with the treatment. If the doctor does not recommend hospitalization, the child can take medicine while attending school and make adjustments in life.

Secondly, parents should spend more time with and care for their children.

Never laugh at children at this time. People with depression are often depressed, so family members should take the greatest patience to accompany them, chat with their children appropriately and understand their thoughts. Encourage children to do something they are interested in, even some entertainment and relaxation programs.

Third, encourage children to exercise more.

Exercise can make people secrete more dopamine and make people happier. Children who exercise are more likely to forget their troubles and face life with an optimistic attitude, thus getting rid of gloomy emotions.

Fourth, pay attention to children's sleep.

Many people with depression suffer from insomnia at night. Insomnia is very painful. Therefore, it is necessary to improve children's sleep. Drink milk properly, go to bed early regularly, hypnotize with music, and massage at Yongquan point at home. Both are better methods.

If you can improve your sleep, it will definitely promote your child's early recovery.

Finally, I want to say that depression is not so terrible. There are three acquaintances around me who have had similar experiences. Accompanied by their families, they did more exercise and improved their sleep, and they all recovered completely. There is also a slightly serious one who has returned to work after taking medicine in the hospital.

In short, compared with children's grades and physical health, physical health must be put in the first place. It's just a way to assist in rehabilitation. Specifically, whether children need to drop out of school or stay in hospital, please follow the advice of professional doctors.

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Helpless parents, helpless drop out of school. COVID-19 took control of the situation, but the children's evil hearts were out of control.

During this long holiday, the children shed tears happily; Parents are angry with anxiety. Some parents hit the table and hit the computer; Some parents hurt their children and hurt themselves. So parents and teachers should pay attention to children's psychological problems.

In recent years, the problem of depression has become younger and younger. Not only college students, but also primary and secondary school students will have emotional problems. Relatively speaking, universities are rich in resources and have emotional problems, so they can turn to psychological professional institutions in universities for help; There is a relative shortage of psychological teachers in primary and secondary schools. Therefore, under normal circumstances, college students facing depression can be accompanied by their parents for psychological counseling and treatment. But it is more difficult for middle school students, not to mention being hospitalized for depression now. So, there are not many choices. Is there a better way not to drop out of school? After all, children's health is more important.

Children still have a long way to go, and the problem of depression is easy to recur. Therefore, dropping out of school can not be simply understood as medication+rest, otherwise dropping out of school means stopping boiling, and parents should reflect on the influence of their personality on their children. If you have the conditions, you can have psychological counseling. My understanding is that family therapy may be more effective than individual psychological counseling. Simple individual counseling children will feel that this is their own disease. If a child finds out that his depression is originally a family cause, the child will recover quickly, with less stress and easy to accept.

Children with depression should not be underestimated. Whether they go to school or work is less important than their health!

I know exactly how you feel. Due to the epidemic, I finally hoped that my child would start school, but the child was hospitalized because of depression!

What you have to do now is to adjust your mood. The child is in low spirits. Don't let your bad emotions affect your children again!

In recent years, there are countless news about teenagers committing suicide due to depression. As parents, we must pay attention to accompany our children during their hospitalization, observe their emotional changes and actively cooperate with doctors for treatment!

It's never too late to study. The most important thing is the health of children. With health, we can talk about other things!

The idea of empty circulation has reached the point of hospitalization, so it is more appropriate to drop out of school and stay in hospital for observation until you get better.

If it is simple psychological irritability and mild depression, you can get out slowly through your own debugging and the help of your family, and at the same time in a good learning environment.

Everything you said is already in the hospital. I think it's a doctor's order. Professional doctors won't just let your child be hospitalized. Generally speaking, they tend to be world-weary, self-mutilation and suicide. Or if you are so depressed that you can't live and study normally, you will be advised to be hospitalized!

Therefore, we must first follow the doctor's advice and let the children receive formal and effective treatment in formal medical institutions!

Nothing is better than having a healthy body and mind.

Secondly, it is necessary to combine family cooperation to let children get out of the abyss of depression as soon as possible. Although depression is more common now, only people with depression can deeply understand the pain.

Sometimes, she clearly knows that her thoughts are wrong, and even knows that what she should do is right, but she can't control her behavior. Once she does something drastic because she can't control her behavior, her family will regret it for life and can't change it.

Third, don't force children to go back to school in a short time. We should actively cooperate with doctors to find the root cause of childhood depression, and make effective treatment plans on the basis of mutual cooperation between doctors and families.

After all, patients with deep depression can't be cured in a short time. Even if the treatment effect is good, if there are subsequent environmental reasons, it is very likely to recur.

Therefore, only by following the doctor's advice and cooperating with active treatment is the right way.

One of our children was admitted to Tsinghua, but because of the gap between ideal efforts and reality, compared with some better children, his efforts did not make him win better grades, so he suffered from depression. He just dropped out of school for a year, received good treatment and returned to school.

After graduation, I entered a private enterprise and found a good job.

If you force yourself to study, it may cause serious irreparable consequences!

I hope my child will recover soon, and as a family member, I shouldn't worry, because it will also affect the therapeutic effect of my child from the side.

I hope my advice is useful to you.

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I have a similar experience with you, and I hope I can help you.

My daughter dropped out of school last winter vacation: because we went to primary school in a small county, we didn't pay attention to our studies and didn't make up lessons. In the first year, we entered the middle schools affiliated to four famous universities in Changsha, and our grades were moderate in the first semester, and began to decline in the second semester. In the second half of the first semester, we didn't like classes very much, so there were few people and our grades were at the bottom of the class. We enrolled him in a cram school during the winter vacation. Last semester of the second grade, we also invited her to take special lessons. In addition, the cram schools in various subjects on weekends made her feel at a loss, and people became very silent. The communication with us is almost zero, and she ignores us and doesn't go out. No matter how you make up the lessons, you still can't get up. During the winter vacation, people are very anxious because the local exam is coming soon. Seeing her situation, we immediately took her to the Second Affiliated Hospital of Xiangya for psychological counseling. At that time, the doctor didn't say that she would drop out of school, but I decided to drop out of school considering her poor grades and bad mood.

After dropping out of school, we also invited the teacher to give her an extracurricular interest class. Take her out to climb mountains and walk together every night. Slowly, I felt better, and then we began to transfer her to a private school. Because public school teachers will have some prejudice against children because of their grades, students will also alienate her because of their grades. So we think twice, find a public school first, and then transfer after resuming school.

My daughter went to a private school in the second half of last year. At first, she was particularly reluctant to leave us. First of all, she didn't want to go out because she stayed at home all semester. Second, she is afraid of the new environment. Third, she is insecure. We encouraged her. In the first week she just went, we called her every day, slowly three times a week and once a week at last. Now we still keep this habit. In the first month, she was not familiar with her classmates and teachers, and she cried with us. The worst time is to say no to study. I have a good communication with her class teacher and I have a good communication when I go home. After this incident, she suddenly understood a lot. I slowly integrated into the class, and now I have transferred to another school. Although my grades are still average, I am hardworking and confident. Especially now she doesn't need a tutor, and she doesn't care about her life and study. She is learning to deal with it herself, and occasionally she will encounter annoying things, but she can face it and solve it.

During the epidemic this year, although we didn't go out, we got along well with me and her brother at home. We are often her listeners and she will tell us everything. Many students in the class play well with him and often call each other to comfort and encourage.

After the epidemic, I took her to the Second Affiliated Hospital of Xiangya for psychological counseling. I was embarrassed when I first came, but when I came this time, she comforted me and said that it was normal to see such a psychiatrist. Everyone has psychological problems and needs psychological counseling. She's calm. Later, I had a good chat with the professor. The professor said that your daughter is in better shape than other children. I was relieved at once and felt that the decision at that time was right.

I summed up the main reasons for my daughter's change: 1: His father and I don't talk about his study requirements every day, but we will remind her when we have a good chat, so that her psychological pressure is not so great. After half a year at home, she gets along well with her family and is willing to open her heart and tell us her thoughts. Her confusion and psychological burden have also been reduced. 3. Teachers in private schools are the same for every child, encouraging more than criticizing, being good at discovering children's advantages, encouraging children to be confident and self-reliant, and getting along with children like friends, so that her learning pressure and fear of teachers gradually disappear, and she is also willing to take the initiative to approach learning. 4. When she arrived at the new school, because of the change of mood and thinking, when she performed well in grades and specialties, she was encouraged and praised by the teachers she feared and admired, and suddenly felt that the results of her efforts were visible, worthwhile and motivated, so she began to set goals and pursuits.

Finally: grades are very important, learning is very important, but children's mental health is more important. The road to enter the society will be longer and more bumpy in the future. I hope my children can face adversity bravely, be more frustrated and brave, build up self-confidence, love themselves, love their families, know how to stand on their own feet, love this society, love life, fear life, bravely pursue her life, be lazy and afraid of failure, and still not shrink back.