How to speak in various situations

The moderator is the core figure of the meeting. He wants to inspire the audience and make the atmosphere warm. He wants to organize the masses and concentrate on meetings; He wants to add fuel to the fire and let his feelings blend. This requires some speaking skills. It includes:

(1) Elaborate opening remarks. The prologue has two tasks: one is to establish the same feeling between the speaker and the listener; The second is to open the scene and introduce the topic. This requires the meeting host to flexibly design the opening remarks according to the content, characteristics, meeting requirements, audience mood and venue conditions of the speaker's speech.

② Use clever conjunctions. The conjunctions should be humorous and literary, and put a paragraph on like a pearl, so that the audience can get rid of fatigue and learn from laughter. The conjunction should be a link between the preceding and the following, which makes the finishing point for the above speech, adds luster and enhances the effect; Briefly introduce the following speech, render it and encourage the audience. When designing conjunctions, we should pay attention to: First, we should understand the situation and make clever arrangements. Before the meeting, make clear the situation, characteristics and contents of each speaker, accurately arrange the order of speeches, and organize each speech into an organic whole of "starting, undertaking, turning and combining", so that the conference will leave a complete impression with clear levels, clear centers and prominent priorities in the hearts of the audience. Second, we must be flexible in series. Or according to the changes in the venue, or select a speaker's incisive words, improvise and make the conjunctions interesting. Third, we should be rich in vocabulary, improvise and flow freely. [China Inspirational Network] As long as the host usually reads more, listens more and remembers more, and accumulates literary language and popular vocabulary, it will be just right.

(3) Publish novel concluding remarks to make the audience recall and daydream about the content of the speech, and use less or even unnecessary boring and wordy pleasantries.

2. Introduce the language skills of your work.

At meetings such as salary adjustment, promotion, joining the party and joining the league. It is often necessary to introduce self-work to let people know more about their achievements and shortcomings in their work and let others make a fair evaluation of themselves. However, it is not easy to introduce the work situation. If you are slightly improper, you will be labeled as "arrogant" or suspected of "boasting". Therefore, on the basis of introducing the work situation realistically, we must also pay attention to the use of language skills.

① Control tone and intonation. Tone refers to the tone of speech, and intonation refers to the tone of speech, mainly referring to the configuration of sounds in sentences. When you introduce yourself, you'd better use more declarative tone. For example, "I graduated from XX University, graduated from XX University, graduated from XX University, and graduated from" Wait a minute. At this time, exclamatory sentences or imperative sentences are generally not used. But if you introduce me like this: "My article won the Excellence Award in XX, even I can't believe it!" "At this point, please check the XXX materials. "Give a person a sense of arrogance. In terms of intonation, the introducer had better use less high-pitched and passionate intonation. Even if he holds a "summary" in his hand, he should not be cadenced and expressive like reading a model essay in class. The tone of the introducer should be relaxed and peaceful, giving people a feeling of natural humility.

② The information provided should be appropriate. What should be said, what should not be said. Introducers should introduce as required. For example, teachers can talk about political thoughts, teaching workload, work attitude, teaching effect, scientific research results and so on. Each item should be introduced comprehensively and cannot be ignored. If someone repeatedly emphasizes the importance of scientific research when introducing his own scientific research achievements, he said: "As a college teacher, scientific research is essential, and I think this professional title evaluation should occupy an important position. How a person's scientific research results are crucial. " These words are superfluous to an ordinary introducer, because the proportion of scientific research achievements in the evaluation of professional titles is considered by superiors and relevant departments, which is a policy issue. Introducers are out of control. Saying these words can only make people feel that you have another purpose, which is undoubtedly a blow to people with poor scientific research results, which is unpleasant and easy to lose the masses.

③ Grasp the time. Introducing one's own works is often limited by time. Even if there is no objective time requirement, the introducer should have a sense of time. Don't let others think that you are taking the opportunity to express yourself and cause resentment. [China Inspirational Network] If you want to finish what you want to say to others in a limited time, you must first carefully consider what you want to say, and repeatedly scrutinize the language logic and even the words, so as to be clear, focused, concise and clear, and prevent the delay.

4 Necessary modesty, modesty is a virtue, especially when introducing self-work. For example, before and after the introduction, it is necessary to be modest, such as: "I have finished the introduction, which may be one-sided, please forgive the criticism." Of course, don't be too modest, just two or three sentences.

3. Joking skills

Telling jokes should be concise first. The focus of a joke is in the last sentence or two. You should make the listener still full of energy and interest when he hears the last two sentences, which is easy to cause repercussions. If you procrastinate and never get to the point, the listener will get bored and the reaction will naturally weaken. Therefore, the most important thing about jokes is vividness, and it is wonderful to be able to do it in one go. When telling jokes, don't say laugh first. This is the taboo of telling jokes. Although you don't have to keep a straight face, you can't laugh first, lest the listener relax. If the story characters in a joke are serious or stupid, their expressions show that they should conform to the modality of the characters. Technically, it's a way to play hard to get. First, the mood is pulled tightly, the voice and expression are very serious, and then turn to the "focus". When the audience's emotions pour down, they will laugh.

Secondly, when it comes to the ridiculous "focus", make a sharp turn and don't deliberately play the suspense. Jokes are different from riddles and detective stories. Jokes themselves are mostly simple, that is, to win by simplicity. If you insert some unnecessary words before reaching the "focus", it will weaken the power of prompting laughter. The narrative should be clear and moderate, otherwise it is difficult for the audience to have a clear impression.

In addition, there are two points to note. Some jokes are not elegant, so you should consider them first in front of strangers, and be especially cautious in front of the opposite sex. Don't embarrass others too quickly, some of them often have the shortcoming of ridicule. Before you speak, you should pay attention to whether there are such people in the audience so as not to hurt your feelings.

4. Basic methods to answer complex questions

A complex problem is one that contains some assumptions. The basic way to answer complex questions is:

(1) reveal the answer. That is, judge the answer with conjunctions and reveal its answer. That is, conjunctions are used to judge the answer and reveal its essence. For example, A: "Why are you still cursing in public?" B: "I have never scolded anyone behind my back, nor in public." Or answer: "I have never scolded anyone in private or in public."

2 Rhetorical answer. When the other party asks a "complicated question", it is necessary to ask the question immediately, so that the other party has no time to think and is in an awkward position. Clerk: "Comrade Mayor, when will you go abroad?" Mayor: "Who said I was going abroad?"

3 Answer irrelevant questions. Don't expose the questioner's assumptions, and don't ask questions. Let the questioner gracefully bypass this "bend". While watching TV, my sister spoiled her brother and was criticized by him. She was very unhappy. The uncle who just came back from other places sitting next to him asked his brother humorously, "Xiao Ming, are you still bullying your sister?" Brother: "Uncle, you speak Mandarin very well, but if you listen carefully, Huaiyin dialect still has some endings." Everyone laughed. Xiaoming didn't answer his uncle's complicated questions, but turned the topic to "Mandarin" so that everyone wouldn't be disappointed.

5. Key points of successful negotiation

(1) Avoid the inconsistency between words and deeds. Don't exaggerate or grin, which makes people feel artificial and false.

(2) the question and answer leads to the customer's needs, and then clarify his problems. Often a question can convey a person's ideas, guide the direction of negotiations, and let the other side know each other's position better.

(3) Listen carefully, analyze the customer's words, and then answer. [China Inspirational Network] Avoid interrupting the customer's conversation, or playing the devil's advocate with the customer to form an antagonistic situation.

④ Speak clearly and use fewer proper nouns, terms and cliches.

The content of the negotiation should be flexible, so don't stick to it. Depending on the situation, put forward innovative new plans in a timely manner.

Step 6 greet

Greeting refers to the social language to talk about the cold weather, warmth and trivial things in life when meeting. It is a social means, a way to communicate each other's feelings and create a harmonious atmosphere.

When strangers meet or introduce each other, a few polite greetings will help to understand each other. Greet with frankness, sincerity and enthusiasm, but don't be flattering, hypocritical or cold-hearted. Speak tactfully and don't say too much.

When acquaintances meet, it is easy to have the phenomenon that they hate each other when using words. Greetings are either plain or vulgar, and some are even unsightly. When people meet, they always scold a few words first, or say a few words "What the hell?" When some people meet in public toilets, it is inevitable that they will talk empty words, intentionally or unintentionally causing embarrassment and embarrassment for both sides.

Between acquaintances, we should pay attention to the differences of age, gender and familiarity. If you meet your elders, show humility; You can meet your peers at will, but you can't feel hypocritical; When you meet the younger generation, you can wait for the younger generation to speak first and answer as you say; When you meet familiar gay friends, you should take the initiative to speak first to show respect and enthusiasm; Greeting comrades should be solemn but not rigid, enthusiastic but not frivolous.

7. On-site control skills in entertainment.

It is to take the initiative, sincerity, enthusiasm, friendliness and skill to control each other first, and then control social scenes. For example, two people who don't know each other participated in an activity together. Because of the short time, both sides know each other, but they are not very familiar. When they met for the second time, they thought that the other party didn't remember themselves. A wanted to avoid B, but here, B nodded to A with a smile and asked enthusiastically, "Hello!" " B's behavior is to control the scene in entertainment and leave a good impression on the other party (A). Next time we meet, A will greet B in a friendly way.

8. Inductive skills in conversation

If the other person talks endlessly, but you don't need to know these contents, or you have something urgent at hand and can't receive guests for too long, you can choose the following ways to induce the other person:

① Summary and induction. You can say, "OK, let's get started. I will try my best to finish it in two weeks. " This conclusion is very effective, and guests will naturally feel that the purpose of their visit has been achieved and can leave. [China Inspirational Network] This is much better than the practice of constantly looking at the watch and repeatedly blowing off debts, which often makes guests feel disgusted.

② Insertion induction. "What you said is very interesting, and I want to find opportunities for consultation in the future; I also want to hear your opinions on the transformation of old enterprises ... ",with a bracket, politely and skillfully turn the topic to where you need it.

③ Exploratory induction. Express your opinions, discuss with each other and induce topics. For example, "I think the problem you mentioned also involves the mobilization of teachers' enthusiasm, the improvement of students' quality and the reform of the enrollment system." What do you think? " If the other party takes over you, the induction is successful.

9. Ways to eliminate tension in conversation

① Self-suggestion method. Before talking to strangers, you can make self-suggestion. You should take talking with strangers as a pleasure, a good way to exercise your eloquence, and a good way to get new information. You can say to yourself appropriately, "What's the panic? Say it sentence by sentence! " "What's the hurry? I have my own way to think! " "Say the first sentence bravely and calmly!"

2 self-confidence method. I believe you can talk. Only in this way can we turn fear into pleasure, change passive response into active attack, and achieve: say what you say, laugh when you should, ask when you should, and be natural and generous.

(3) The epigram elicitation method. It is often helpful to remember some proverbs that help you overcome your timidity and courage. For example, "Courage is a man's main character", "Dare to be the first in the world, be careful not to move" and so on.

④ Tension transfer method. Don't always think: I want to talk to strangers. How can I speak? I'm really anxious ... to transfer this tension to other things, such as looking at the interior furnishings, enjoying the famous paintings on the wall, hanging calendars and so on. When the tension is naturally relieved, the conversation can be carried out more easily.

10, questioning skills

When visiting friends and entertaining guests, asking questions is an important way to learn from each other and exchange information and feelings. It should be done as follows:

(1) Ask small questions and big questions. Conversations with friends and guests are impromptu and most of them are not prepared in advance. So small questions are appropriate. Big problems often give the other side "one army" and make the conversation deadlocked.

Ask the familiar, ask the unfamiliar. No one can be proficient in encyclopedias and understand all walks of life. He should ask questions about a certain field or topic that the other party is familiar with, and choose his strengths to talk, which will definitely make the other party Tan Xing furious.

(3) ask less questions and ask far. Ask the other person more about the recent situation and recent events, and less about those long-standing or incalculable questions, which will help the conversation go smoothly.