Reasoning is futile, and parents skillfully use the "* * * love link" to make their children obey.

As parents, we all hope that our children can be sensible and considerate of their parents. So we educate our children in various ways. We educate children to distinguish between right and wrong, judge right and wrong, and promote their healthy physical and mental growth. ...

Although these methods have indeed played an irreplaceable role in the long progress of educating children, in the final analysis, these methods are only children's passive growth, and their effects cannot be compared with children's active and voluntary progress. How to make children grow up to be good children in their parents' hearts?

Take the example around me as an example. My cousin has two little nephews at home. Although both of them are good children, my brother's understanding is based on what I call positive psychology. He will think from the perspective of his parents and have a high consciousness. The younger brother needs the supervision, preaching and punishment of his parents to maintain his intelligence.

Both children are fine, but my brother is sensible and active. Compared with my brother's passive psychology, which kind of progress is more efficient? The answer is obvious.

1, the truth you said, the child may not understand at all.

When children make mistakes, we all try to choose a milder way to educate them. Many parents, including me, the first choice is to reason with their children. We analyze the pros and cons, tell them the truth and let them know that they are wrong.

At this time, the problem came. Children think differently from adults. We don't understand the world in their eyes. In addition, the child is inexperienced and cannot consider the problem from the overall situation. Therefore, in this case, what you said is basically meaningless to the child.

2. Are you really reasonable?

Perhaps, our self-righteous reasoning is only accusation and denial in the eyes of children.

First of all, what kind of attitude do you use to reason with your children? Look angry and reason with the children in public. Will your children recognize what you say? Besides, are you talking about reason or your own reason? Some parents always instill their ideas into their children, which is actually unreasonable. In this case, it would be better for the child not to listen.

1, what is the link of "* * *"?

Simply put, the "* * * love" connection between parents and children is a good intimate parent-child relationship. When the direct relationship between children and parents is particularly good, the feelings between parents and children will be very loud, which is very important for the establishment of a harmonious family atmosphere.

2. Why can the establishment of "* * * love" link promote children to know the truth on their own initiative?

If parents have a good relationship with their children, it goes without saying that parents must be good to their children. Let's analyze the children's psychology.

Children's inner world is very simple, and their thoughts are also very simple. Since children like their parents very much, they will want their parents to be happier, but if they are not good, they will make their parents angry, so they must be sensible for their parents to be happy. ...

Just like you love someone, you can't wait to give him everything you have, especially something that can make him happy.

1, mutual respect, equality and mutual assistance.

Although parents are adults and children are still young, they are all independent individuals after all, so we must treat children equally, treat them equally with us from the heart and respect their opinions. In life, help each other with children, not unilaterally.

Although parents are adults and children are still young, they are all independent individuals after all, so we must treat children equally, treat them equally with us from the heart and respect their opinions. In life, help each other with children, not unilaterally.

2. Pay attention to your child's words.

Many times, we always treat children's words as jokes and laugh them off; But in fact, many times, what children say is their own inner words. If parents always ignore their children, how can children have deeper and deeper feelings with you? Only by paying attention to your child and making him feel concerned and trusted can you get closer to him.

3. The importance of harmonious family atmosphere.

It is essential to build a good relationship with children and create a family atmosphere. Only a warm and positive family atmosphere can enable parents and children to establish a good parent-child relationship; It is impossible to establish the connection of "* * * love" in a negative and horrible family atmosphere.

Instead of letting children grow up passively under your various supervision and punishment measures, it is better to choose a simpler and more efficient method. As long as you correctly establish a "* * *" relationship with your children, it is not impossible for them to understand the truth on their own initiative. Still worried that reasoning is useless to children? Hurry up and learn some tricks!

Parenting enlightenment is what we should do most.