I'm hypocritical to the core. Very painful.

To get rid of pretense, you need to learn to jump out of your own small world and learn to embrace the wider world, and the pretense will disappear. The specific methods are as follows:

The first point is to see your hypocrisy and have the idea to change it. Hypocritical people often take their own emotions too seriously and are often obsessed with their own little emotions and cannot extricate themselves. To get rid of hypocrisy, you must first see your own hypocrisy and consciously control your emotions.

Second point, do more and talk less. Hypocrisy is essentially about having too little experience. Because you have too little experience, you take your own small emotions very seriously. People who have experienced big storms will basically not be hypocritical. But experiences often happen naturally, and we can’t go through big things just to stop being pretentious. But you can keep yourself busier and find more things to do. People who are too busy have no time to be pretentious. At the same time, when emotions occur, let them happen naturally and complain less to others. The more emotions you experience, the less you will care too much.

The third point is to embrace the wider world and appreciate the diversity of the world. Travel more, communicate more with different people, and see more scenery. When you feel the vastness and wonder of the world and the richness of life. When you are open-minded, you will naturally stop being pretentious.

Finally, I would like to say that most people are more or less hypocritical when they are young. This is a necessary stage in life. As you grow up and enter the society, you will become more rational and mature, and you will naturally stop being pretentious.

Time will make people grow, don’t be anxious.

1. First, what is "hypocrisy"? At this time, in Beijing dialect, it is called "pretending" on the Internet, and in Northeastern people, it is called "truly able to pretend", which means making lies to cover up the true feelings and not telling the truth.

2. Why do people become "hypocritical"? Because I am not confident and cannot face my true self, I put on a mask when getting along with others. There is definitely an inferiority complex here.

3. How to get rid of the problem of "hypocrisy"?

1. Understand yourself correctly, give yourself an appropriate position, reshape your inner image, and make yourself confident, free and easy.

2. Methods to reshape the inner image: Before going to bed or just getting up or in other relatively relaxed states (can also be artificially trained, such as meditation, yoga visualization, hypnotic daydreaming), imagine I have become what I want, even if I am timid, I can speak in public, imagine the audience smiling, nodding, applauding, presenting flowers or even carnival. I have become the soul of speech or singing, attracting much attention, and being loved by everyone, especially Favored by the opposite sex.

3. Try to tell the truth from your heart in life. It may cause trouble and misunderstandings at first, but if you stick with it, you will find that you suddenly become more energetic. Learn that state of unthinking intuition, turn yourself into a cannon, and let your truth take the lead and let lies give way.

Have you ever noticed that in life, people who are outspoken may be laughed at by some people, or even suffer a loss under special circumstances, but in the end, what they say can move people and gain their trust, and they often become In the end it is the winner who laughs last.

This is actually a kind of spiritual cultivation.