It is unlucky to share a bed at home for several years (why can't couples sleep together when they go back to their parents' house)

Being a mother is a bit crooked, and parenting is very positive! (Text | Auntie)

The young couple went back to their parents' home after getting married, but they made a joke at night. Obviously married, but I have to sleep in two rooms. What is the reason? What's the story behind it?

The daughter and son-in-law returned to their parents' home after marriage, but they were asked to sleep in separate beds. Xiao Liu and her husband just got married. One day, they discussed going back to their parents' house for a few days. Xiao Liu is the only daughter in the family and misses her parents very much after marriage. After returning to my parents' home, as soon as they slept at night, Xiao Liu's mother knocked at the door and shouted, "You can't sleep together."

Xiao Liu and her husband were cheated immediately, and they don't know what happened. Why can't we be together after getting a marriage certificate and having a banquet? Although I was puzzled, I still rested in two rooms as my mother asked. At night, if they want to talk, they can only contact with their mobile phones.

The next day, my mother said: these are all customs. Couples can't sleep together when they go back to their parents' house. Xiao Liu and her husband are also particularly puzzled. What's going on here? Mother said: A daughter's marriage is like spilled water, so she is an outsider and can't go back to her parents' house to share a room with her husband.

In fact, it is not only Xiao Liu's mother who has such cognition. There are many explanations for why a married daughter can't share a room with her husband at home.

Some people think that when a married daughter goes back to her parents' home and sleeps with her husband, she will share her parents' blessings, which is not good for her parents' home, so she can't sleep with her husband. There is also an old saying that when a daughter comes back from marriage with her son-in-law, she may steal the property at home, so she and her son-in-law are separated and cannot discuss stealing things at home. In this way, the custom that a daughter cannot share the same room with her husband at home after marriage has been passed down.

How much do you know about the custom of your daughter going back to her mother's house? After the daughter gets married, there are many customs besides not sharing the same room with her parents. After getting married, my aunt's colleague Xiao Wang divorced a few years later because of disagreement with her husband, and Xiao Wang lived alone with her children. The Chinese New Year is coming. Orphans and widows are very sad for the Chinese New Year, so they want to take their children back to their parents' home.

But never expected, the mother refused her request and did not allow her to take her children to her parents' home for the holidays. Mother said: As the old saying goes, the married girl is already an outsider. How can she just come back? In addition, if a married girl goes back to her family for the New Year, it is unlucky for her family, so she must not go back to her family for the New Year. In the first year after the divorce, Xiao Wang could only spend the Spring Festival with his children alone.

Coincidentally, a few days ago, my aunt heard a cry in the corridor and opened the door to look down the cry. It turned out to be neighbor Xiao Liu, shaving the child's head. The crooked mother asked curiously: Why not give the child a haircut at home, but in the corridor?

Xiao Wang said, don't you know: can't a nephew get a haircut at his uncle's house? I see! Crooked mother was surprised, too. After the daughter got married, there were many customs and habits! With the development of the times, although some customs have faded, some are still circulating.

Parents actively guide their children to understand customs and customs.

With the rapid development of society, established customs and habits should still be observed, such as setting off firecrackers in China New Year, rowing dragon boats on the Dragon Boat Festival and eating jiaozi on the winter solstice. These customs should be passed down from generation to generation by parents. Parents tell their children different customs at different time points, which has different historical and practical significance. It is not only the inheritance of history, but also a beautiful expectation for the future.

Positive guidance

In the face of various customs, parents should actively guide their children and pass on positive energy. Parents can tell their children some heredity. Historical traditions are passed down from generation to generation, which has a strong guiding significance for children, not only to understand the past, but also to look forward to the future. The Chinese nation has many excellent traditional cultures, which are extensive and profound. Giving children more explanations will enhance their sense of history, inheritance and cultural self-confidence.

Aunt's conclusion:

When daughters get married and return to their parents' home, some changes will take place. Some of these changes are customs, some are local pressures, and some are various habits. Parents can explain some local customs and habits to their children in peacetime, so that children will have basic cognition in their minds. Children living in society should also abide by some established things to lay the foundation for a more harmonious life in the future. Parents should also pay attention to distinguish between superstitions and customs and actively guide their children.

Today's topic: Do you know what to pay attention to when you go back to your mother's house?