What is the biggest problem in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

Remember Jia Ling and Zhang's sketch "The icing on the cake" in the Spring Festival Evening?

Daughter-in-law Zhang shot a short video of "kind daughter-in-law, wonderful mother-in-law" with exaggerated methods, but it became popular overnight on the Internet. This short video almost triggered a "mother-in-law war." Fortunately, it only contributed to the love of her mother-in-law Jia Ling, and finally everyone was happy. "Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship" is undoubtedly one of the important topics concerned by short video users, and the popularity has been high. Behind the high degree of attention, it actually reflects the contradiction and complexity of the contemporary relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

As the saying goes, "two tigers are not allowed in one mountain", and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often "two tigers" who are difficult to get along with each other under the same roof.

Most daughter-in-law are dissatisfied with her mother-in-law's "hegemony" over the small family. If the mother-in-law can bear it, she should understand that her son has formed her own small family, so the hostess of this small family is not her, but her daughter-in-law.

When the mother-in-law thinks she is the "mistress" of a small family, she confuses her identity in the big family composed of husband and children, which is easy to undermine the principle that the daughter-in-law and son are the masters of the small family.

Unfortunately, most mother-in-law don't understand this truth. In the process of getting along with my mother-in-law, there will naturally be many contradictions.