My wife has a bad relationship with her family, what should I do?

Find a time for everyone to sit down and have a good communication, ask the wife to be better, and ask the mother to be more generous, and the problem will be easily solved.

1. Reject "foolish filial piety". Many men seem to say: "No matter how wrong she is, she is still my mother, so just bear with it." They like to use such words to express their "respect and filial piety" to their parents, or they are afraid that others will say that they are "unfilial".

As long as there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the wife will be scolded without any indifference. Even if the wife has suffered great grievances, she must swallow her anger, compromise, and grieve alone. Because there is no way to vent your emotions for a long time and no emotional comfort, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will worsen, and they will even become more and more disappointed with the marriage.

2. Reject "dependence". If they still live with their parents after getting married, it is actually the same as not getting married, because they are used to living a life of stretching their hands and opening their mouths in front of their mother. After getting married, as long as their mother is around, they will still do this. In the long run, you will ignore your wife's ideas and don't know how to take on household chores and deal with problems together with your wife. And asking the wife to do things according to her parents' ideas is very detrimental to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

3. Refuse to "pass the message". Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have their own lifestyles and ideas. Naturally, there will be different opinions when the two generations get along. People say that "a man who knows how to do something hides it from both ends, and a man who doesn't know how to do it does so from both ends." A man who hides things from both ends will not make the dissatisfaction between two women public, but will say good things to each other for them, increase their mutual goodwill, and make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law better. rapport.

The men who pass each other often communicate the conflicts between the two women to each other. What is originally a small matter will gradually deteriorate in the process, making the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more and more tense.

4. Refuse to "quarrel". Husbands and wives will definitely quarrel and have conflicts, but try not to quarrel in front of their parents. It will not only hurt the relationship between the husband and wife, but also deepen the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some parents will think that the daughter-in-law is because of They quarrel with their sons for their own reasons, and some parents will work with their sons to deal with their wives because they want to protect their shortcomings. When they get involved, the conflict between husband and wife turns into a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As the saying goes: "A husband and wife quarrel at the end of the bed and end up fighting at the end of the bed." Once a conflict arises between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is difficult to resolve it.

In fact, in family relationships, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a special intermediary relationship. There is no blood relationship, only love for the same man. The mother-in-law knows the boundaries, the husband knows the priorities, and the daughter-in-law knows how to advance and retreat. If you maintain good relationships at home, your future life will be extremely happy.