Jia Nailiang talks about divorce for the first time, thanking her for letting me live. How important is it to find the right person?

Jia Nailiang was very calm when he mentioned divorce during the interview. After experiencing ups and downs, he has a new understanding of life. He said, "Nothing can truly be let go." Although the divorce was a huge blow to Jia Nailiang, it also made Jia Nailiang completely sober up from the past.

I don’t want to say more about Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu. Let’s focus on how important it is to find the right person in marriage.

In marriage, every couple has their own mode of getting along.

Only by finding this mode can they not be frustrated by various pressures in their long life. Let the relationship break down in order to make each other feel comfortable in the marriage.

However, many people will not easily find a suitable relationship model. There is no need to be afraid. We all have to practice this subject in marriage. If we can be happy in the end, the process is more difficult, which can be regarded as a blessing in disguise.

The quality of a man's character can be clearly seen in his attitude towards his partner. Excellent and capable men will care for and respect their wives.

Let me give you an example. One of my male colleagues’ wife was eight months pregnant. The husband found it troublesome and wanted a divorce.

As for the attitude towards your wife, there is this highly praised answer: In fact, the pain you experienced during pregnancy, the pain you suffered during childbirth, your dedication to this family, and your tolerance for his dissatisfaction... ... There is never a man who is "completely unclear" about these things that involve your emotions.

He understands more or less in his heart: you won’t be happy if you come home late, you will be jealous if you are intimate with the opposite sex, and you will be sad if you don’t communicate...

You have to say that he “doesn’t understand” "The real reason is actually: he just doesn't care about you that much. ?People who really care about you will never let you down in a relationship. There is no denying that in reality, after making a fortune from their wives, many men abandon their wives as useless and look for new loves.

In ancient times, Wang Baochuan regretted teaching his husband to find a prince, and stayed in the cold kiln for 18 years before being left out in the cold. abandon. Today, Ho Hung-shen relies on his original wife to become a gambling queen, and he has a group of beautiful concubines that make his wife weep on her bedside. There are so many examples of men being cold and cruel and women being miserable all around us.

In the final analysis, all betrayals and escapes are just dullness that washes away passion, and life that tempers patience. Don't forget that the most fundamental point of marriage is to support each other and never leave.

Tsai Kangyong said: Two people get together for love, and then the more emotions are stored in your emotional account book, the longer your relationship will last and the more happiness you will feel.

What is freshness? It's your decision to do everything with the same person instead of different things with different people.

What is a good marriage? It's just that: you were mentally prepared that he might get off at any time, but he never left. When a husband and wife are together, the joys and sorrows of love are shared. When temptation comes, there are not many who fly away.

But I want to tell you a truth: in marriage, if there is no sincere loyalty, a tacit understanding of never leaving, and unforgettable affection, then you will never have happiness. In fact, the most important thing in marriage is to find the right person

If the person is wrong and the models of both parties do not match, the problem lies deep. The deep-seated problems may be hidden at first, but once they are exposed and worsen, there will be almost no solution. The so-called deep level refers to serious misalignments such as concepts, personality, patterns of emotional needs and emotional expression, patterns of doing things, ways of communicating and solving problems, etc.

After falling into this situation, basically 99% of people will not be able to solve the problem through so-called self-cultivation, improving communication skills, etc.

Especially through unilateral efforts In other words, it is nothing more than tossing, torture, and a question of when the speed and slowness will hit the bottom.

Because: first, they are all adults and have basically become established;

Second, the vast majority of people are ordinary people, and they are not able to manage against the trend and reshape relationships in terms of communication and emotional management. Leadership genius;

Third, the bad pattern of getting along has been strengthened. Without strong external help or a wake-up call, couples stuck in the quagmire most often repeat and cycle old bad patterns. It may be easy to trigger the recurrence of old patterns at any time and everywhere.

Those who can automatically jump out of the old model and switch to a good new model are those who are extremely talented and highly malleable, and such people will never fall into this predicament that has been constantly criticized. Strengthened situation. It's very simple. For example, when it comes to communication, two people have different communication methods, different emotional expressions and different emotional needs.

The things they value and the three views cannot be reconciled. You make two people who have tortured each other Without strong foreign aid to help them, they were suddenly able to open their hearts, suddenly learned to listen and empathize, were suddenly enlightened, and became Buddhas immediately.

Isn’t this just a dream? Basically, there is no communication but mutual accusations. Every so-called communication only deepens the resentment, and this pattern has happened to them many, many times!