Tolerance is not the only way out in family relations. I want to be a ruthless person for the rest of my life.

Two days ago, my father-in-law died suddenly. Three days before he left, he was beaten by his mother-in-law. Facing his miserable life of being bullied by her mother-in-law, I made a deep reflection and made a decision. I will learn to be a heartless person for the rest of my life.

In family relations, tolerance is a virtue. For the sake of family harmony, most people are kind and gentle, and they will choose tolerance in the face of the strong party.

but the fact is that most people blindly tolerate, in addition to hurting themselves, will only grow the evil in the heart of the powerful party.

that's what happens between my parents-in-law. My husband said that when my father-in-law was young, he also fought and fought with his mother-in-law, and finally compromised, so he could only choose to give in, and it was a bottomless tolerance.

The final result of letting her keep squeezing and making noise endlessly is that when she can't create value for her, she not only cursed, but also began to beat people and violently abused her until three days before her death.

My aunt (mother-in-law's elder sister) once gratefully said to my husband, "Thank you for raising your tender mother and being so filial. The tender mother has been mixed up since she was a child. As long as her grandparents and brothers and sisters don't follow her, they roll around the house and make it dark. We can't help it. It's not easy to treat you and your daughter-in-law like that when you were young, but now you are willing to raise her when you are old. You and your daughter-in-law have worked hard! "

in a dream of red mansions, Lin Daiyu said to xiren, "whenever it comes to family matters, either the east wind overwhelms Xifeng or the west wind overwhelms the east wind."

Later, the great leader Chairman Mao extended to two forces, namely, positive (just revolutionary force) and evil (all reactionaries), which were called east wind and west wind.

There has always been a difference between east wind and west wind in small families, units, countries and the world.

they exist in a mode that the east wind overwhelms the west phoenix or the west wind overwhelms the east wind.

this is true between husband and wife, as well as between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The kind and gentle party voluntarily chooses to be tolerant, while others are severely oppressed and passively choose to give in.

No matter what kind of tolerance, the one who gets hurt in the end becomes the oppressed weak party. The good result is that if the strong party knows how to be grateful, everyone will be happy and the family will be harmonious and happy.

The most terrible thing is that the powerful side is not satisfied, but tolerates the other side as kind and deceivable, as a fool, and oppresses it endlessly and endlessly.

In the face of this inhuman and bottomless evil force, it's hard to be patient and only hurt yourself.

Ma Shan is being ridden, while others are being bullied. dongfeng evil and Xifeng are thin. At this time, it is useless to cry and tolerate, and continue to hurt yourself internally.

Chairman Mao once said that all the invaders in the world are paper tigers, and it is true that they can be pierced with a poke.

There is a kind of person who is a bitch. The nicer you are to her, the more she thinks you are easy to bully, treating your kindness as a fool and your tolerance as weakness. Bullying and squeezing you is their pleasure. They always treat you kindly with a winner's attitude.

When you are really brave and hard-driving, and follow their example, she will be afraid and timid, have scruples about you, and her mind will be restrained if she wants to bully you. If you are domineering enough, I'm afraid they will come in a low voice, look up and please you.

My cousin's eldest aunt is such a person. Once, her mother-in-law was a vicious bitch, and she was even worse than that evil mother-in-law, so that the evil mother-in-law didn't talk and stared, so she had to live alone. She was afraid to see her daughter-in-law before she died.

when her only son grew up, she became a mother-in-law. As a result, her daughter-in-law was born to be difficult to serve and was critical of her in every way. She ran to the city to help take care of her granddaughter, and was rejected, abused and rectified by her daughter-in-law. She had no temper and honestly looked after her granddaughter according to her daughter-in-law's request.

That's true. The wicked have their own grinding tools, and they are getting worse and worse from generation to generation, and they are kept obedient.

A kind and honest person can only swallow his words when facing such an evil mother-in-law, and he is too embarrassed to refute them. He is afraid of making trouble, making a fool of himself, making people laugh, tolerating the past, and making everything happy at home.

But this can only be at the expense of hurting yourself. Now that I think about it, fame is useless, and being afraid of jokes is just my own wishful thinking. They're not afraid. It's noisy every day, and chickens fly and dogs jump at home. Outsiders don't know the truth. As long as they see that you're from that house, aren't you still laughed at?

The result of blindly forbearing is only to hurt yourself, so it is of no use at home. It's better to complain directly, fight bravely and have an earth-shaking revolution.

The words in Mu Yan's song "Your Kindness Must Be Sharp" woke me up: "The kinder a person is, the higher the bottom line should be for others. In this way, we can avoid indulging others and protect ourselves. "

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, forbearance is not the only way out. Choosing kindness should have some edge, and even forbearance should have a bottom line. In the face of fierce east wind or west wind, let him have a taste of frost sword.

I will learn to be a cruel person for the rest of my life, and I will not tolerate my evil mother-in-law again and again; In the face of my husband's violent temper, I will not be completely reconciled; In all the relations between family of origin and his married family, he insisted on his own principles and did not blindly tolerate and compromise.

Mu Yange said, "I've been trying to fulfill others, but I forgot that I should fulfill myself the most." Please be a cruel person for the rest of your life.