What's the experience of dating a straight man?

Recently, a friend complained to me that his boyfriend was too "straight"

"During the video, I told him that I seem to have gained weight recently."

"according to the normal routine, shouldn't he say' in this case, I like you better' or' I'm not fat, but I'm still as thin as before'?"

"But he actually! I really looked at my face in the screen carefully, and then replied,' I really put on a little weight'! ! "

"It seems that he didn't understand what I said. One sentence can piss people off! I still look innocent and don't know where I am wrong! "

Through the screen, I can feel full of resentment and a little surprise-

God, what was he thinking?

Indeed, when we girls chat, we tend to be euphemistic and hide the second half of a sentence secretly for the other party to guess and pick up.

In fact, there is no other meaning, just hope that he is careful and considerate, can know his own thoughts and care about himself.

For example, "What are you doing" means "I miss you";

"I can't unscrew the bottle cap" means "Will you help me unscrew it later?" ;

"Have I gained weight?" Tell me that you will like me no matter what.

Do you really think she can't unscrew the bottle cap?

Not only can she unscrew the bottle cap by herself, but when she is alone, she is not afraid of cooking, fighting cockroaches, repairing water pipes and light bulbs.

She just left all her tenderness to you.

2.

Ah, but wait, read on until you are ready to say "straight man".

I didn't understand it myself before. Is it so difficult for them to understand a sentence? And I've studied it many times and I still can't learn it.

Or, they should not be intentional?

But recently, I was lucky enough to learn my own story shared by several boys.

Their love experiences are quite different, but they are similar in some places.

They will be influenced by every move of girls-

She didn't take the initiative to find me;

She didn't say good night to me today;

I seem to have accidentally made her angry again today;

Even in order to say a word to her, I will ponder for a long time and ask me how to express it better.

So you see, boys who have always been considered to be careless will shrink back from their shells in their feelings and become equally sensitive and at a loss about their feelings.

In our feelings, we are all the same, and we are all equally concerned and cautious.

Maybe we are all "novices" at the beginning, and there are still many places to learn from and work with each other.

Most of us girls often have a very "straight" boyfriend.

He may often not understand the subtext behind a sentence;

He may not understand secular romance and routines;

He may also often feel guilty and at a loss because he makes you angry;

But whether he cares or not, I believe you can feel it.

He will clumsily tell some jokes when you are in a bad mood. Doby, you are happy;

He will silently remember your casual preferences and want to give you a surprise next time;

Every time you accidentally make you angry, he will take out his notebook and record the reasons silently;

Maybe there are many, many ...

It's just that he's used to being nice to you silently and doesn't want you to see it.

He may not be worldly, but he has enough feelings for you.

3.

I like a story written by Zhang Haochen in Listening to You very much.

"My sister likes Doctor Forever very much, and Doctor Forever loves her very much.

But my sister always tells the truth and lets the doctor guess. She obviously cares about many things, but she pretends not to care.

God knows why adults still like to play guessing games at this age. If two people like each other, they have already made themselves dirty. Why not just tell the answer? "

Indeed, two people like each other, which is a very lucky thing in itself.

Problems that can be solved through good communication must not be a stumbling block in feelings for a long time ~

Good feelings have always been a two-way trip for both sides to work together.

Therefore, girls may wish to express their needs directly next time, and I believe he will be happy to accept it ~

At the same time, lower your expectations appropriately.

When wondering why the other party can't reach their own needs, you can also ask yourself-

Have I made myself clear?

Boys should also understand the thinking differences between boys and girls. Put yourself in the other's shoes and listen to the feelings and demands of girls.

I often think about this problem. When the other person said this to me, what did she really want to tell me?

Routines can win people's hearts for a while, but only deep affection can stand the test of time.

(This article was first published in Qingxiao's heartbeat record and has been authorized. )