My father passed away while sleeping. Is it pitiful?

Dying while sleeping is the happiest way for an old man to die, even better than euthanasia. However, it is just that he has no prior will for his children and family, and feels sorry for not seeing him for the last time. In fact, for the old man, it is better to say goodbye without saying goodbye. It’s much better to watch the pain go away!

There are many cases of old people dying in their sleep. People often don’t expect it when they are asleep. There are usually no signs, so they don’t expect it anymore. It is not that the children are unfilial. According to the old man, dying in his sleep is Good deeds accumulate blessings!

Just fall asleep and go without pain. This is the blessing that the old man has cultivated in his previous life! People are bound to die when they get old. It would be pitiful for the children to watch the old man being seriously ill beside him, unable to live and unable to die, and unable to die!

It shows that the old man is usually in good health, able to walk and eat. It is a blessing that the elders did not let the old man die while sleeping. It is not pitiful for his children to die naturally without bothering them!

How can it be pitiful?

My father, on May 4, 2015, ate lo mein for lunch and drank two taels of white wine. He was full and drunk, and when he took a nap, he left without making a sound. Just like my father during his lifetime, he did not cause trouble to anyone, nor did he let his children miss half a day of work, nor did he spend a penny on medical expenses for the country. It can be said that the breeze on both sleeves is leisurely and leisurely, and the journey to the west is silent and silent. Completed his 85 years of rough life!

There are six of us brothers and sisters. At that time, only my sister and I were in front of my father. The other four were not around. Dad's sudden death has plunged our brothers and sisters into an abyss of pain and crying from which we cannot extricate ourselves! When I saw this topic, my hands were shaking as I typed, and my eyes were flooded with tears. Especially the sisters who were right in front of their father when he left, always blaming themselves, why couldn't they pull their father back on his way out? We feel guilty for not spending more time with the elderly and our parents. Things in the world are unpredictable, and life and death don’t seem to give us warnings.

Eight years have passed! Our brothers and sisters also came out of the trap of being trapped in the sky. I feel that my father’s departure is a blessing brought by my father’s cultivation! How can dad be pitiful?

The old man had many children. When he died while sleeping, no one was around. This was a pity, but it also depends on the cause; it was because he had a bad relationship with his children and had no children. Living with him, or because the children are busy at work and have no time to go home to visit and accompany the elderly, etc. But in any case, these are not caused by objective factors, nor are they natural excuses. As a child, no matter how busy you are, you have to take your parents into consideration, let alone an older person who lives alone. No one even knows that he died while sleeping. This is very cruel. If no neighbor or other kind-hearted people find out, the consequences will be disastrous. , it will also make all children regret it for life, and even affect the next generation. This not only involves a person's moral issues, but also an issue of how to provide for the elderly that deserves our attention and consideration.

Thank you! Wish you a happy life!

I don’t feel anything pitiful. Instead, I feel quite happy. It’s so good to die without suffering anything while sleeping. It’s much better than those who are sick and die in pain. There are many children who may not be around when they die for various reasons. It doesn’t matter to me, as long as the old people know how to respect the old people when they are alive. That's it, there's no regrets or pity.

When my mother was still alive, I went to a roadside stall for fortune telling at some point. The fortune teller said that although my mother had 5 children, none of them would be around when she passed away.

This made my mother very upset. From then on, no matter whether she was ill or ill, she called all five of us to be there, and none of us could leave her. Moreover, when one of our children is away from her on a business trip, she gets flustered, thinking she is going to die, and urges us to come back quickly.

For this reason, our five children are very distressed and embarrassed. We have to hide it from my mother wherever we go. After I came back, my mother knew about it and would scold us again.

Once, my eldest brother got angry and told her that the fortune teller said that none of our five children would be around when you died. This was God’s arrangement and there was nothing we could do about it.

However, when my mother was seriously ill, we were all by her side. We held her hands and watched her slowly leave... the kind of helpless look at a loved one. It is so painful to leave, and it is heartbreaking to see my 86-year-old mother leave so helplessly.

My dad is different. The night my dad turned 70, he gathered five of us brothers and sisters together for a dinner. That night, he passed away peacefully in his dream, and none of our five children were with him.

My dad is a doctor. He suffered from coronary heart disease. He chose to leave quietly alone without leaving any pain to us.

To be honest, my father's death was not as heart-wrenching as my mother's death. We all understand Dad, he is a doctor. He knew that he should leave, and treatment was of no use. In order to make us less painful, he chose to leave quietly alone...

After experiencing the life and death of my loved ones, I thought, in fact, if the old man dies while sleeping, it is not a good thing for the children. Why do we have to have our children all around us and watch our loved ones slowly leave? Isn’t that kind of separation between life and death painful?

When I die from now on, I will choose to be like my dad. My dad was born like this. He loved us and would not leave us any pain. He chose to leave quietly.

Three souls return to their hometown, and seven souls return to their hometown.

People, sooner or later, there will be such a day. I hope we can all let go of everything and leave quietly, instead of letting our loved ones cry to death next to us and watch our loved ones leave in pain. There is nothing pitiful about the death of a loved one when no one is around. If you don't see it, you won't be pitiful, and there won't be any pain left.

I don’t think it’s a pity for an old man to die in his sleep. I think this way, the old man does not suffer and the children are not burdened. This is the best way to leave. It is a blessing that comes from eight lifetimes of good deeds and virtues. What I most yearn for is that I can die like this in the future.

Some people may say that the only regret is that they did not get to see their children for the last time. Therefore, we living people should cherish the opportunity to meet our children, be happy, affectionate and harmonious when we are with them. Your own children are the closest people to you, and there are no estrangements or grudges.

Others said that some things were not explained well. Therefore, as an elderly person, you don’t have to give your money and house to your children. However, you must write down the password for your bank card, passbook, and property certificate on a piece of paper. Or write down how to allocate the real estate for future deposits. It is not good to prevent your children from being able to withdraw your savings in the future, losing the money in vain, or unfairly dividing it, causing conflicts between your children.

Therefore, the elderly should write down some things clearly in advance to be prepared!

Such a result is a blessing to the whole family. The old man passed away peacefully and had no illness during his lifetime. Such an old man is a blessing earned by accumulating virtue and doing good deeds throughout his life. Such an old man should not feel pitiful. This is not true in rural areas. It belongs to (joy) and mourning, the real end of life.

Despite this, the children of the elderly have some regrets deep in their hearts.

The children will think that the old people have worked hard for them all their lives, and when they leave, no one of them is with them and they stay by the old people's side, as if they have not fulfilled their filial piety.

In fact, this is not the case. As long as the old man’s children are filial during his lifetime, the old man is already content.

In order to make up for the regrets of the children, the funeral is more or less grand. Use a better coffin, erect a stone tablet, and entertain guests with higher standards. ,,,,,,,

Answer: An old man died in his sleep with many children and no one around him. Do you feel pitiful? ? My answer is that he is not pitiful. This old man has accumulated many lifetimes of blessings to achieve a good death.

It's a good saying. I don't seek a good life, but I seek a good death. I think it is the best to have such an ending. It will not cause trouble to the children. Such a death will remind the children from time to time that the children of this old man are also blessed. people, at least they are not harmed. After such an old man dies, people will say that this old man has accumulated virtues and done good deeds, and he has cultivated. Such a good ending, everyone has a life and a death, and it doesn’t matter whether there are people around him? As long as there is someone to deal with the matters after death, it will be fine. When a person is dying, it will be very painful if the children are around. It is better not to be around. The old man passes away, which is also the best kind of relief. Everyone wants such a person Good relief? But how many people can be as lucky as this old man? How I wish I had an ending like this when I am a hundred years old. The traditional Chinese concept is to raise children to provide for old age, but when parents die and their children are not around, others will laugh at their children for being unfilial. But how many children can fulfill their filial piety and accompany their parents? Today's children are very busy with work and have no free time to accompany lonely old people. They have to live strong without anyone to accompany them. Therefore, no one will know about the disease, and they can only die alone, which is also the best relief. In the future society, this situation will often occur, because our society is now an elderly society. We have entered the age of old age. There are more than 200 million elderly people. Young people have to live, and the elderly also need their children to take care of them. Loyalty and filial piety We can't have it both ways. The children can only care about their own small families and cannot take care of the old people's old age. I hope our country will introduce preferential policies for the elderly as soon as possible and build more elderly apartments for our elderly people. Create a high-quality elderly care institution so that these elderly people can be provided for, have fun, and have a place to live, so that every elderly person has a good home. [Pray][Pray][Pray]