Parents, please remember: don't help your child do three things, and don't let your child make three friends.

It is parents' instinct to love children. It needs neither teaching nor thinking. This is a natural force.

However, it is this deep love that makes parents firmly grasp their children's "growth, study and life", fearing that if they let go of any link, their children will fall behind. Education has a long way to go. There are some truths that teachers won't tell their children, but as parents, you must teach them!

One, don't help three times

1. Will you help me or not?

The relationship between children is simple. They have the friendship of "becoming sworn brothers", and they pay special attention to sharing weal and woe. It's no use lying in trouble.

A friend took his son back to his hometown to visit relatives happily, but he was unhappy when he came home. It turns out that Lele made some friends and had a good time with those children every day. One night, however, several children set off fireworks together and set fire to the grass pile stored far away from the village name. That's firewood for others to cook, and friends are angry with Lele.

After killing the child, Lele asked who set off the fireworks. He didn't say a word, but kept saying, "If you say it, you won't be a friend", which made his friend very angry. Protecting a friend from punishment is really a true friend, but when you make a mistake, someone must bear it. It's really good for a person to know his mistakes and correct them, so you can't indulge his mistakes.

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Are you busy copying your homework?

"Ah, quickly copy an assignment for me, and the teacher will collect it." How to do this problem? Give me a look. I'm going to cram school today. Can you help me write this paper? Are these words similar to homework familiar to you?

Now, students are under great pressure to study. In addition to doing homework at school, they also have homework assigned by teachers in various subjects when they go home. Sometimes children can't finish it in time because of too much homework. In order to avoid the teacher's punishment, children will choose to copy their homework.

Homework is the best means to consolidate the knowledge learned every day, and it is also the best choice for academic leak detection. If you choose to copy your homework, you may miss important knowledge points, which is not helpful for your study.

Teacher, preach and teach to solve doubts. Children can ask the teacher if they can't write their homework well. After all, this is their job. If you can't finish the task, you can also explain the details to the teacher. I believe the teacher will handle it as appropriate. Moreover, copying homework will also make people form the habit of dependence and become lazier in their studies. Not only will they not improve their grades, but they will drag their feet.

Don't help if you call.

Every now and then, there will be news about "School Violence" and "school bullying", and I feel sad every time I see it.

Parents send their children to school to learn to be human and learn culture, not to be executioners who hurt people. We don't stop children from making friends, but we just want to expand his circle of friends and enrich his spare time. However, looking at the small groups and isolated classmates on campus today, we have to examine what friends the children have made.

As a student, children can help their classmates with after-school tutoring and cleaning, but they just can't help group fights or bully weak classmates. School is a paradise of youth knowledge, where children should learn books and ink and reject hostility and violence.

Second, do not commit three evils.

1. Don't lose your temper.

Lele, a friend's son, is a typical stubborn child. Every time I go out, Lele can't live without toys, especially Transformers. Although we already have it at home, we still have to let mom and dad buy it home again. In this regard, friends are very helpless!

"Scold also scold, play also play, but the child insisted on buying. He keeps crying when you don't listen, which makes people bored to death, and I don't know which one this stubborn temper has followed. Presumably, this is also a difficult problem that many parents often face, but many times, parents just sum up this phenomenon as "children are too young to understand" and do not face up to the seriousness of the problem.

Children have a stubborn temper and always love to sing against their parents, which shows that children have self-awareness and thinking ability. At this time, if parents indulge blindly and can't patiently correct their children's unreasonable troubles, it will breed the rough growth of their character and thoughts. For example, what they think must be done and what they think must be obtained. Sticking to one's own opinions, only recognizing the truth and not learning to be flexible will not be of any benefit to future study or even future work.

2. Don't be spoiled

I took the bus a few days ago, and I remember something that happened on the bus.

That night was the rush hour, and the bus was very crowded. During this time, I walked in front of my mother and daughter. After a while, that's about 7? The 8-year-old girl shouted, "I don't like too many people. It's too crowded here." Then she cried. Girl mother coaxed, "it's time to get off work. There are too many people who help. Just wait and get off! " ! The girl refused, still crying: "I want to get off. The mother, who was helpless to her daughter, still took her daughter off at the next stop.

People say children talk nonsense, just listen, but I don't think so. At present, the economic level is relatively high, and there are only one or two children at home, so raising children is very spoiled. However, this concern was rewarded by a spoiled child. Shout tired when you go out for two steps, help your mother sweep the floor and run out, and shout smelly when you encounter dirty spots ... What can you expect from a child who can't bear hardships when he grows up?

You know, it is no problem for a child to be spoiled before he is three years old, but after this age, he will become arrogant, unreasonable and selfish. Moreover, in the face of setbacks and difficulties in life, he only wants to escape and let his parents help him solve the dilemma. He is a lazy man, who only knows how to enjoy and doesn't know how to pay.

3. Don't be stingy

We often say that sharing is a virtue, and children know how to share, which is a kind expression. But in the eyes of some parents, children are only smart if they are stingy, so that they will not suffer. Sometimes, it is understandable that children are smart, but they are too smart to lose a penny, so they become haggle over every ounce.

For children, sharing is a glue of happiness, wisdom and friendship. With it, life will be warmer, thoughts will be more open and friendship will be stronger. A child who can only do small calculations will not feel the happiness of being kind to others, let alone know how to share and enrich. Some are just narrow-minded and difficult to broaden their horizons.

There is an old saying: "A small house is too small, but a big house is too big. You must give up and get it. Don't force it! There is no such thing as free food and drink in this world. If you want something, you must learn to give up first.

Third, don't make three friends.

1. A rocking boat

Much ado about nothing, out of nothing. Such people like to spread rumors and sow discord. I will chat with them when I am in a good mood. When things don't go well, just shake out a few embarrassing things and add fuel to the fire, which leads to things developing in a very bad direction.

These people are usually heartless, and it doesn't matter to spread rumors in front of anyone. Gossip is the most hurtful, hurting individuals, children and families. Remember, the other side of much ado about nothing is meanness, selfishness and doing whatever you want. These things are engraved in your bones and dripping in your blood. If there are such people around your child, try to avoid them. I believe not many people want to be with them.

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2. Two-faced

There is a kind of person who likes to tell people what to do and is dissatisfied with all kinds of things. He can't wait for you to wear shoes every day, but once you give him some small favors, he will start to change his attitude towards you and treat you twice as well. Such people have no principles of their own. It is very likely that others will give him some petty profits, and he will choose to betray his friends and family.

Don't be nice to such people, if you are not careful, you will be stabbed in the back by him. Most people who are easy to be bought are short-sighted, only paying attention to some short-term interests and not considering long-term problems. A villain's face will only make people feel sick.

3. Bullying the poor and bullying the weak

I don't know when the friendship between gentlemen turned into a joke. I don't want my children to be poor and love wealth, and I don't want them to lose the most basic morality because of money. Tell your child that if you have such a person around you, you must stay away from him as soon as possible!

Good parents are learned, and good children are taught. There are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can't teach well. Education has a long way to go. Don't think about it overnight. Keep patience and confidence, and your child will achieve something one day.